rainbow queen

i know what you mean about the school saying how good he is at stuff- im also getting that too-and it makes us look negative when we have to point out the things/concepts/social side of things i dont really know what to advice as im fairly new at this lot too all i know is dont give up-i dont care anymore if they think"god its that mivering mother again" because we know are children more than they do-they only get to see one side of it

yes suze she was a very nice lady-most informative and understanding-i agree with that in fact shes best one ive seen up to now

well shes been and gone i didnt get any straight answers except he dont need to attend a special school,he has autistic traits,but nothing fully in her face she can see,hes oppsitional,likes things in certain order,could see he wont let u play with him without him controlling it,ect..... she cant say much cause she wants to see what camhs say yet again i feel let down i told her how its effecting my life but they will not commit to anything although she did see my son in action tonight[screaming,ect.....] as he paints different picture at school] shes going to do a report[wow-another one-that makes me feel so much better ] i am doubting myself alot-going to stop trying for a while now-its wearing me out still awaiting dla outcome as it dropped from high to low and ive contested it-guess they waiting for her report[waited over 11 weeks],i just hope it goes back up -hope her report is explaining enough.

seen her at school other week,shes making home visit-do you know what will come of this??? i hope she really listens to me explained lots last week-she admitted she can see autistic traits in my son this is 3rd time hes seen her-first time was at cdc when he was very young-but now hes speaking more-all the literal stuff is more obvious am i getting there guys???? still waiting for camhs

just read your post hope your all ok? havnt got any advice as my sons only 4 ,but that sounds really frightening,i would like to know what people suggest-as my son is quite bad with me and hes only 4-and i can see me having same probs in a few years

just read this post guys how did you come to get the medication for your kids? should i be asking about medication? or did the drs suggest it? how bad do things have to be to get some? finding things real hard at mo waiting for camhs appointment no one has mentioned medication to me? any advice thankyou all

hello just liked to say your not alone-my 4 year old is wild with my 3 year old,constant day in day out,never ending. they are like magnets when they get together -i have to drag them apart-biting ,pushing,hitting ,kicking,wacking,punching,,,,,,,,,it never ends. i know how you feel although ive only got 2. im awaiting camhs appointment. i am really starting to doubt my ability to cope with them,good god the thought of them being teenagers is giving me grey hairs no one seems to help much-and ive been on lots of parent courses too!!!!

what a nutter

thats awfull-my parents live in council flat with that alarm system to-they have to pay something like �6 a week or month for the alarm. they should come round and test them alot-i would find out if they had -or why they havnt-if i was you id feel like sueing them they also take ages to answer the button-i really cant see how if u were having heart attack and u pressed it-theres no reply for 10 mins,by then you collapsed,how on earth its ment to save elderly tennants.

hi-i have same probs too agree it seems to be the power struggle with the transition-cause once they doing it they dont mind it seems to be the getting there process such a drain of energy-im getting used to it now though i tend to ignore the moans/groans/screaming and hitting and all the rest as find its useless trying to put your point across my moto is "JUST DO IT" now talk about it later-lol

i think the "we will see" is a good answer i use this alot as if i happen to say yes-it leads to major trouble if i dont follow through,and of course the no causes it as well. i try to distract alot to get off the subject-naughty i know but we are in a no win situation.

what about those little disco light balls-you know the ones with different colours,im sure aldi was having some in recently.

hi my son will give me a hug-but only when he wants to[like most of the others],as he needs help dressing /undressing he sometimes crys and moans if i touch him,or say catch my nail on him or brush his skin-its as if it really hurts him. he hates having face washed,wont wear a hat,dislikes gloves, he also stands in your personal space,but he needs space from me or his brother if hes on one and wont let you near him or let you even glance at him.

hi tylers mum-although my 4 year old only started school in sept i can see i will also be heading down your track with all this-i can see it coming understand everything you said keep strong

NO SNOW IN CHESHIRE-------YET,ITS ON ITS WAY SOON

welcome. my nephew has aspergers/ocd /tourettes my 4 year old is under assessment-for autistic spectrum and been dx with global develpmental delay. this forum is excellent lots of support-help-and advice

my son is 4 and still in nappies at night[still wets them through] took months getting him out of them in the day-had to have a friend to help me it was such hard work-did a sticker chart and had box chocs in bathroom -1 choc for a wee 2- for a poo[did help a bit]. he was still in them when he started nursery-in the end i had to send him in in underpants and he just had to learn through soiling them[nursery had lots of spare clothes given in from me] still got probs though he wont wipe his bum after poo poo, refuses to go to any toilets except for my house or grans-cause we still use the toddler seat and he still needs it. holds it in at school till hes in pain with tummy-told school he needs to be made to go-not just asked if he wants to go as he will say no. and not sure how old you leave the nappies on at night-but know hes not ready for that at all

thanks everyone for advice

theres only 18 months between my sons -and 4 year old has the probs but 3 year old is now doing same things cause he thinks its normal behaviour-its dreadfull 2 of them at it-really grinds u down.

hi guys its my other sons 3rd birthday next sunday-and im dreading it as my 4 year old can not handle him getting presents and attention[hence we now do not do partys in my house-ever] feel sorry for my younger son, i tryed showing 4 year old the pressys before hand and including him in wrapping them up-he managed a book -then total fell out with me- feeling very low at moment-everythings a struggle and feel heartbroken over us never going be able to do the norm stuff. i go for great periods feeling strong and battle on,then every so often it all comes too much and i break down. autistic therapist saw him at school last week and calling at home next week-still awaiting camhs appointment. its never ending is it???

big hugs to you -know how u feel. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx think your doing brill copingxxx

my 4 year old is same at home he bulleys his 3 year old brother something awfull, i too can not leave them in same room for a min i do shifts on them too one stays in one room while i see to other cause when they come gether all hell breaks loose,mainly cause my 4 year olds probs with taking everything literal-and confusion over conversations-which then lead to major blow out. it is very hard work,i cant even go to the loo[i have to take one with me to make sure nothing starts up],or one in the kitchen with me other in living room,ect................

i was also told my son is hyper mobile and he had pedro boots when he was bit younger with inserts in to help- i may consider asking about them again[free] as he still seems so clumsey and walks odd/shaky. it will really is hard work to get him to keep up and walk-he was in a buggy for lot longer than he should of-because it was easyer that way. even now at 4 he struggles,and can freeze up on pavement over slightest thing which usually occurs if we disgreeing on something!!!!!!!!!!! which is very often he hardly ever looks where he is going and will walk on edge of footpath,has no road sense and makes me really nervous-i have to be really concentrating on him all the time as hes very much a liability

to lil me- i been on council list for 4 years-i completely mucked up my chances by going into private rented propertys,and i lost all my points,ive tryed many times with no sucess,i wrote to my local mp and i belive this is what strengthed my case-you should try it,also my money situation /sons probs/and condition of this house that im in[very damp-no yard or nothing-cant open windows-gas bill sky high-house is freezing ect,,,,,,,,,,,,,,] but really feel the mp helped alot,as he goes to head ones,for you,to see what can be done. i know how you feel too,all i can say is to write letters to them till they get sick of you-i found i could write better than talking face to face.

thanks lil me.i will give it a go. about the housing-i think i wrote it down wrong i have been offered a council property and am waiting for keys-it is 3 bedroomed -have 2 boys-but because of older ones probs,he can not share,in fact he cant be left in room on his own for 5 mins with his brother so i have at least one piece of good news,[have fought long battle for council house] energy is dwindling very low at mo but i will not be defeated