Titan

Glad to see you made some progress hope everything worked out well for your son.

[quotim name=Miemployment post="341687" timestamp="1361611176]Are you working at the moment? What do you think of paid employment? Have youpoverty Hinkseyr ideal career yet? 1 No Im not work 2 I think paid employment is a fine theory but in practice holds no real value unless you are very well paid and can lift yourself out of the poverty trap thats set for the low paid that they cant work themselves out off. 3 No and never will.

You didnt give many details referring to your sons situation physical and mental situation so its hard to help with an opinion without knowing more informative that could give a direction to the situation you are talking about.

My diagnosis needed input from my mother about my childhood as well but if you have needs I cant see that its the only way to get treatment or they are letting you down and putting your health at risk. Have you contacted the general medical council on their failure to find out whats the matter with you. Maybe they could suggest something to you or at least look into why the kind of treatment you needs isnt available to you when you desperately need it.

We certainly couldnt do a worse job could we you just have to look around you to see the destruction those in power create and they claim we have issues. If we could work together and they take notice of our needs and others a better place could be created it wouldnt be perfect but would be a start. We all know its never going to happen because those in power arnt interested in us or others in need. If they did they would find the will and the money to change things. At an instant they find money to fight a war but say they need to make savings in the NHS that saves lives. What better example do we need as to their priorities.

Children definitely need rules the same as children not on the spectrum. Your in the best position to decide what these rules need to be and how to enforce them. The matress for rocking is a very good ideal and having that one place will be of comfort for him I can understand that but all other rules should be followed but constant moderation should be employed as severe stress and anxiets about a situation could instigate a meltdown that will not help the situation. I think your doing fine going by what you said.

I enjoy doing what I feel like at the time I want to do it. Gives you a sense of freedom and control over your own actions.

I think juliap says just about what I would have said if im honest. Being who you want to be is the most important thing in life in my opinion. Be happy do what you feel rights.

I think there are so many portrayals of Aspergers characters that its difficult to get a correct individual that gives a perfect example. Then in real life every Aspie is different you wont find two identical people this adds to the accuracy of fictional charactors as not being portrayed as fact in films or tv shows to those that watch them and have little self knowledge of autism. I think that they do good in showing autistic people but the viewer needs to take it as an ideal of what autism is not take anything as fact. My favourite is Dr Sheldon Cooper in Big Bang as his complete missunderstandings mirror similiar instances in my life but thats just a personal favourite.

Your clearly not alone in what your going through and even though there is as you said little you can do due to your responsibility its good to know there are others that understand and your not on your own and your not being ignored. This is where these forums come into their own purpose in giving support in a way that is difficult to find elsewhere.

There is most certainly life beyond so called death, its related throughout history in many forms since written history began. The best evidence is today though when you experience for yourself these events which cant be denied through evidence. Im pleased to see this topic here and hope to talk to you all in more detail about experiences you have had and your beliefs on life after physical death.

The point is that you cant change peoples minds only be yourself and try not to need others approval to except your condition. In the eyes of the law its a disability and to except your own individuality you need to see they have their point of view be it missguided or not willing to see what it is. You have to find what makes you feel peaceful in your own life I think getting people yo except us is some yearsaway yet.

My bouts of depression are like that they can last a long time then lift a little for no apparent reason im on prescribed medication but they feel at least to have little or no effect they dont create a constant stable pattern of emotion even though ive been taking them for some time. I was wondering whether or not you have been diagnosed medication by your doctor.

I believe it could be a combination of Both of them really ive never had much energy all my life but think this is linked to the depression I suffer with due to trying to compete in an alien world that I dont understand and a world that doesnt wish to try to understand me and we have to try so much harder than others and in most cases we fail to be let into society which others take for granted. From what you said and as you have ruled out other medical reasons to me it would seem to be exhaustion both physically and mentally. What the answer could be im not sure other than slow your life down and take time for yourself to do more that you want to do and rest its a difficult decision but one only you can make.

Im using the name Titan for now as ive just decided to use this forum even though I joined some time ago. I was diagnosed with Aspergers in July 2013 and it has had very negative effects since then. Ive lost my job and sufferd health concerns with depression anxiety and panic attacks worse than I had before I knew the reason for them. My case has shown that people knowing about the condition definitely change their views from just appearing odd to them to not wanting you around when they find out about the real reasonfor acting differently even within your own family. Ive learnt to keep my problems between myself and my doctor and not to bring them too much into the open. I feel ready now to take an active part in the forum and try to make some friends within a group that wont judge me for being different . I look forward to getting to know people here as time goes on.

I'm so sorry to hear of this appalling treatment but its becoming all too common these days thanks to this horrific government. I'm afraid I have little idea of how to help as so far at least I'm one of the lucky ones who has managed to hold down a job. If I find anything out that may help will post it here. I guess you could ask for a mental health assessment if he has threatened to kill himself and present this or if they claim he is fit for work they could be doubting your doctors or consultants professional diagnosis because if he put his symptoms and ability a of the diagnosis on an application form that would show how much help he needs. Not much help I know but will keep looking and if anything else comes to mind will post. It.

Thanks for the advice there will have a look at the author and have a look at the book it sounds a good place to begin. I don't think there is a lot of help for people even after a diagnosis but I feel that to know for sure will be of great help for me. Some people don't need to know I mean I know I have it but there's part of me needs that confirmation for peace but everyone's different.

Hello there Yes it's very important to give as much help and advice as possible its good to have an account of behaviours and specific needs and requirements. I was never diagnosed and had a life that I never fitted in and had lots of problems that I couldn't ever sort out on my own. It's good your doing so much and getting a lot of help and advice its invaluable. Life can be good and doesn't have to be as bad as mine and with the help your getting your child will have a good life. It's important just to be how you are don't push too hard as it was trying to be what I couldn't be that caused all my problems well most of them.

I would say that your just being honest. People have to except that mistakes are made and being truthful is the best policy. The only people that can't benefit from the truth are those that really do have bad things to hide or embarrassing things they are ashamed of.

How can telling the truth be wrong in any situation. Social skills are important but is it important to tell lies to somebody just to fit in. I believe the truth is the truth and if anyone can't tolerate that they have to look at themselves for the reason.

Hello Object. I'm new here as well, I'm still waiting to be diagnosed but my doctor thinks I have the traits and it needs to be investigated. Glad to meet you look forward to talking with you here.

I'm new to the site, I'm undergoing a test for Aspergers I'm currently on the waiting list but they tell me it could be up to three more months to the evaluation. I'm 46 and have suffered with many problems throughout my life and it appears this syndrome has been missed by my doctors over the years. I'm on the sick at the moment but hoping to return to work soon. I'm looking to get to know a bit more about Aspergers and make some new friends here as well. Look forward to getting to know you all.