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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team

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  1. Burning problems

    Hi everyone, HUGE Thanks to all of you for your replies and advice. I've tried all of the suggestions that you've made, which is why its taken me a while to get back on here, and I'm still getting the same result. I've tried everything you good people mentioned and I've come to the conclusion that another program is interrupting when I'm trying to copy a DVD. Either that or a recent "security update" for winnders-bl**ding -XP has banjaxed something. I'm currently step-by-step uninstalling recent downloads and updates to see if I can get a result that way. Funny thing is, copying video CDs works fine on the same burning drive! Duh? I've put my DVDRW into my son's PC and it burns fine, although v-e-r-y s-l-o-w-l-y. Son's DVDRW drive has same probs in my machine as my drive had. It reads DVDs well enough to play the movies, but gets interrupted when reading to burn. now off to hit it wiv a big stick!
  2. Burning problems

    Hi, I do a lot of DVD burning and have hit a problem thats driving me barmy (And that doesn't take much). For no apparent reason, every time I try to copy a DVD with Nero6 Digital, or Ashampoo Burning studio 6, all starts well, then I get an error message stating "cannot read source disk" or words to that effect. It happens at different stages of reading each disk and yet last week I could copy any disk at all. I've tried uninstalling and re-installing both burning software suites, same result. Both burners will burn DVDs from my own video files stored on me hard drive, but won't copy a damned bl**dy thing. ######! Can anyone help please? I'm not a complete novice, but I'm not a (for want of a better phrase) Techie. Could something else I'm running be interrupting the burning process? All the DVD's I'm trying to copy play perfectly in WMP and Nero MP (and on my 3 PS2s and 2 stand-alone DVD players. I need to copy loads of DVDs as I'm forever shooting vids of the kids to send to various relatives up and down the country. I also do a lot of video work (free of charge) for my daughter's Primary School. Xmas plays, special assemblies etc and I'm getting snowed under because I can't copy the DVDs. Nearly forgot, I've tried 3 different DVD drives and 2 different DVD writers in my PC with same results - no cucking fopies.
  3. Autism T shirts

    Just taken a look, VERY Impressive! Many thanks for posting this here!
  4. Fairplay For All

    Hi, we had similar, but fundamentally different, problem a few years ago. When eldest was born, we had 2 dogs. when eldest was 3 months old, we had 9 dogs (both parents and 7 pups!) we didn't know biggun was AS/ADHD at the time, and we kept the only pup that biggun would permit on his lap, as we thought that there was already a bond between them. As the next 2 years unfolded, we had to re-home the female dog as she snapped at biggun. Unfortunately, the old male dog died (well he was 15 years old). Life went on, daughter arrived following year, Biggun was Dx'd 2 years ago. around the time of DX, biggun was having trouble at school, bullying, incapable teacher (being very polite and generous here - oh,sod it!, the man was an arrogant pig, a coward too - but that's another story) etc. Anyway, one evening, biggun collapses in floods of tears and when calmed down said that he was sad and upset because he was missing 'Rebel' (the old male dog who died when Barry was 2). So, after many family pow-wows, we decided to get Barry a puppy, which we duly did. Barry chose his 'own' pup from a litter of 6, he named him 'Rebel' (surprise, surprise!), and we all trotted off home. Next morning all hell broke loose, Barry & Rhiannon had a MAJOR fight. Cause? "She was trying to fuss MY dog!". Upshot? we went back to the chap who had the pups and fetched another one home , for Rhiannon. Both kids refer to respective dogs as "mine", but Wifey Linda has to feed and exercise them all! I wouldn't advise this course of action for everyone, you really have to be very 'in' to dogs - our 3 poochies live as members of the family, always indoors and sharing bedrooms with us and the kids- but it was our way out of the problem we had. Also, on a cautionary note, Dogs, along with most other 'pack' animals, can often sense when a human has a problem (physical like a broken leg,or mental like AS). whilst most dogs will respond positively by 'loving' "their"human, the pack animal instincts can cause some dogs to attack the 'weakend/sick' person. we believe this is what our female dog did to biggun, which is why she was re-homed and not put down.
  5. Legoland

    MMO means 'Massive Multiplayer Online', usually tagged onto , as you correctly guessed, 'Role Playing Game'
  6. Hi

    We had Barry diagnosed on the NHS. His School was concerned and gave us a letter to take to our GP, who was a tremendous help. He referred us to the Bethel child and family centre in Norwich, where after 2 0r 3 visits with a psychology Nurse, we got to see the psychologist Dr Rini Hooegkamer (apologies to him for probable miss-spelling) He diagnosed Barry and was incredibly down to earth about how he had come to his conclusions, (even giving us an impromptu chemistry lesson to explain how taking omega 3 supplements would help Barry (and myself)). All in all it took nearly a year to get to this stage, but help and advice from the professionals and from people on this , and other, forums kept us going. I appreciate that you need a fairly speedy dx, but we are still learning about Barry's condition after 3 years, so a note of caution here, you may find out from the professionals that there is more than just Asperger's in the mix. We found out from the Bethel Centre that Barry also has ADHD, and that there may be other things which will 'come out' as he gets older, so it really is a constant learning curve! Hope some of this helps and good luck! PS for anyone who lives near Norwich and can, get a referral to the Bethel Centre from your GP, Highly recommended!
  7. i dont even want to go on

    Hang in there Pingu, I have constant pain myself because of a spinal injury and I can be a right Nazi at times, I don't know how my missus hasn't shot me before now! Like yourself, she's the strong one who keeps us going, without her, our family would be in serious trouble. Our thoughts are with you.
  8. What schooling for ASD?

