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It doesn't come easily/naturally, but you can learn it intellectually, and it might be worth it. I've got a job in counselling, and I've done some courses, and it works despite autistics' assumed lack in that area. Important though: I have some NT colleagues whom I can ask if there seem to be some "unwritten" messages by our clients which I don't get. My EQ score is still ... urgh.

I would feel legitimized to choose all three options: my son's dx was followed by me supporting him, was followed by my on dx as an adult. So there.

I've posted it on another forum. I hope you don't mind. Details via PM if necessary.

This one's even better! (Than quiz 1, I mean)

... whatever that means. I think I should add that I work in the sector of counselling, and have access to supervision.

I like drinking beer, altjough I seldom get the opportunity (I have to rise at 5am on weekdays, so I cannot drink anything the evening before). What I found has started to taste ok, is alcool-free beer; I think you should be able to get that in your pub, too.

When I was 11-12, I had terrible headaches (migraine) just after school and I had to lie down in a darkened room for about half an hour. This went on for about 1 year. I had no dx then ...

One more thought: it seems that fathers get much less criticism re. their children than mothers do. Whatever the reason for this is.

It seems that the problems mentioned there don't arise from autism, but from a combination with a mental handicap (= LFA?). Normally (?), it would be easy to explain rules to autistic children (re. that broken-ankle-post by RaqOsaid/ December 26, 2012 at 5:21 PM)

That's exactly my feeling, too. You (I) get exhausted more quickly and need more times to relax. Even if you "play normal".

Philosophy and The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Nicholas Joll

Sounds professional and ok. I hope it helps you clear up those question you have.

You need an "excuse" if you've got "theory of mind". I don't. What I need, though, are informations about what isn't done (and why, sometimes), so I can consider changing my way of doing things. Difficult thing is e.g. you get told to do something by a classmate and it turns out to be wrong. What then?

There's a group here (even a self-help organisation), and I've attended once, but I found it too confusing/overwhelming. I think forums are better because you can choose the time to interact freely.

You could look here for further reading: http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/ (esp. books by others)

I have it on my schedule before leaving the house (for work) and before going to bed. Like this, it works. Re. my son, it took a long time before he got used to the idea at home (before going to bed), even though they see to it at school (after lunch) and I think he had/has no probs there.

Thanks for that link; a good read, and it differentiates well.

Maybe he's irritated because he cannot anticipate what will happen on weekends. A timetable might be too much, but some sort of plans for the weekend (that he knows) might help (caution: a change of plans will be a real challenge).

To start: I'm 42 and got my dx at age 37; my son's 9 and got his dx at age 3. I've spent lots of nights with my N64 (that was in the 90s), but it has sort of worn off; re. my son, my wife and I consent that he shouldn't be "exposed" too much to any screens (TV, computer, console), so there's no such thing in his room. We prefer for him to train his motor skills in RL situations (e.g. swimming).

I quite like the site www.aldaily.com which links to various newspapers and magazines insofar "Arts and Letters" are concerned.

In the long run, this might work best. It has worked for me (age 42, dx at age 37). She'll need enough time for her "stims" in the safe environment of your home, though, to compensate for adapting at school etc.

I vote A-S warrior for Mod! Here's the link: http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?/topic/29154-moderators-wanted/

On the other hand, the following of the rules might be motivated by the feeling of being incapable or at least unsure. I often wonder why those totally stupid and reckless drivers don't have MORE accidents ...

That seems to be a typical problem of AS: NTs tend to talk to their therapist or at least to their friends about those problems. - I'm unable to put these in spoken words, either.

The coping mechanisms can improve over time, and the expectations get "lower", i.e. the older you are the less often you get "corrected". You'll still have Aspergers.