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Wow, that makes such lovely reading. Would you like to come and live here? Don't worry my DH can swap - its not a problem honestly.

DS has a majour problem with listening and looking at the same time, he can only focus on one at a time and says that if he looks at the person when they are talking he is so busy looking at their face that he can't hear what they are saying - that is why he never looks at people when they are saying something important. The teachers used to quiz him on what was said and he had always heard everything. He also moves away from the class when they are all sat on the floor listening because he hates being that close to others and can't hear the teacher above the normal hum of the class. Also when he was observed they said that he gradually shuffled to a set of shelves and sat there stroking them as if he needed sensory input all the time. Perhaps your son is the same. We also told the teachers that they need to say his name first to get his attention other wise just because every one is expected to listen he will assume it doesn't apply to him.

One of my DH's favourite sayings is - "It's about as subtle as a turd in a hand bag"- I quite like that one!

Don't get me started on this one. There's not enough space or time for me to do an answer!

I think I'll do that with the keys, he locked us out on Christmas Day when we were getting my pressie DH had hidden in the shed. We shouted and shouted but he was sat using the playstation and didn't let us in. Luckily my DD heard and eventualy came to our rescue. I have always locked my front door because as soon as he could walk he would just leave the house, he could turn the key so I put a hook up high so he couldn't get it - he tried but gave up after a while.

Massive hugs coming your way <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> I have a feeling I have all this to come. Our boys so very similar to me.

Enid, I thought it may be something to do with the freind going home although I thought I was mad to even think it! They were playing so nicely and quietly with lego and the freind was answering DS's odd questions about what was going on in the music videos they were watching so patiently. They were chilled and maybe he didn't want that nice time to end. We may be reading to much into it though.

I would put the calendar away and just say that you will let him know when he is going to school the night before he goes back and then say you aren't discussing it again and ignore it. I had to do this sort of thing with DS because it would become a real obsession otherwise. But to reasure you, most children of 4 don't understand time, days, weeks, etc. They live for the day and at a push can distinguish between yesterday and tomorrow and thats about it.

I can't beleive what DS did this evening, he and his freind were here and had been told the freind was going home in 5 minutes. I was getting the girls ready for bed and the boys went in the garden to play. I heard DH talking loudly to DS and assumed he was telling him to get his shoes on but all of a sudden DS comes into the bedroom crying his eyes out saying I didn't mean to I didn't mean to! It turned out that he had taken both back door keys and had been in the garden banging the hell out of them with a rock. The keys were semi circle shaped by the time he'd finnished! We now couldn't lock the back door and I have been out today and bought train tickets for a day trip with a freind, if we can't lock the door we can't go out and the train tickes are wasted and the freinds and my daughters are let down and upset. The reason DH was annoyed is that he kept saying he didn't do anything when he was stood there next to the keys with a rock in his hand. He admitted it in the end and just kept saying he didn't know why he did it. DH took the freind home and all I could do was to queitly say "I suggest you get ready for bed and be asleep when daddy gets home" He is still awake even though I sent him to bed at 8 pm. He keeps coming out of his room for no apparent reason and so will now be tired and grumpy tomorrow. Luckily we have found another spare key for the door so can breath a sigh of releif. So, please tell me why he did it?

Sorry but no! My son is the same, all the time. Everything he says starts with Mummy, so it's mummy mummy mummy mummy all day long here. Its usually annoying but it was his last day at school today and I'm sure that by Friday I will already be frazzled. His sisters will be copying too.

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I first thought about DS being ADHD when he was about 18 months and I was at my wits end with his lack of sleep and imense energy, he needed constant attention all day every day and had to be at my side at all times. He wasn't really naughty as such in that he didn't like those typical boy things like fighting etc he just had boundless energy and would screem and tantrum beyond the limits of what a person can put up with! I bought Chris Greens Toddler Taming book to see if it could tell me where I was going wrong and there is a really good section in there about ADHD and has tick lists to see if your child could be showing signs. I think he has written a book just about ADHD but I'm not completely sure about that. I also have The Dummies guide to ADHD which is very good too. I like to research things as you can see There are loads of websites about it and the NAS website has info about it too and lots of links that take you to good sites. Its funny what you say about your husband, mine is confused at the moment because this evening I am in a lot of pain due to a rheumatiod arthritus flare up. I have still showered the girls, done their hair and walked/crawled up and down 2 flights of stairs dealing with my son and still he isn't giving me any sympathy for the state I'm in. I can laugh now because we have both realised that he is probably Apergers himself because everything that comes up about DS he thinks is ok and he has told me to tell the consultant that the reason he hasn't been supportive of me is that he thought all was well because he is just like his son! I thought that was very brave of him. I would love to hear from you or Bid with any tips you can give me about being an adult with Apergers because I used to think he was just hard hearted but now I am starting to understand. Sorry this is long. They always are!

