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i used do the same smash up the house too! XKLX

as your son is 14 years old which is difficult tough time/period to try and go through with raging hormones everywhere and physical ,emotional changes messing everything up completely! without adding the complication of his conditions to this situation makes an 'explosion mixture' he may need a shower timetable /rota to help prompt /remind him of what NEEDS to happen as personal hygiene issue here! most teens don't want to shower does he seem depressed to you? as anger can show itself physically but depression can be hidden lurking in background behind it as the not wanting to shower and getting aggressive /violent towards you! i can empathise/sympathise and i was your son i was physically aggressive/violent police having to be called threatened my mum with kitchen knife to her throat and used have arguements over not wanting a bath /shower regularly but feels like parents moaning,nagging and feel 'what for'! has your son been on any meds at all? do you your wife or your son recieve any help and support from outside services? MH services? etc XKLX

me ,my dad and twin (deafblind) brother went on train from kettering (where we live) to market harborough which only takes 9 mins to get there on train and straight forward road and walk into town centre my dad is teaching us independence skills to both of us so we know how to use trains where to get off go etc so we know what to expect to prepare us we starting off with a small journey with both of us and working our way to more challenging journeys i would like to try leicester maybe next which is the next train stop along from market harborough then i like to do 2 stops along which is nottingham i think good plan of action to tackle and then maybe other areas such as skeggie , seaside places with friends and then visit to hertfordshire visit my dad's sister ( my auntie) in stevenage but this be rather difficult complex as requires two changes of train and involves st pancreas and kings cross two busy manic undergrounds and don't know if my disabled railcard applies to these london areas /systems? trying to build up so get confident secure familiar .... what do you think to this plan?! i going to get my railcard sorted tomorrow i hope so get this plan going as soon as poss the better as getting bored stiff stuck here doing same thing all time want to get away escape sometimes not be held down trapped! XKLX

i been docs today i had to book an appointment to have bloods taken from the nurse next thursday at 1.45pm then after i had them taken week after go back and see doctor to discuss results of bloods and see what action needs to be taken next... he said the pill maybe a idea and an anti depressant together as feel depressed and cry all time when on he reckons last time i had bloods 3 years ago my hormone levels were normal XKLX

have you looked into the possibility of social anxiety disorder which is common with A.S? and anx can make you feel neausea XKLX

i got an appointment next tues as i'm now busy with the fam on weds so now rearrange appointment for next wk instead! XKLX

does anyone BINGE eat when 'on' as time of month takes over my will power on this ive read it give you more energy sugar levels etc but seems to over eat way more as been doing so well normally just time of the month i struggle to hold back on food and scared i'll put on the weight again? is it just me or does anyone else find this difficult? could this be all connected with anaemia and heavy blood loss etc? XKLX

i try book docs appointment for weds after i have weight nurse explain how being 'on' makes me feel yukky horrid etc will they take bloods see if i am anaemic? could i be anaemic all time or just when i'm on? thanks for all your advice /help! mumble- sorry if repeated myself i forgot i put this on here a while ago! XKLX

i have HEAVY periods not being too descriptive but to prove how bad this is i have to wear night time towels all time and this doesn't cover /protect me alot of time my knickers get spoilt ruined messed up i have to wear 2/3 towels overlapping eachother all time and keep constantly checking quite often so annoying frustrating not only that but during period i get tired (lack of energy),weak,feel need to eat all time ( choc,crisps) ,feel faint/dizzy/light-headed,tearful/depressed ( but don't know if more than usual) hard to know on that one i say yes but still as living with AS makes feel teary/depressed alot anyway! i have backache,headache i feel sick (nausea) , have severe cramping /bleeding/bloating ( weight gain) ,i ache all over restless in bed hot and cold etc the list endless get irratable with myself mainly when 'time of month' i looked up on google and said could be iron deficienty anaemia or signs are close with PMT/PMS so should i go docs get checked out further? as driving me mad? feel so worn out run down like i sleep all time .... HELP ME PLEASE!!!? i feel on edge all time incase extreme bleeding runs through clothing due light colouring of it like blue jeans , or that run out of towels or that don't have enough on me i worry /anxious all time about this! i fit signs for both probs should i wrote a list should show the doc? xKLX

do you see a pyschtrist /pyschologist? what meds have you been on or are on? sounds like you need HELP! ASAP! hope you get it! as sounds URGENT desperate! XKLX

i can totally relate to what you have so expressively described how you feel etc mine started at around 14-16ish and feel exactly the same i was put on risperdal (risperdone) didn't work for me! and i've had CBT after i was diagnosed soon after by clincial pyschologist at CAMHS who diagnosed me and i having CBT now by NAS pyschologist sometimes i stick on negative comment/critism that has been said and replays constantly around your head you have described it so well of how it actually is! just wanted say you ARE NOT ALONE! it is scary and you feel so out of control when it happens frightened .... feels like no-one truly understands what you trying so hard to put into words describe how it is! i found so difficult but you;ve done so well in explaining the MH situation i think common MH feeling it is like anxiety/stress pyschosis as i hearing voices before felt suicidal depressed so easy slip down that route without really fully knowing how you got there or why! get so lost confused and frustrated! i would ring youngminds or your doc and explain are you seeing MH team/service? XKLX

