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kieran is 19 now and he doesnt feel the need to sleep.Some morning he is still in his room at 1.00am watching dvds but when he was younger i used to have to sit with him till he fell sleep, on the odd occasion he does get a bit noisy i just go in and tell him to turn his tv down and it is time he was in bed. lynn

kieran bought himself a psp and he thinks its the best thing since sliced bread but he is also a great fan of the ps2 anyway, even though he doesnt play it as much since he got his x box (i feel a xbox 360 coming on lol) My youngests got a ds and he wants to get nintendogs seen the tv ad it looks so cute.The onlyu thing with kieran is he will only play the same games racing games or fifa i cant get him onto any other type and unfortunately they dont bring them out quick enough for him. lynn

hi mc nice to meet you. I still have a problem with kieran and sleep and he s 19 (ASD), but as annie said about her 16 year old try telling them when its bedtime.When he was younger he wouldnt sleep in his own bedroom and it was only when we moved to this house when he was 13 that i actually got him to sleep in a bed of his own he always had a matress on our bedroom floor.Before that if iwe didnt let him come into our bedroom and tried to keep hi in his own bedroom he d sit on the landing all night cryingBut many a morning he still up at 1am albeit in his room but as long as he s quiet.lynn

so pleased it is working well for you lynn

vote for dvd s and videos but if men and motors are on with wrc or btcc or daytona anything to do with cars, whoops not forgetting robot wars but i cant remember what channel shows it now on sky. lynn

hi to owain kieran and mel and anyone else ive missed. I always froget to come into the welcome forum when i peruse the post so sorry a bit belated.Mel i am still trying to work out how to cope with a 19 year old so im affraid my input isnt of much use its gotta be down to the others. lynn

I dont see kieran as disabled either my dh pulled up the jobcentre the other week (on my say so lol he wouldnt have ) on the forms you have to fill in they ask your life history and then they send you a copy printed out now and reading through the form i came to questions about family with illness etc and there i read MENTALLY IMPAIRED. YES. Well i dont see kieran as mentally impaired !and the jobcentre s reply was that it was the only catergory they used for a range of conditions like autism etc.But they did write autistic next to it but how dare they.

hi I dont know if there will be many ideas for this one.Kieran who is 19 is a very noisy person when he was younger he had perforated ear drums and had the audioplasty operarations to graft them.But still as monor earing loss.From about 12 he does this thing which im sure there have been post about before(as it drives us all to distraction lol)He will be in his bedroom he has the television on and has his headphones on listening to music.This may not seem strange(NOOOOO) but the thing is he as to have the tv that lous to hear it over the music and he talks to himself well no talks he has to shout because he cant hear himself while walking around and around.Now recently we have had to move bedrooms and he is now attached to next doors now im sure kieran is also an insomniac as he wont go to bed till maybe 2.00 am and thats early so he his watching tv or playing psp.now last night im sure next door where banging ion his bedroom wall.That doesnt bother me in the sense that we take enough cxxxp from them via racket especially when we are in bed.But if it gets frequent i know it will lead to kieran not sleeping in there and then both him and me will be up all night so any suggestions apart from sleeping tablets for kier lol.He says he doesnt need to sleep as it is boring,ive tried to make him understand about noise but he doesnt grasp it.lynn

done survey and also got a couple of mobiles to take to vodaphone. lynn

We have a dog and a cat and when things are going bad for kieran(19) he often grabs the dog round the throat or gives him a swift kick and how i long for the day when the dog retaliates and bites him, not that he would though because he s a lovely natured dog but i just tell kieran if you kick or strangle the dog again i ll do it to you that seems to work but sometimes he can be really good with him they often sit on the floor huddled up together

hi mother in need. I too have been in the same situation on the odd occasion but my youngest is the brunt of his brothers anger .He often gets him around the throat and i usually send him out of the room but on the odd occasion he did come through with a kitchen knife but by the time id yelled at him he gone and put it back in the kitchen but it is definately worru as you cannot be there every minute of the day. lynn

tracey i can empathise with that my older ds think that i let kieran(19 ASD) get away with to much but compared to the concequences of the major meltdowns as wrong as it may be it is sometimes the easier option ,but within reason of course.Kieran didnt go to school for three weeks once for no reason as he liked school he went to a special school and he just went back but there was no way he was going to go i cried yelled and screamed at him but it didnt make any difference.At the end of the day which as been said before we know our children best we live with them 24/7 others only see from the outside.lynn

me as well but congratulations on your new arrival

my son wasnt dx untill a month before his 18th birthday. lynn

Ive just seen an article in the sunday paper. Vodaphone are recycling your old mobiles to raise money for the NAS.What a good idea im sure we ve all got mobile s hiding away in the back of the cupboard.So next time im in town off i go to the vodaphone shop. lynn

You have every right to be angry i would be as well. lynn

hi emma My sons 19 dx asd and he is exactly the same mostly in his own little world that doesnt include any one else unless he wants them to be included, and as always got to be right you cannot tell him anything he believes what he wants to.It is hard sometimes but we are not the only ones we are nearly all in the same boat apart from some of the age differences of the children. We ve all been there or some of us still are. lynn

hi teresa ive got a son now 19 dx asd just before his 18th birthday.good luck for tomorrow come back ad let us all know how it went.Theres always a listening ear to share e xperiences advice or just to listen when you are having a rant and i must admit i often do. lynn

hi nettie I have a son aged 19 dx as asd a month before his 18 birthday waited 18 months for assessment.The forum as been a godsend to me im really pleased i found it. lynn

welcome to new members that i have missed their arrival. lynn

hi mirry nice to meet you. The one thing i know by being a member of this board is you always get loads of good advice and support so i cannot add anything that as not already been said and as for obsessions i get that constantly from kieran who is now 19 and also his younger sufers from it as well a bit less now we have been able to give them seperate bedrooms . lynn

i think i agree with you on that one tez. Before kieran was dx i was expressing my concerns about him to his head teacher and she said its nothing he s just a teenager.Prime example i think and considering he went to a special school as well which has a special autistic unit but that wasnt any good to kieran as he was not dx untill after he left school just before his 18th birthday.My mum always has this observation, im sure my uncle as ocd although never assessed for it and she says im sure theres ocd in all of us. A valid point maybe.lynn

hi Viper None of my kids ever went to pre school groups.The two youngest did go to nursery school a term before they started in the infants school.Kieran who is 19 went through a phase where he didnt go to school for 3 weeks and this was when he was 15 no reason he got up to go to school just sat there in his jim jams with me screaming and bawling at him till his transport came for him but no he wasnt going.I rang school and they sent a teacher out to see him after two weeks lol and he promised her he would be at school tomorrow andi knew full well that he ll say anything anyone wants to hear and hence to say he still didnt go.The third week the head and his form teacher came to see him,they went and had a talk with him and they came out and said kierans coming into school with us.Off he went and after that day he never had a day off again.He actually loved school he went to a special school and i think he d have stayed forever if he could have.The thing that riled me most was the teacher that came to see him wrote later in a report that if we had handled the situation better it could have been sorted sooner i was so angry i didnt challenge her about it as he was leaving school anyway.Kieran can also not be cajoled by promises of treats etc he just takes them or leaves them.At one point when i didnt think he was ever going to go back to school i was looking into home ed because if school was making him so unhappy why subject him to it but it righted itself in th end.Hope yours carries on well with school. lynn

kieran takes things leterally to and always as to analize deeper than the actaul reamrk which makes me wish id not said it in the first place. lynn

i got 9 and most of them where guesses lol. lynn