To be honest it doesn't sound as if they'll miss out on anything because you are trying so hard to make sure they don't by the sound of it. You sound like a great mum. My DH hasn't got any empathy, the other day one of my daughters had a sore leg and sat beside him crying her eyes out and waiting for a cuddle, he just sat there an didn't move to put his arm around her or anything and I had to tell him to do it and he couldn't understand that she just needed cuddles. BUT she just wanted to be near him, she adores him and still cries when he leaves for work every day. Your kids will be the same, they will love you and as far as they are concerened everything you do will do will be right for them just because you are their mum. If you need your space tell them, I do! I get annoyed if they are all over me all the time and feel clostraphobic, it won't do them any harm if you leave them to it for a little while so you can get some air. I go to another room or pop outside the back door for a ciggie just to free my brain for 10 minutes, they know I need it and will be happier when I come back.

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Babies are hard, for everyone. I found mine hard anyway because they can't tell you what they want and when so youre not alone so don't worry about it being because you have Apergers, I'm pretty sure I haven't got Apergers but I struggled too <'> Me and DH firmly beleive that there is a secret club of parents who will never tell you that babies are very hard because everyone else seems to cope much better than you and say how easy it is! After a while they start being honest and tell the truth that they find it hard too. Grannies and just about everyone who isn't mum or dad always find it easier to settle your baby because they are detatched and can ignore the crying and fussing. We are programmed to run to our babies every cry because we FEEL their crys everyone else just hears them - it's different. Babies love routine, a lot of women use the Contented Little Baby Book by Gina Ford. You may find it useful because it outlines routines for the baby and tells you exactly what to do and when for feeding/changing/bathing/sleeping. I didn't use it myself because I'm not very good at routines but a lot of people think it's great. With my lot I did the same every night to get them to sleep. I bathed them then took them to their room to give the last feed of the day at about 8-9 pm, when they were in their cots I would read a story and sing them twinkle twinkle to them and leave the room. I did that every night. They had a dimmer switch which I turned right down till you could barely see. When they woke for a feed a few hours later I would feed them without turning up the light and never spoke, everything was kept very quiet. If their nappy needed changing I would do it without talking to them but if they had only done a wee I wouldn't and put them straight back in the cot and leave the room without talking. I wanted them to know that at night I wouldn't be playng or singing or interacting at all so they knew it was sleep time. During the day I did the same thing for naps but obviousely without the bath. If they did cry when I left the room at bed time I would try to ignore it for a few minutes and they would often just settle down to sleep on their own. If your baby like to suck your fingers for comfort you could either put her own thumb in her mouth when she cries to see if she wants to suck of give her a dummy which may her her to settle on her own a bit more quickly. My son didn't sleep much and the only thing that would settle him was listening to Classic FM on a little radio in his room very quietly! I tried every radio chanel at this was the only one that worked. Some babies like a little background noise to lull them to sleep. If you think this is all patronising rubbish because youve done it all before then feel free to swear at the monitor and I won't be upset at all. I just thought I would put down what I did because it may be helpful.

My boy makes noises and isn't aware he's doing it. Less so this last week but when he's stressed it's constant.

I really really wouldn't push to have the varruca frozen off, it is very painfull indeed and it also didn't work in my case. It blistered an area on the bottom of my foot about a centimeter round and I found it ver painful to walk for a few weeks afterwards. Seriousely, if you want to get your son into the doctors again please don't make him have his varruca frozen, I was an adult and I would rather pour metholated spirits into a large open wound than have to go through that again. The doctor thought it was funny!! They do go away on their own eventually, mine took a few years my but son's took about a year. All kids get them at some time or another and you can still go swimming with them, it's not like the life guards are going to check everyone's feet on entering the pool and that is probably where he caught it from in the first place.

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What do you mean, up untill DS was about 5 he thought my car did have a toilet! It was the wheel and he always had to use it everytime we drove along a certain road at a certain place. His wee always had to go through the holes in the hub cap perfectly. I thought all cars had a wheel toilet!

Hang on a minute, you sound like a very very intelegent, strong, and amazing person to me. You acheived all those things before you had a "label" but you are still that person, you always were that person as far back as birth! The only thing that is different now is that you have an extra piece of paper in your drawer saying you have Autism. You still a teacher, a university graduate, a prize winner etc etc etc, you are far more than I have ever been that is for certain! Have some of these <'> <'> <'> Mwah xxx

<'> <'> <'> What a nightmare! I hope he has a better night tonight so you can have a good rest. I really don't know how they can manage on so little sleep. Could you give him piriton at night for the hayfever? I hear it makes them drowsy too