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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team


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  1. Anger in ASD individuals

    I have been posting on ASD boards for over 8 years and there is so much pent up anger in some individuals. I try and support others but it becomes a drain on one self sometimes, It leaves me feeling like I have done something wrong when I make a couple of contributions to a member's thread when they are crying out for support and I don't get acknowledged. I have been a moderator on different sites for many years but the pressure becomes to much when people start getting angry. Some people keep taking and not giving anything back so then it get's unhealthy. I do try very hard to be supportive but suffering with depression myself makes it difficult at times. I have all the respect in the world for the mods here. Is it just me being sensitive or do others agree? Paul
  2. 'Milking' a disability

    Willow, Just ignore there stupid negative comments! You give me inspiration and it's very nice to see such a positive person educating others and trying to help others. I know that there's not much return from book sales and also know how much it cost's to run a website, In all honesty I hope in the future that you can make loads of money because if you do you would of worked hard for that cash and you deserve it all. Some people just get jealous in life, Ignore them. It's really lovely to see couples like you and Chris. Please carry on making you tube videos, I like watching them and they give me hope.
  3. Bit of reality check for all of us.

    That's an excellent post, Well here's my contribution even if I'm a man! (IE man comment regarding the hugs) ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
  4. Bit of reality check for all of us.

    Sorry for also going off topic in your thread Matzoball, I was not aiming nothing towards you and just wanted to say I also value your posts.
  5. Bit of reality check for all of us.

    People should be allowed to have their own opinions, make their own spelling mistakes and explain things from their own perspective unless of course there is racism, homophobia or there is a personal attack on another person. but you don't have to read or reply to it. I'm with you all the way on this one oakers.
  6. And me too.

    Thanks goodness for that. I was worried as you didn't acknowledge my post in your thread but then again I do get a bit paranoid at times. hehehe
  7. And me too.

    I think you're need to elaborate a bit more as I'm also new and I'm wondering if I have done something wrong without realizing? I do apologize in advance if I have.
  8. I come back, got some news just need a little bit of support

    That's good news that your sister has been allowed home, I hope your sister is offered counselling and the right support to help her come to terms and deal with her very tragic loss, Other members of the family including your self might also need some support. My grandson passed away over a year a go and I still need the occasional bit of support, It's not very easy and time is a healer however your sister will never forget and will need your and your families support for many years, Again I'm really sorry for your families loss. It's great that you have learnt to use the samaritans, I have been using them for years and they really help me to offload, I hope this is also the case for yourself.
  9. leaving the cul-de-sac

    It's been a pleasure reading your positive post's for so many years, It's sad to see you go, I hope that things here improve and that one day you might return, You have touched my life with your positive nature and post's and your heart felt post today, I agree that years a go this was a happier forum, Hopefully we can turn that around as there are so many in desperate need of support. Places like this are a lifeline for many and I'm sure you have helped many people over the years, I know you have helped me for which I appreciate, Because of the brilliant support that has been here from members like you for years the board that I used to co administrate have been directing people here as that board is only for AS adults and not for carer's or parents of children with asd. Once again ty for your excellent contributions you will be missed, take care. Paul
  10. Depression - What triggers it?

    Ty Merry that's so kind of you. I always have good intention's and try and help people but misunderstandings always seem to happen on autism forums due to the nature of our disability (well I think autism is a disability but not all would agree). Back when I was in better health I used to be one of the top posters on another forum that I'm a member off but I spend more time reading post's these days, I want to post more but have low self esteem and I'm always worried that my post's might upset, My support worker asked me yesterday of 2 positive things I have done this week and I couldn't think of 1 thing, That made me realise how bad my depression is at the moment, I have very little confidence at the moment but like to try and help others as it takes the focus away from my health problems. I never used to like Christmas or my birthdays but this year I really appreciated Christmas and celebrated that I was still here, I hope that I'm still here for next Christmas as I don't want my family to go through heart ache and especially my 12 year old daughter who has aspergers as I love her dearly and don't want her to be upset but my health is slowly getting worse, It's a shame that I have so much comprehension as I realise this which just makes depression harder to deal with, I love being around my family but often wonder if I should move out as it's not fair that they are also noticing that my health is gradually getting worse so it must be very difficult for them. Having HFA I have always had to fight much harder then NT's have to too get the same rights so I'm used to fighting so there's no way I'm giving up despite how much rubbish life throws at me, I will go out kicking.
  11. Depression - What triggers it?

    I was agreeing with you and well done on losing weight. I weigh over 23 stone and I hate that fact and it does have an impact on my depression, I did lose some weight in the summer but now I'm putting twice as much back on due to the steroids that I have to take for my COPD. I'm trying hard to lose weight as a doctor told me and my family that I could die anyday, I have never been really skinny but was never this big, Problems started in 1997 when I was put on lots of medication but then I got bowel problems and also swelling in my legs and an extended stomach probably due to heart failure. I don't think eating healthy and exercising will completely take away my depression but it does help a lot, For years now I have to take day by day as I can't focus on the future. Sorry if I come across wrongly. I hate that it's so frustrating. I used to be perfect with everything not many years a go but my thinking has got a lot slower these days and I often make mistakes that I'm not aware of straight away, I often call people here where I live the the wrong names (my family) and often people can't understand what I'm saying, I never used to be like that..
  12. Depression - What triggers it?

    I have been in a bad way with my depression recently, I have been hiding away from everybody, Eating fast food and goodies because it's easier and comforting, I have had zero contact with the outside world apart from the family I live with. Last couple of days I have been eating really healthy, Fish, veg and plenty of fruit and got out of the house for a walk and a good chat with my support worker and I feel a hundred times better, Have also rung the samaritans and off loaded which has helped a lot, I'm slowly starting to feel like a human being once again. I even managed to wash up today, I hoping to have a bath tomorrow and get out the door again even if I just go for a short drive with the family and see a bit of the outside world which will stop some of the negative thinking that I have been having that I'm totally useless, I'm in people's way and people would be better off without me, I have a doctors appointment on Friday, As much as I hate medication I might have to take some anti depressants as I haven't been in a good place recently and I realize that now.
  13. Depression - What triggers it?

    I think eating a good diet and getting plenty of exercise is a good way to combat depression.