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Dont really think its down to the credit crunch but one thing that really gets me re cares allowance is this.If you work in a school which gives you all the non school time with your child and earn �96 per week during term time but only �48 during holidays they only pay carers allance during the holidays as the cut off figure is �95 per week.I think it should be taken as a yearly figure. After all if i earn the same per year as someone else and spend all holidays,ect with my child how is it fare that they get it and i cant,when their child is with childminders.

Ht should not talk about anything personal and i would ask what WAS said. Could it be that the HT was trying to defend him by saying he is not deliberatly behaving this way .that he has problems with social interaction.The HT may have hoped for some understanding. IF the HT did talk out of term i would defo make a complaint.

Well i have had to fight for everything and still do with the exception of CAMHS.Yes we waited ages for an appointment in fact they said they wouldnt see her as she was showing signs of aspergers However one really bad day two yrs ago i rang in tears and said i need you to see my daughter now.The CP said i will get yr case out and call back she rang 10mins latter and gave us an appointment for the same week.She still sees T and shes amazing when everythink builds up i ring her and shes so supportive.I think a lot depends on who gets yr case.

There is no way we can not punish for hitting anyone teacher or anyone.However im getting increasingly frustrated with this school system where one size fits all.If he is upset enough about assembly to hit the teach why has no-one thought dont take him in.If he misses assembly whats the problem???????????its far better to have him calm.The child cant learn if he is so stressed as to hit out. Sorry to rant but i dont get why schools force these things.T is likely to be moving to a unit due to this kind of thoughtless attitude when with a little understanding and adjustment she could stay at the local school. Its just to much like hard work for them.I agree he needs to know not to hit but school need to take away the thing causeing him to hit.

Were told T would never get a statement as she is accademic and so didnt fit the criteria.three yrs of battles and she got a statement 25hrs 1-1,now they say its not enough and she needs a specialist unit place.Go with your heart if you feel she need it fight for it. I cant understand the pead 3yrs is crazy. We have drop in sessions held locally were parents can see camhs and refere their child,there is a waiting list for appointments but not for the drop in which takes place every week.I think it may help you to see if there is such a thing local to you your GP should know.

T has been spaced out most of the week(half term)but the headaches have reduced.I really think its stress with her.If only i know how to help. Hope your boy settles down over the hols.

T had these she now gets migrain.Shes had a lot the past few weeks daily almost,we had to take her for blood tests on tuesday.I think its stress induced with t

Ts first EP report said that there was nothing wrong with R other than her over protective mom.It also stated school have not requested my input as T has no problems in school,her mother requested my input as she feels T has difficultys,neither school nor i are aware of any problems. I refused to allow this women to see T again and complained to her boss who came to my house to see me.I made sure i had letters from the Pead,school and CAMHS ready for her visit. The EP was replaced very soon after.We had no probs with her replacement who got T a statment with no problems after two years of us battling to get her support.

note of caution be carefull you dont have to pay back overpayment.We did DH got a pay rise we informed them ASAP and they sent me a big cheque i rang to say its been sent by mistake and returned the money.After that my payments went silly as when they worked it out again they realised THEY had made a mistake and payed to much. I would wait until DLA is sorted.

Lyn i would be interested in yr study can you send me details we are in Birmingham Toria is 13 in june.

thank you all so much for your help. Lucas i agree with you that bullys should be stopped and not just classed as kids being kids. Toria will say she doesnt like the girls in her class,but not why.The information about kids laughing at her came from a friends mom.the school have acted and are on the whole supportive,yet they said they are mainstream and try as they do they are not specalists.I am looking at two units today but to be honest the only one with a space is to far 13miles. My dd is my world i cant stand the thought of kids being nasty when all she does is worry about doing the wrong thing.She a loving girl but she so doesnt understand teenage behaviour.last night she was in our garden with my friends dd.A boy in the garden behind was flirting with them my dd came to me and said mom C is being nasty,i asked why she said he said Hellloo,my friends DD said no tor his not being nasty he is flirting.She stormed off and said C go get a friend dont flirt. C laughed which made me mad so i went out and told him to stop looking over my fence and to leave my dd alone. I have tried to explain flirting but she said its silly why not just say i like you,why pretend not to??????? why play fight ?????????. As for buses she cant cope with not knowing who will be getting on /off the bus.she fine on a coach.

