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I did this when trying to log into hotmail, my OH didn't believe my misspelling, I'm usually there as his walking dictionary funny thing is, I've tried it again, just checking for the kid's sake and I now just get an error message, hopefully that's always going to be the case ( we have changed our security software since then) wac

my big sis and I were there pm, typical !! ( I did look out for you !) sis was there for work (she says) and spent the refreshments bit beforehand chatting with lots of bods, and introducing me :wacko including GL who was part of the team who dx our youngest, we had a chat about the dire provision for asd, and she was right when she told me I would find Ros fascinating You've only met one of my sisters, the social skills of both my sisters make me feel like an alien, whereas I'm usually just the 'black sheep' in the nicest possible way of course

Went to listen to this lady talk yesterday, she was great, very inspiring. She has very strong views on how we should be bringing up our asd kids, but for the main I agree with her. Had a few LEA officers sat in front of me, thought I saw a few jaws drop at some points perhaps at her sheer directness, no woolly LEA speak there If you get chance, go to one of her talks, this one was organised by a local early years asd support group, and was only �5 for parents ( lots of proffs in audience too ) wac

Sorry can't offer any constructive advice but can be angry with you cos this has happened to us with our youngest. We are in same boat with our 10 yr old, trying to get him dx before transition to secondary next september, after initial appt. in june we are only now on waiting lists of at least 3 months for assessments with SALT and clinical pyschologist. I can't see how this is all going to happen in time for him to take part in the transtion scheme for SEN kids It's all aggro, aggro, aggro, why promise a referral and than neglect to do it ?!!!! wac

Thank God you insisted on a visit to the hospital, what happened to the GP's instincts, nevermind their medical dx skills ? we are in a similar situation albeit with something much minor, my son hurt his hand almost two weeks ago (karate chop to his LSA )I took him to A&E after a few days when his knuckle was still misshapen after the bruising had gone, they didn't want to 'expose him to an unnecessary dose of radiation' so no x-ray, told to go back in week if still concerned(did tell them that he has high pain threshold, and floppy joints) It still looks odd, he only complains about it when I wash his hands,why couldn't they just have x-rayed it last week ? Sorry for going off at a tangent, this is just one of many concerns I could rant on about tonight wac

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Sojourned, I have to say that Badonkadonk's post made me feel better, and I'm stuck at home with total apathy at the mo, and after reading her post I realised that I wish that I'd taken a few more chances...... there's some good advice there, I hope you can make the most of your trip, good luck, wac

we googled for 'party poppers' for our son and got loads of downright dangerous ideas not good ! then we tried 'popping balloons' (another obsession) and got some very strange ideas I never realised that balloons had such a fetishistic (!) propensity 'safe search' doesn't seem to weedle em out either, I have to try and vet all my son sees, at this rate I will end up being tagged 'depraved'

Glad you're both home safe, wac

Gesundheit !

Exactly, I they bothered to say that the parents had sought medical advice and left it at that, it automatically makes you assume there was no underlying condition, or is that just me ? I'd still be one angry parent night, night, wac

Hope you're soon back with a brand new laptop wac

To copy Bid, 'WHAT AN ENTRANCE' !! You'll be able to tell him in later years about his speedy arrival, perhaps when he's dawdling over something Hope you're both doing well, Congratulations <'> wac

Hi, I just can't see how this programme could have given a 'balanced and informative' view of this boy's behavioural problems if his asd was never mentioned ? I would be livid if this was my child, surely his asd was the key issue here ? and without that 'key' the programme took a whole different slant ? grrrr, wac

Out of casualty in just over an hour ? That must be a record, either that or they didn't have too many prisoners in ( everytime we have to go there, we always see someone being brought in handcuffed to two prison officers ) and my youngest pipes up " is he from the naughty boys home ? " Hope J is feeling better, wac

my dentist suggested sensodyne ( have a crack in front tooth after tripping over a lopped off bollard in the middle of the pavement !) he also suggested that I smear this toothpaste over the sensitive tooth before going out in the cold, this has really helped, I suppose it's abit like not rinsing out your mouth, but with small children I would worry about leaving all that flouride sloshing around wac

