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the split up between you and his dad has probably unsettled him and his usual routine of dad being there all time at home he probably struggling to understand what happened and doen't know how to manage he finding hard to adjust to sudden change which probably messed him up abit! and made his behaviour start off again is there custody arrangements of when DS sees his dad in place so DS can see his dad on regular basis as all been rocky and unpredictable .... which probably lead him to his behaviours flaring playing up becoming worse again ... he just needs reassurance that he will still see his dad even though he doesn't live in family home with you and him anymore he still loves him! he scared probably that you are going to up and leave too ... he confused atm ... XKX

sounds like 15 year old daughter feel suffocated overwhelmed by looking out for her sister seems unpredictable situations and trying to watch out for constant dangerous situations seems pushing her over the edge ....

does is your eldest daughter - 15 one with AS and another one ASD? have i got that right?!

sounds like both your daughters need help and support in dealing managing with life ... your 'norm' NT 15 yr old daughter maybe need counselling with having an A.S sister or someone not emotionally attached to situation to talk things through of or let off stream... to get things out of her system that bothering her i would ring NAS as see what they can offer!!! what about emergency respite for your ASD daughter to give you and daughter a break so can relax chill take some time for yourselves! has your 15 year old explained what is about her sister that she wants to end her own life over?! is she depressed? does your 15 year old daughter talk to about what is bothering her about her ASD sister is her anger violent abusive ways making her suicidal? or something else?! XKLX

i used verbally abuse and physcially lash out have anger issues in past at my parents severe ending up me being physically restrained to the floor by them police being called holding kitchen knife to my mum's throat! has MH probs been looked into? depression anxiety? as we find hard express into words how we are truly feeling inside we become so confused and lost hard to cope and manage everyone involved makes feel bad guilty that hurt everyone around you frustration of everyday gets you mad angry lash out of who's closest is true fact of life sounds like your daughter struggling to control her emotions has CAMHS been involved have you been docs to get help and support for her? or got NAS involved how about Medication or therapy? i'm not excusing her behaviour but maybe underlying reasons behind why she acting out is main triggers to make her angry and abusive towards you? my violent outbursts/meltdowns would last hours and tire me out i was in such a state and upset me as was scared and couldn't explain what reality was as lost sense of it! you can lose sense of purpose in life looking back i see the reasons that dragging me down was depression anxiety , frustration and confusion mixture of these was votile combination so MH probs need looking into as probably deeper emotional issue rather just anger on it's own ... my personal opinion ... XKLX

i did 5 mile charity walk ( crazy hats - breast cancer) today 1 lap of the park equaled a mile i have nearly 70 quid in sponsor money from work girls, family and friends!!! was easy to walk it! i got tee shirt crazy hats on it n pink and i got eye pencil as avon sponsor the walk and got canvas shopping bag and medal! lol going to do it again next year as i had alot people affected different types cancer in my mum's side of family!!! close to my heart the cause and in june doing race for life ain't decided yet what distance i'm running! such worthy cause ... XXKLX

we don't know what is the other side like to having an high IQ alot time major difficulties /struggles against them like LD'S with savant syndrome that is sad!

the bed wetting could be down to pyschological issues anxiety , depression??? but also medical reasons also need to excluded too! XKX

you can get a plastic sheeting that cover the mattress so it doesn't ruin it and go through! i used to have an anger prob in past is hard when hormones are raging everywhere when puberty hits with A.S like volcano going off!!! i struggle with same fight/battle as your daughter going through it hard hurdle to climb overcome and can overtake everything my anger exploded spirals out of control lasting hours into meltdown make me so tired i feel so bad and guilty afterwards ashamed i feel the 'reason' behind my anger was puberty ,hormones but also confusion,frustrations and MH probs depression anxiety hiding physical side of anger anger damages your self esteem which already lowered due to A.S!!! it is difficult to override the anger issues i tried meds from CAMHS pyschs which had no effect on me! has meds been suggested to you for your daughter? i was on risperdal ( risperdal) anti-pyschotic med has M.H probs been looked into through CAMHS? does she recieve any regular support output from C.A.M.H.S? may just be plain puberty and anger ( mixture) i have now controlled my anger now but is struggle to change around! XKLX

i am gutted have only just realised that last night missed jade changed my life on sky living wanted to watch it so bad been itching to see it when saw snippet for it on TV then forgot to watch it due to having an early night i havn't got sky at home we got virgin looked on virgin on demand and hasn't got in listed under channels as all series on there looked online looks like have be with sky to watch .... grrr... anyone find link so i can watch it! desperate to see it! XKLX

autism is sometimes more supported and recognised and AS is on backburner ... A.S as seen as 'mild' and when living with it and had little support is daily struggle difficult cope with having an ASD diagnosis may make it easier less of a battle ... XKLX

i had squint when younger in both eyes i had to have an operation to try correct it which it did i had white tape patches on both eyes for abit the squints used play up all time especially when i was tired become worse became more obvious i had wear glasses since i was a toddler around 2 years old because i had mypoia ( short sightness) without my glasses i struggle bad! XKLX

we wore red where we work and parents donated money as kids did sponsored jumping and staff the kids had face painting most of them had there nose painted red and cheeks and parents came in watched there children play with others! they had digestive biccies one each decorated it with icing sugar and we put red food colouring in it with! ( that was over 3's end) down baby end they did sponsored bounce on trampoline i think and teddy bears pinic! XKLX