    Hi, I voted 'mainstream mainly satisfied', but feel that this needs clarification, so here goes: Barry is in his final year at Primary School. The small village we live in has a small (50-60 pupils) school, who have been excellent with Barry, and supportive to both him and to ourselves as a family. BUT... Our local High School don't seem to want Barry as a pupil because he has 'violent outbursts' mentioned in his 'statement'. The High School SENCO seemed horrified that her cosy little world might get disrupted by a 'violent' pupil! The High School have never met or even seen Barry, but his statement has got them panicking and running for the excuse cupboard! So much for trying to place him with what few friends he has got! However, there is another high School quite close to us, who have an excellent record on 'special needs' education, so we are about to visit them and see what they have to offer Barry. If this School turns out like the local one, then it will be Home Edding for us, and stuff the LEA!
  9. adult diagnosis

    Hi, hope everyone has enjoyed their festivities without too much stress! I'm curious as to how I would go about getting myself diagnosed for Asperger's, how do I go about it? My 10 year old son Barry has ADHD and Asperger's, and I see a lot of his traits in my own behaviour. Also, as other people have already said, it would explain rather a lot about my past! Any info will be gratefully received, and I wish you all a very Happy, Healthy and Prosperous New Year!
  10. Assessment tests used in diagnosis

    Hi everyone, we live in Norfolk, kids attend a little village school. School reported problems with Barry so Our GP had referred us to a local Child & Family support centre in Norwich, where Barry was assesssed firstly by Phsychiatric nurse, then by Consultant Phsychologist Dr Rini Hoekamer, who made the diagnosis after observing Barry (several visits) and both School and ourselves used questionnaires, I think they are called Connor's,(or something like). The LEA child phsychologist visited School and observed Barry in Class, dining room and playground, all done with FULL consultation with us, and reported his findings.After receiving the report, we then had to take Barry round to see several specialists who advise the LEA .This was quite upsetting for Barry as it wasn't "His" doctor, and we had taken him to "strange (new)" places, which always disturbs him. This all resulted firstly in Barry's diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome, and ADHD, both moderately severe, (By Dr Hoekamer) and then the LEA 'statemented' Barry based on the diagnosis and their own observations and our visits to their specialists. I hope that some of this helps and I'm aware that not all Schools are as open and co-operative as was Barry's. I really do think that having a forward-looking Head Teacher has helped both Barry and us as a family. To anyone who comes into contact with the Bethel Centre in Norwich I would say don't be cautious, they are brilliant, brilliant people as well as being damned good at their jobs. Be as honest with your answers as you can be, holding a point of view back defeats the object, and can really make things worse. I know that its very tough and sometimes heartbreaking to tell an "outsider"(i.e. Doctor) aspects of your family life, but it really does pay to be honest with yourself and the professionals who are assessing your case. I had a great deal of difficulty coming to terms with Barry's behaviour, as it was mostly manifested at School, not in the home.It was a real shock when I first saw Barry go nuclear, I cried afterwards, but it opened my eyes to something that I had been in denial about, and I had been quite obstructive towards the School up until that point.( I thought they were talking rubbish). Linda and myself are being as open as possible about Barry's AS & ADHD with both family and friends, we truly believe that the more open we are, the more people will find out about these conditions. Ignorance is not bliss, it's unforgivable. crikey! that turned into a bit of an essay, sorry folks!
  11. I am fuming

    As someone said, not the outcome we'd hoped for, but let's hope Annie and her family can put this behind them and get on with enjoying life. Good luck to you and yours, Annie!! Also, lets hope that the School staff involved get festering insides for the rest of their miserable lives-######!
  12. I am fuming

    Hi Annie, any news?
  13. Introductions!!

    Cheers Martian, thanks for the invite to jockland, but last time I checked the forecast map, my house was overlooking the beach instead of being 6 miles inland, so i think I will stay here and catch up on my fishing!
  14. Statementing

    Hey, everyone, some good news! We received Barry's "Statement" of special education needs recently, He's now going to get one-on-one in class assistance! Yeeeeeeeeee-haaaa! His primary school have been excellent with him, can't praise them enough, especially now that the Class "Teacher", who gave my boy problems for months has been showed the door, partially due to our complaints about the fool! DOUBLE YeeeeeeeeeeeeeeHAAAAA!
  15. Introductions!!

    Welcome, Martian from (near) Glasgow. Are there many of you foreigners in Scotland then? (just joking!) This is the place to be if you have any Aspergers/ASD probs, the people on here are a fantastic, knowledgeable and sympathetic bunch, wot more can I say? This forum Rocks! A warm welcome to all new members !
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