AJ kicked off again last night

[Stella63]

Well it happened again, not quite as bad as he didn't have a weapon!

We had discovered that he had got into our safe and stolen money from my purse - the money was actually for his allowance so challenged him, he denied it of course and I told him he had stolen his own allowance and would only get the balance. He didn't make a fuss about this which we took as an admission of guilt.

I then found the over ride key hidden in his room and we were going to just take the key and leave a note - no confrontation - but then last night he took a call from someone and then flipped and started demanding his money. We explained that we had already talked about that and it wasn't up for discussion, we then showed him the key. First he flipped cos we had been snooping in his room, we said no worse than him snooping round the whole house. He then said that we put it there to frame him and went ballistic, swearing and spitting on the floor. DH managed to get him out of the house and he stayed out there banging and shouting, I phoned emergency SS to log that another incident was happening and we passed the phone outside to AJ. He talked to the SS guy for a while saying we were framing him, accusing him of stealing, he was owed money and he had rights. The SS guy was trying to calm him down and then he swore at him and shoved the phone through the letterbox! The SS guy phoned straight back and said he thought AJ was totally paranoid and delusional. He now has to log all that info which hopefully will help our case week after next.

 

I am now convinced that the conditions he already has plus the medication and almost certainly drugs are tipping him over the edge and we need serious help. Going to push for a full psychiatric assessment at this meeting - long overdue I think!!

 

Great start to half term!!

 

Stella x

[hev]

sorry you going through this,ive no answers but ive been in your situation many times,just wanted to give you one of these really <'>

[Clare63]

Stella,

 

I am so sorry to hear things have turned bad again, I am sorry to say but it certainly does sound like a drugs issue, being paranoid, steeling money etc.

 

I hope that SS come through for you and that you get something sorted really quickly. I can not begin to imagin how you must be feeling, so heart breaking when your child beghaves in such a matter.

 

Hope you get to the bottom of this real soon.

 

<'> <'> <'> <'>

 

Clare x x x

Edited October 24, 2008 by Clare63

[NickyB]

Stella <'> <'> <'> <'>

[Enid]

Oh god Stella, what a nightmare, do you think it has anything to do with the strattera? I worry about that with mine, but am scared to take him off it. Is AJ 18 now? I think if he is you should be able to get him into some kind of accomadation, he needs somewhere secure as he is obviously being "lent on" hence the panic after phone calls, hope alls calm now. <'> <'> Enid

[something_different]

hope SS manage to offer the support he needs!

 

I am hoping that things have now calmed.

 

 

[soraya]

Just wanted to say you are not alone, have been through this many many times with Nick <'> <'> <'> Hope things are calm today

[puffin]

Certainly sounds as though there is more to this than meets the eye - he needs this money for something - and he seems anxious about the people on the phone - hope that you can get to the botton of this

[oxgirl]

So sorry, Stella. <'> Are you able to get to the bottom of the what's happening with the phone calls? Is he afraid of someone or being threatened and would he be able to tell you if he was in real trouble, would he let you help him?

 

~ Mel ~

[hev]

hello stella,hoping all is calm tonight and you all having a good evening <'>

[SuzyQ]

Hi Stella,

 

I have to agree sounds like drugs, my DD has 'friends' who give her drugs, they are all older and she connot see that they are not friends!! I feel they are grooming her to get her to do god know's what, she has met these through being at school yet her provisional statement says that mainstream education is the place for her against CAMHS advice and now we are seeing a physciatrist aswell as physycologists, they have put her on some meds as it seems she is facing a mental illness of some sort, I feel a bit of a mushroom you know kept in dark and fed S**T so don't really know what is going on, but I like with Jekyl and hyde and when she is away from school and these people she is ok and less angry.

Drugs have the wrong effect on children like ours, but they can't see it, and of course if it wasn't for me she wouldn't have to do it...etc... I am the hated one I am the bad person and it's all my fault, so I know how tough that side of it is and how soul destroying it can be.

I have even thought that perhaps the everyone would be better if I took myself off and dissappeared as I am such a bad horrible person. But then DD would win!! She has knocked my flying and now I just keep out the way when she goes as I know I cannot restrain her anymore.

 

You are not alone and even though Maybe mt problems are not as severe I can understand. That s the thing that keeps me going...this site...to know we are not alone in our struggles and fights, we are all riding the rollercoaster ride from hell!!! but we are on it together <'>

[JsMum]

She has knocked my flying and now I just keep out the way when she goes as I know I cannot restrain her anymore.

 

 

Are you saying she assualted you, Im sorry but if Jay was older and he assualted me throw using drugs, I WOULD have no hesitation to call the police and have him arrested.

 

Drugs make you paranoid and yes of course its everyones elses fault, but theirs, drugs is a massive problem with so many deeper levels, and children with Social and communication difficutlies are very vulnerable, its my one worry for my sons future, drugs is in any class as well,

 

If you also feel your daughter can not have her needs met in a mainstream you can appeal and ask for a specialist school named in part 4 that will meet her SENs.

 

What kind of school do you want her to go to.

 

 

JsMum

 

Edited October 30, 2008 by JsMum