i had direct payments for NAS support i recieved i had keep proof of receit records and also had a form from the government which was lengthly and complicated which confused and frustrated the amount of detail i had to give i found so hard to understand i explained to NAS in great detail how i couldn't do direct payments as i have dyspraxia and struggle greatly with maths sums anything involving money etc made my anxiety stress levels high! was making me ill not great system invented for someone witth AS and dyspraxia! what a joke! they oviously don't get it! trying make them see! they need a easier system and not expect us to keep records! or book keep! as like running your own business what they asking me to do! i got sick of it fed up of paperwork! that come with direct payments gave up in the end! couldn't be doing with it! such stupid system my parents were angry annoyed and couldn't see the point of giving me a system i couldn't handle work or understand the concept of it! XKLX

with anxiety depression social anx etc obsessive thoughts - parexotine helped me loads ease the load off my world my shoulders i felt sigh of relief i felt so 'different' freerer magic meds was best meds i ever been put on thinking about going back on them as stopped taking them without docs knowing ages ago but feel may need a input to lift me up again as 'slipping down' falling off the edge ....

my pyschologist tells me i do who i am and i do have sense of identity but i feel i don't! XKLX

i feel identity crisis is can be made worse fueled by MH issues such as depression,anxiety or low self - esteem/confidence anyone else agree - feels this way too? XKLX

even with me having an 'official diagnosis of A.S' i feel have 'no sense of who i am' - no sense of real identity! seems common theme/feeling with us aspies! don't know why maybe because our AS world surrounds confusion,frustration etc struggle make sense of 'everything' around us our life 'norm' world XKLX

i feel 'left behind' as compare myself to my friends all time always feel several steps behind .... which frustrating frame of mind be in can be upsetting overwhelming sense of defeat that A.S has control power and has won the FIGHT of mind and life!makes you more glum and depressed like never ending vicious circle! XKLX

i feel 'left behind' as compare myself to my friends all time always feel several steps behind .... which frustrating frame of mind be in can be upsetting overwhelming sense of defeat that A.S has control power and has won the FIGHT of mind and life!makes you more glum and depressed like never ending vicious circle! XKLX

my childhood experience of undx AS at the time was socially being in a world of my own shut off from everyone my peers like in my onw bubble spending my lunchtime in juniors school with adults 4 dinnerladies i felt safer more protected and understood better i was bullied for years for not 'fitting in right' for being 'different' and taken advantage of because i was 'vulnerable' i felt so lost confused ,frustrated even as a little girl i remember keeping asking myself why i could stop change what things happened situations why felt so powerless so out of control and felt so isolated and ALONE in every sense of the world i used to get upset lots didn't find reason behind why either i used think it was my fault 'just me' my family has always know there something else other than just 'dyspraxia' being present something else in background lurking as dyspraxia didn't add up everything some signs that my mum saw was missing from dyspraxia. felt was fighting ,taking on the world trying to explain myself as a child nothing made sense i tried to explain things just come to confusion once again. i was happy child in infants as i was unaware of anything but as years moved on i could see the massive gaping gaps in between i felt like i didn't belong and didn't know who i really was scary place to be i just wanted answers to why! it like trying walk round in the fog and rain all time so tiring even as a child ... i felt 'weak' even childhood friends comment on 'differences' as naughty disruptive which hurts even now as i misunderstood lack of 'real' action of support back then was real battle/struggle to even survive mainstream so hard/difficult my childhood friends don't realise havn't got a clue what the reality was like for me everyday! XKLX

i would seriously think about contacting NAS and getting some support in place so he can learn build on the skills he struggles with find hard to face XKLX

the doom and gloom of life - may be depression? may need looking into both anxiety and depression? i would go to his GP? i would also approach NAS too!

any chance you could ring his old employer as he was so understanding due to his own situation and may work togther on action plan? get him work placement back where he used to work or he could volunteer? do you think there possibility he is depressed/anxious (combination of the two) which is common btw! XKLX

just wondering where my post is about 'my 21st garden party' next saturday i posted it yestoday don't understand where it has gone to? or if it has been removed why it has? can someone inform me further on this matter please?! XKLX

is what i wrote any help or make any sense of your son's situation of what could be going on or how he could be feeling?

is it anxiety/depression related the lack of mot ,sleeping all day employment 'the world of work' is BIG JUMP /step from the life and routine of school/education maybe he gone into retreat as he in panic/scared mode and doesn't know how to cope or ask for help so he express in running in opposite direction as he can't faced overwhelming responsibility has frightened him have you tried contact the NAS for support or advice on your son's situation? also have you approached his employer about meeting up with him and both expressing your concerns and also make a action plan to make it easier for your son to meet expectations sounds like he struggling to manage with work life such as new environment ,new colleagues and high possibilty scared him into a corner and now he doesn't know what to do how to help himself out of it. he has gone quick from going from school to work and he probably feels lost confused etc is there no way your son can do odd days then work on building it up to more once he comfortable and settled maybe he needs step away and do little steps at time better than nothing so doing couple days a week work his way up if he feel ready? i know i struggled to get my head around the gap between education world and work world is totally different in every way ... so he probably trying find his feet and trying to understand concepts of the way of work compared to what his routine responsibility at school ... sounds like he freaked out completely and thrown into turmoil and make sense of everything all changes he having to make sense of. sounds like trying to 'shut employment' out of his world so he doesn't have to face up to it or adjust accept that he an adult and responsibility comes with that. hard enough for anyone but someone with A.S twice as hard! XKLX