rainbow queen

my son hated this last time they did it i made a magicians costume and hat which he point blank refused to wear. this time i thought he wouldnt but at last min said he would wear policeman hat and top what he had for xmas-i think he only wantwed to cause my younger son in nursery wanted to wear that.he only wore it though cause its now familiar with him from xmas -i couldnt of got him in a costume that he doidnt know about -hence the policeman outfit had nowt to do with his fav book but i let him do it anyway lol

yeah hes gone weird since he joined that scienctology they believe in all sorts of rubbish,hes been brainwashed because they want some of his cash. i think david icke is more normal than him,reading one of his books at moment ,infinite love is the only truth-everything else is illusion

jen that is like my son he did that test and they said he would have to be closely monitored in the future that was when he was about 2 so i left it a while then i started writing letters saying how i dont agree,the consultant has since put his name down for camhs waiting list as i have actually now demanded that i want a proper dx now. hes 5 in june and its still ongoing......... problem im having is now with school saying theres nothing wrong i also asked to be reffered to the place in london and my gp was all for it but she got turned down regarding they wont fund it so now im just pushing as best i can

hiya i dont have this problem but saying hi to you,although i am getting more grey hairs/some hair has fell out to do with all the stress.

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<'> <'> hi tally hope your ok i split up with my boys dad because of mental/physical abuse it was very hard to do i hope you get support to help you,and get a solicitor,womens aid can get you a support worker to help you-counselling ect... i was in the relationship for 5 years,and had to go to court alot and have police involved[had panic button in my house],ended up with a life time court order agaisnt him from coming near me or the boys or in a radius near my house or my parents. it was a nightmare and you should be proud of yourself for leaving,cause i know its not as easy as it looks. please take care luv marie x <'> good forum i have used in past is http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk lots of womens experiences of leaving on there, also ones who are trying to leave ,and ones who still live with it.it helps not to feel alone in this and to accept help -because you need extra support to give u the strength to get through it-take one day at a time,and keep in mind you r doing the right thing-u do not deserve this kind of life for the next 10 years so get out now .xxx

think thats good i have rules too but never have had them down in writing before or gone through them and got son to sign im going try it though sounds good .i will try anything to see if it works.

sorry to bother i guess we all hear this all time but im starting to feel weak with it all i took son to party and it was not bad going considering-he went off doing his own thing-dont partake in the group stuff its when i have to get him to leave places he started screaming really high pitched and shouting im going punch u in the face ect..... all other parents watching he got a balloon that he was really chuffed with-got home screaming continues cause he hates coming in the door and bedtime runs upstairs and pops balloon then says i did it=keeps blaming me for everything he says the boy whos party it was his mum is nice and he hates me cause i shout alot and im no good mum im starting to feel no good-i ending up giving him a smack which i now feel really bad about the thing is i have no dx of as so i find it hard to say things to the other parents and i end up just saying hes got problems and thats it. feel so cr*p at it all its getting worse-im really doubting my ability to care for him as he gets older i can see its going from bad to worse[5 in june] on top of all this people are not listening to me regarding hospital/school ect....... sorry for moaning-im going go bed and hope tomorrow is better[which never is ]

lol at lou lou i know its not funny at time sorry its the way i saw it in my head as i also do this with my son ignore it and folk most likly think fancy not saying anything.

ive seen this before do think there is truth in it-i have one but hardly use it at all i also read in the paper recently that cordless phones-landline types are now considered unsafe bit like the microwave emitts bad stuff like pylons/mobile phone masts-for a long distance even can effect you in another room wondered what veiws were on this-as i have cordless phone too.

yeah i agree roy cropper and his mate-they said that they were picked on at school too because they were different .

im same as florrie i was also on them and weaned myself off when i was pregnant and it was awfull-it felt like electric shocks everytime i moved-i totally couldnt leave house and had to go bed i was so scared.in all it lasted well over a couple weeks till it had gone. you should tell your gp really i had to have a call out visit as my heart was racing really bad with it. i couldnt say if i felt really down after stopping them as i was 3 months pregnant too so had all those hoermones going round which i think stopped me going on a downer. after son was born i went straight back on another kind which i like better than seroxat