C.A.M.H.S - * Child Adolescent Mental Health Team the team can assess your son through medical history /background ask you his school questions but sounds like ASD is highly possible and likely by what you have listed as signs for your son! the sooner you get him assessed the better! GP can refer to CAMHS! good luck XKLX

i rang my best friend she said she'll come doctors with me . i don't know what i need wish i could go away and clear my head for abit! just need get away .... i keep picturing myself running away ... i don't know if this is clear signs of depression MH related just know don't feel 'well' can't really explain doesn't add up! feel confused like world's fuzzy around me like can't focus in on anything! don't know if all in my head and i'm being stupid and silly don't want be time waster at docs! XKX

yes i have had counselling before i have family therapy ... only had one to one general counselling for one or two sessions as then referred be assessed by CAMHS!!! i feel like everything falling apart don't know how to mend it! i so upset but not surprised by how my mum feels about the damage i could to her! i'm young adult but not in my mind just feel like i'm crumbling feels like i'm drowning faster than ever! i'm in deep! XKX

just overheard my mum speaking to someone on the phone don't know who it was anyway she said that she worried i could kill her in the mental state i get in ( see below to explain) and that she has lost all trust she built up i had 'relapse moment' on tuesday had arguement with parents ended up sobbing my heart out and banging my head against my solid wooden bed on side and on the floor aswell as self harm my arm. spiralled out of control and dad said shall he call an ambulance i said 'go on then' i felt so 'restless' didn't feel like 'me' doing it my parents were scared as used get physically abusive with them in past aswell as kicking off on myself i just lose reality and can't seem to make sense of nothing around me feel like losing grip i felt so bad guilty as promised myself i wouldn't get in that 'state' again after past been years since i was like this the fear my parents feel that i'm back square one going backwards but it was 'off day' a 'slip up' i can feel 'build up' coming but can't seem to stop it in time like all pressure inside and can't release it was going 'too good' to true now scared i spoilt things once again i think parents get sick and tired of putting it down to something calming me down putting me back 'together' i wrote my parents a letter trying to explain best in words how SORRY I AM but sorry seems meaningless after what i have done in past is too late has gone too far? has been too much gone on before? will it ever go back to 'normal'? i feel like stuck in child's mind and body world at times pulls you in and so confusing and feel so lost .... i don't understand why i get in that state or how get myself put once in it and feel so ashamed of how it takes 'hold' of me leaves me feeling 'dangerous' and vulnerable the 'reasons' are running low dry behind why like A.S ,depression etc so don't where this leads me .... just feel SO ALONE!!! feel like 'timebomb' and thought thing of past i left well and truly behind oviously not! i feel like being 'forced' go back to the past events when don't want to! feel so angry and annoyed at myself for letting it get to this! just feel such let down such a failure .... feel like CAN'T DO NOTHING RIGHT! don't even understand myself .... don't know if i should go docs and go back on anti-dp's meds??? as was deciding whether or not before tuesday events happened?! don't know how much further everyone can take? i wouldn't like to 'push' to find out either! i HATE MYSELF for what i have done to my parents they DON'T DESERVE IT! such a blow to all progress made .... feel so scared of myself .... XKLX

if you over 16 0r 18 years old would they contact parents if you're suicidal and see pyscg team up hosp though always wondered as we have A.S so seen as 'vulnerable adults'? XKX

i can personally relate to how you feel so empty dark numb like what's point of going on anymore you feel so misunderstood so ALONE scared and have been suicidal in past taken OD's ended up taken to hosp in ambulance as mum called them and police too i feel trapped like i mess everything up can't do 'nothing right' like i upset and cause pain to everyone and like i'm burden i had anger probs in past due to my depression physically lashing out having to be restrained such hard mental /emotional state to 'overcome' and stay 'balanced' and on top of all time it wears you down drains you trying fight everything day in day out! you just want it to end. it horrid place to be in feeling so low do anything not to be here . just close your eyes and go to sleep forever makes want to give in. the only thing that keep me 'strong' is my neice who's 6 years old and my family without them it would have been 'finished' years ago! when all first started no one seems to be able to 'help' you as everything so complicated messed up in our heads we don't understand ourselves everything jumbled and just want a STOP pause button rewind button on it all! i had relapse the other day like i had in past banging my head on solid wooden bed side and on floor and self harming and dad said if carried on he'd call me an ambulance and felt this safe mode option when feel so 'out of control' with 'no where to turn or go' feel so confused lost within yourself you'd do anything make it go away stop! it all gets too much pressure strain the whole situation and trying to explain why you buckle is overwhelming and difficult too i don't have the answers to give to the questions laid out in front of me! everything feels dragged down like i'm drowning in my life i don't feel safe enough round myself alot of time feel dangerous and have 'suicidal' urges /impulses which hard to igorn when feel i have nothing else to offer to give anyone especially my family! i can feel the build up coming before the 'storm' inside of me can't stop it from happening weird strange to explain to other but like hurricane hitting fast destroying yourself and others around you in your way. you just wish you could run and hide from everything or wake up 'everything' be o.k i either feel too high (excited buzz sky high) or too low ( crashing flat low) no balanced in between when out of control don't feel like 'me' feel like 'someone else' feel like don't know 'who i am' feel like i'm running from myself through a maze. i been self harming since early teens and also suffered from depression since then too been on different anti depressant meds nothing seems to 'touch me' and also had several different therapies again just seem 'pointless' exercises of everyone trying to work out your head your behaviour your life makes me angry frustrated when don't get it myself! grr... get sick and tired of it! annoys me so much! hard when have try find your own way through so i can empathise and sympathise with what you have said in your post! XKLX

