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Hi Rose123, So sorry that you are having such a rough time My son was never able to cope being in school, he found it too stressful and started self-harming. Even with full time 1 to 1 support it wasn't working. It led to so many exclusions that we decided enough was enough and fight for an education package to meet his needs. We managed (after a six month battle) to get small group learning which was organised through the LEA's Home Tuition Service. The lessons were in group of about 5/6 kids with 2 teachers. The amount of actual learning was reduced to approx. 8 hours per week and each lesson was in a different location in my borough. Subjects were also reduced to English, Maths, Art, Science and IT but it worked really well . The teachers were wonderful and non-judgemental of my son's past history plus while he was there he didn't have 1 to 1 support. I wish we'd made the change years ago. Anyway, that's just what worked for us. As Pearl and Kazzen161 have said, perhaps residential could be another option or home education. There are other options out there but unfortunately, LEAs don't like to tell parents what they are . It would be a good idea if you haven't already, to give IPSEA a ring. It may take a while to get hold of them, but please keep trying. Their advice is excellent. We were lucky enough to have one of their reps fighting in our corner with us. Annie xx

Hi Rose123, Welcome to the forum . Glad you've found us. Annie xx

Hi Kinda, Welcome to the forum Look forward to chatting to you. Annie (Mum to 18yo son) xx

I hope we still get something if we're naughty but nice Annie xx

MERRY CHRISTMAS FRANGIPANI Annie xx <'>

HAPPY BIRTHDAY KATHRYN Hope you have a great day. Love Annie xx <'>

<'> Amanda <'> I am so very, very sorry. I couldn't begin to understand how difficult it must be for you all, especially at this time of year. My thoughts are with you and your family. Love, Annie xx

Excellent BD Annie xx Suze - Love the avvy xx

<'> Suze <'> I used to love/hate Christmas, in fact the whole of December. I love the atmosphere, but Alex couldn't cope with all the changes in school. He used to end up staying off school for the last week or so beforehand because it all got too much for him. It took a good few days before he could relax, then it would be the build up to going back again . Annie xx

Excellent news Anne Annie xx

I did the Christmas food shop this morning, so everything done now apart from I forgot to buy carrots . Thank heavens for the T*sco Express petrol station around the corner from me . If they haven't got any, we'll have to go without. I've been having a glass or two of Tia Maria every night this week. My aunt brought a bottle of it for me as an early prezzie, so it would be rude not to drink it, wouldn't it? Annie xx

<'> Flora <'> I know what you mean. When Alex was very young, we found ourselves being blamed as the reason for his behaviour by other parents and even by the people we were trying to get help from. As time went on, even with a diagnosis we were made to feel as though we were we were neurotic parents and had to justify absolutely everything. The lies and sneakiness that we've been fed in the past has been . Annie xx

Brilliant news Mel Annie xx

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Good luck at the meeting <'> Annie xx

Hi Rhianydd, Welcome to the forum Annie (another crafter) xx

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One of mine has a skateboard deck, clothes and some money, the other has clothes, CD's and money. Now they're older, it's nice and easy Oh yes, I know the one Suze! Annie xx

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Annie xx

So sorry Pippin Thinking of you. Annie <'>

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Glad you and JP had a good time . How's your head this morning? Hope you're not suffering too much . Annie xx

Hi Phoebe, I was in the same position as you a few years ago and like you, also felt that the crime deserves a punishment but my thoughts were that........... because my son had never been able to cope with school full stop, his anxiety levels were sky high whenever he was there. This in turn, resulted in behaviours that led to the exclusions. In our case, the exclusions were a relief as they meant that the underlying cause of the anxiety was taken away IYSWIM. Ultimately, we managed to take him out of the school (mainstream with ASD unit) and secure an educational package to suit him via our LEA and things begun to improve dramatically. If the school's answer is to keep dishing out exclusions and not even try to get to the bottom of the 'trigger', perhaps the school isn't the right place for your son. Annie xx