<'> <'> <'> thought it was only me who was a hermit i also feel like this alot also my sons behaviour has expanded on this-which makes you even more less likely to go to situations in case of meltdowns ect..... i found it still has impact on me even if im on my own now-think cause its kinda conditioned me now. <'> <'> <'>

glad you told them ,[im finding doing that very hard to do seeing as my sons in a no mans land with no dx yet-and the way things are going doubt if he ever will get one--i know hes not as bad as alot of children with probs but its still there all the same and as im his mum i feel i shouldnt just keep quiet to please the teachers/hospital ect....] i also get the "hes lacking in confidence" jargon too. and just like you said when you left the school that a melt down occured over positon of your car thats exactly what i get/and other similar stuff and yes it too happens right outside the school door so hence it must be me then -its really me with the probs because i got a naughty child,and as its occured outside school and at home its not there prob.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO TYLERS MUM AND PAULA

not sure what to advice but sure the others know better just saying i know how madding all this is as i just recieved ot report and its rubbish and they have also not took on board what i said ,and this report will also be asked for by the dla-for the mobilty section which ive just applied for my boy. its so never ending -ive never known anything like this before-its like living in the twighlight zone you speak they agree you come home then get a report discounting everything you just said im still new to all this but from what ive seen this tends to be the general picture

HAPPY BIRTHDAY HOPE ITS OK

i think he is good to like his lyrics alot -explain alot about love ect.... had cd for xmas

thank you for all the help i have rang up and lady is on holiday but told someone else how not happy and told her im writing a letter about all of it which ive just finished to night going to photo copy it first before sening though.

<'> <'> <'> some days it really gets to you my sons recent thing is telling me he will get the police cause im a naughty girl and he will put me in the bin for a week. and also tell the teacher about me to which i reply go on then be great to have a chat to her about this. and also hes going send me away and get a new mummy from another house

am still fuming and now feel really down about the whole lot i really think that all the lot of them want me to say "OH HANG ON A MIN LETS FORGET THE LOT ITS ME THE MOTHER ISNT IT CAUSE IVE GOT DEPRESSION AND IM SINGLE MUM AND HAD ABUSIVE EX .THATS WHAT IT IS -NOTHING MORE IM IMAGINING ALL THESE THINGS WITH MY SON. leave her to it ,cause theres nothing wrong feel so alone in all this,in fact its so ironic my nephew has AS and hes only been dx after all these years of being odd ect..... maybe thats what they want me to do just give up. sorry for rambling on i feeling all mixed up now.got appointment soon with hospital consultant and this time im taking my sister for help. sick to the back teeth of all the lot

hi ive just had the ot report and it is rubbish to say the least. i cant understand why no one listens to me on first appointment he would not co operate with her in the clinic,and they wrote,mum had many concerns about sons overall development[motor,self care,behavioural] and exprssed concerns about dyspraia /autism. out come son did not respond within clinical setting refusing to communicate or co operate with any activities-mother said this was fairly typical of his interaction at home. from observations within class no ot difficulites were identified [motor,behavioural,self care social or academic] there was no behaviour observed to indicate dyspraxia or autism nor were any concerns reported by his school--when in fact it was the school nurse who asked them to see him this is a complete joke and i am now fuming as there was no indications observed to require ot he will be discharged why dose this keep happening ,,can some one help me ? i rang up and its answer phone but im going write back with all my notes on him,any advice onthis? am i right in complaing about this?

also have this too,some days i am determined to make it work out good and my son will grind it down until it ends in tears. so i no longer give myself high expectations and i try to have at least one good thing to look foreward to either,choc bar or new bath foam ,to a new cd or just something to keep me moving through it all. also im learning myself to ignore the enticement to get involved in further argument-which is quite hard work but some things are not worth the battle. as my boys are off this week i have ben making sure we are out and i get them walking alot and running about in park find it puts stop to about third of the moaning and wineing,leaves them shattered and they seem to be a bit happier after it. im also trying to curb my shouting back as i end up feeling guilty and more worked up.

think thats good halleys comet i recently have started going to church again, i used to go as a child but have started up again due to all the problems i have encountered in my life and with my son. it is good to let go and trust god will guide you and help you,i have felt the need to get involved more with the church for me and my sons sake-am getting christened and confirmed in march. also have problems with anxiety and depression-take medication for.

thank you everyone for replying i will check all the stuff out what you all said,when i get bit free time xxx