my twin deaf blind brother is the same as your son but my brother ISN'T ASD!!! he doesn't chew food properly but my parents put this down to him not being able to see how others do it to mirror to copy .... and also he didn't start eating proper solid foods with textures etc until he was around 7 years old so his teeth aren't used to it like ours are! like someone else said my personal opinion i would put it down to food textures/taste and how feels once in his mouth ( sensory issue)! XKLX

i also struggled with this too at school right the way through found it such struggle hard task to get your head round used to get so confused frustrated angry at myself and school teach me one way and my dad teach me around add to all emotion already feeling as i had dyspraxia so found maths concepts blew me away literally i found what helped me learn is break down into small chunks of information rather than whole thing as overwhelm her thought processes! as takes us longer .... and may get physical objects to help you visual aids as this may help her process much better than she would without! counters pens pencils to count with get her count with you together then be fun enjoyable less chance of stressful meltdown situation to occur start develop to begin with! good luck XKLX

i have both A.S and dyspraxia officially diagnosed dyspraxia diagnosed years before A.S was discovered hidden as something 'always been different' and didn't explain 'everything' or 'add up fully' to complete 'missing' part of jigsaw! dyspraxia was diagnosed in my junior's school childhood after long tiring battle/fight my mum had to prove to SENCO and paedtrician as they both thought my mum being 'overprotective' and bossy overbearing suffocating and controlling lucky she pushed all way didn't give in and first step! they both convinced it was my mum being 'picky,funny' about it and making things up to get 'attention' in their eyes. my mum clashed alot with my SENCO over dyspraxia!!! SENCO then sneaky with paedtrician and had private conversation discussing they didn't think i had it! but my mum kept record of everything i found hard,difficult ,struggled to do task wise that my peers could do easy! me and my family knew had to be something else apart from Dyspraxia there though lurking in background and by accident uncovered what it was right away from what we and my mum described at the assessment through clnical pyschologist asking us questions! irony is my mum used to work at special needs school locally as dinnerlady with autistic kids now she living with one all time!!! lol my twin brother is deaf blind so also my parents find it hard to cover different angles aspects of both our 'differences' our needs explaining different situations the list goes on .... we both still live at home we both 21 years old and both starting only now learn daily living skills cooking skills etc independence skills etc XKLX

what about blind shut out all light distraction block it out and maybe weighted blanket? just few other ideas to try also lavender scent works for me helps me drift off into natural sleep! buy lavender spray amd spray on his pillow P.J's and around his room do couple mins before he goes a bed so smell isn't overpowering and overwhelming from sensory POV! good luck! XKLX

i have Dyspraxia and A.S just not the ADHD part like your son! i have been on risperdone ( risperdal) in past by CAMHS pyschtrist due to anger and aggressive physcial meltdowns lasting hours resulting in my parents restraining me to the floor. i felt the meds didn't touch me and i had a side effect it raised one of my hormone levels to make my body think i was preggs so i came off it i have been on different types of AD's in the past for different things! hope fingers crossed it works for your son though! just trial and error to see what happens to see if i does work for your son and is 'right' meds for your son to be on to help him! XKLX

i was the same personal situation as your son in puberty hit anyone hard but A.S teens twice ad bad it's like a slap round the face!!! sounds like your son has low self esteem and self-image him skipping lunch could this be him trying to avoid putting on any more weight? it's tough period of life to adjust to as feels like riding a storm a emotional rollercoaster and feels like you can't make sense of anything everything feels everywhere and such a mess so many changes physical ,emotional in the body chemicals going round adds to A.S and causes great friction stress anxiety. the not wanting to do anything but sit on sofa has depression been looked into? also missing lunch could be physical sign of this too aswell as sleeping patterns as appetite meal times etc also finding emotions overwhelming trapping frustrating and not being able to express into 'exact words' out of your head can be so confusing you can feel so lost ,ALONE scared /frightened XKLX