We are in the same situation.I only wish i knew the answers.

Hi, I hope no-one will mind me asking but i really need advice. My Dd is 12 and in mainstream school with 1-1 support. She doesnt acknowledge other students in her class.She does have a couple of friends in her yr and a few friends that are a few yrs older. Her one friend has brain damage due to an accident her other friend has been her friend all through school.I belive this friend also has a learning difficulty.It was brought to my attention by my DDs friend mom that other kids laugh at T and her friends and say it because she has a disability. I was extreamly upset by this and have been concidering if mainstream is the best place for my Dd. My question is how did you manage to get through school into adult life,learn to cross the road ,to get on transport and all the other thing NT teenagers do. I am desperate to do the right thing but im also aware that she has differant social needs and i want to understand the best way of helping without causeing even more anxiety. Thanks Tsmom

We tried a massage chair,R was screaming she hated it.She said it felt like someone was moving behind her.

Cat what a lovely idea.

So very sorry Mrs P Love to you and yr boys

I can only talk for myself and i understand that residential is the best for some children,but i would hate the idea of T been sent away i know it would be the worst thing for all of us. Saying there is no provision is not good enough If he has not been assessed how can anyone say that his need cant be meet?they havent looked at his needs. I belive every child should be able to have their needs meet and live at home in a safe stable family if the child and family feel thats the best thing for the family as a whole. I would look and make note good and bad that way if you/he dont feel happy you have jusified reasons for saying no,i think if you dont look they powers that be will say you didnt listen

Iv done this a few times.I think its hard seeing negative things and i also think for me its realisation of how much time iv spent fighting a system when i should have been enjoying my child. <'> <'> <'> I hope a cry helps give yr little one an extra big hug tonight knowing that all that paperwork is there because you care and you fought(still fight)his corner.

Our private S&L test was done over 2 sessions each lasting 1hr.I would be asking to ensure the therapist is experienced in asd. good luck <'>

Is the new GP at your practice?Is he/she going to refere you to someone that can help you now?

<'> <'> <'> Your not depressing anyone we are hear to listen thats what friends are for.

Matt,The first GP i saw with regard to my daughter was useless he made me feel like i was wanting her to have asd.Yet the school were saying try once more if he wont help we will seek help from the school dr.I went back and insisted he refere her(i had already rang the hospital to ask who would be best person to refere her to)He did refere her but as i walked out he said Mrs ** i hope you will be happy with the outcome,its a slippery slope and once you start down it you can only go lower with no point of return.I was so upset i cried for days.Then as school got outside people in to assess i realised i had to fight for her so i rang the hospital and talked to the secretary who said up to 2 years wait.i then ran twice a week asking if there had been any canceled appointments.After 3 months the secratary rang she said i know how desperate you are someone has cancelled but you need to be here in an hour.I got T out of school and went.Two hour appointment and i left with a SALT appointment for the following week to return to the Pead a month latter .She then got all the info from school and SALT and gave us a DX. I no longer have that GP Getting the Dx was far worse than i thought it would be,i thought help would follow it didnt we have fought every step of the way. Mumble i totally agree with you on self dx and i didnt think you were being unfair with regard to dyslexia/adhd.I have a son who has dyspraxia. i also run a local supprt group for kids with sen/disabilites,a few people have come through the group who say my child has XYZ then after spending time with them its very clear parenting is a huge problem(thats not to say they dont have ADHD ect i would never dx or say someong doesnt have a need).We get a lot of funding and i think word gets round that we take the kids out of day trips ect and some people want to be part of it.We now only take kids with an offical dx,people are welcome to attend supprt group meeting whilst obtaining a Dx but not access funding.

Matt, I can understand why you are so hurt,but i think you would be best to not contact him for a while. Leave it a week then text a simple hi how ya doing? As others have said loves a strange thing.The BF sounds a nasty piece of work with a bit of time and space yr friend will see that for himself.The more we tell people someones bad for them it often pushes them together.Also be careful not to say much to joint friends as other people can make things worse. sorry this is happening to you its very hard but you have friends on here who understand and care yr not alone <'> <'>

thinking of you <'>

Im so very very sorry. <'> <'>