Congratulations ! wac

TN, I think you're doing great, is it the running ? never tried it myself, same for driving, too scared I'll never come back Good news too about your lunch, I've always found the 'older' members of staff I've worked with to be far easier to get on with than the youngsters This is the Job's comforter bit ( sorry ) but you're exactly right with regard to securing your financial position, morally you may feel ( quite rightly) that your wife has no claim, and she may be agreeing right now, but she will no doubt seek legal advice too and you might then find her attitude changes Sorry to chip in with this, but I just want you to be prepared for a woman who has seen a solicitor.... hang in there, wac

here, here, I loved hearing your stories of Aureil's success, and especially of your own experiences of suspected AS. Hope to hear more, wac

Hi TheNeil, I too am really sorry for turn things have taken, be strong, and do what's right for you <'> What I was trying to say in my earlier post (really badly, but that's TSOML) is that it's quite likely that this bloke will skunk off back to his wife, after a short period of escapism. I think you have to think now about how will you feel if your wife wants to return then ? I can tell how much you love her, and I don't want you to be walked over by her, Get running......clear your head, all the best, wac

<'> <'> I'm sure you're not alone.....

Sorry, I have only just come across this thread E ( too many holidays have dulled my senses, ie. I got too chilled out ) I think this is a fantastically succint letter, I trust it was going to come from you ? I deal with all the educational issues in our house, I don't see that you have to appear to be a united front to these bods, do they even care/notice whether they get letters from couples or single parents ? I really would go ahead and send it, if it makes no difference than you've lost nothing, or it does and ........who knows... On the subject of special schools, any ideas ? looks might we might be needing one in sept 2007 for our youngest Our 10 yr old is now in the system too waiting for appt. with cahms who can't even give us an idea of when he'll be seen, even though we're at our wit's end. Aaarrgh, send that letter, I've been told 'unofficially' of course, that the LEA are caving in on anything approaching a tribunal. wac

Hi TheNeil, I read your thread earlier this evening and went away for awhile to ponder whilst doing other stuff, You always come across as a very thoughtful and considerate chap,and you have continued this in how you have dealt with this sad situation. One thing you might not have considered ( and lets face it, why would you ?) is the other bloke's state of mind right now. The birth of a child can do strange thing to a man's head, to the extent where he thinks 'aargh, too much responsibility, must find with woman with no such ties to drag me down' Your wife might well be taken up with the sheer excitement of the whole 'illicitness' of the affair, but you might well find that the bloke starts to think about the child he's just had, and his job as a father...... I'm not saying this for you to feel any sympathy for the ***, but more as an explanation of what might be happening here. Your wife might have been sublimating her wish to have a child as something else, and a soon to be dad would be the ideal candidate. I think this is the issue you really need to discuss, don't agree to have a child if you don't feel that it's right for you, it's not something that you can back out of. I hope it turns out right for you, wac

Re-reading this thread, I think I must add that I don't think the 'feral' children roaming the complex we were staying on were necessarily from "the worst council estates in Britain". I do think though that their behaviour was typical of the 'en masse' teenager, and their younger hangers on. I think as parents we do tend to think ' I wouldn't have done that when I was a kid' and we have to ask 'why not ?' I think the main answer is because we didn't have any awareness of 'our rights' when we were kids, I remember quite clearly the first time I heard a child say to an adult "you can't do owt to me, it's against the law", that child is probably now a parent himself. I don't see a pc clipping a child round the earhole as a solution, but the parental disregard for any authority IS passed onto their kids, and without an acceptable model of behaviour kids will believe they have the right to behave entirely as they wish. This is not a topic I have concerned myself with since leaving teacher training, but now as a parent I feel I am being made to feel overly disicplinarian with my own kids when they are surrounded by such outlaws perhaps I should go with the flow and let my tribe terrorise everyone wac

We finally got an OT assessment for our 6 yr old ASD son after asking for over two years. At the assessment we found out that the OT was deaf and relied on lip reading, which was a bit tricky with our son who won't look a stranger in the eye much and is constantly on the move. The OT quickly realised she wasn't going to get anywhere in the 'strange' room at the hospital and arranged to see him at school within a few weeks, she is now setting up a programme that his LSAs can produce within school. She did mention to me that we would probably get more appropriate help from a local autism specific charity So it's a 'wait and see' situation here (elder son is now on her waiting list too !) wac