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Hello and welcome to the forum. danaxxx

Hi and welcome to the forum. danaxxx

Welcome to the forum. danaxxx

Hello and welcome to the forum. danaxxx

Thank you all for your replies. It seems to me that dreams for my son have the same importance as everyday life. He told me that each night he dreamed that he spoke with Jesus, asking Him for advice what to do at school. His relationship with his teacher was not good. She didn't understand his difficulties and often treated him like a naughty child rather than the child with ASD, although she tried hard and put a lot of pressure on him to achieve academically. She was often angry at him. My son found very difficult to cope at school this year (still finds) and from a happy child last year became a child who can barely wait the school to finish. However, this has changed now a bit after his breakdown at school, a couple of weeks ago when he told his teacher with tears,I have never seen him so upset, (in front of me and SENCO) that he was dreaming every night that she was beating him (he didn't believe me when I told him that this was not going to happen) , that she hates him, and wants him expelled out of school. He also told her that he made a chart with HER behaviour towards him and that he ticked more bad than good!! I offered to negotiate and asked ds what he didn't like about his teacher's behaviour, to put it on paper. He came up with things like: Not to shout at him (he gets scared), to give him more time to think. Since then, his teacher changed her behaviour and doesn't shout at him and my son is happier now.His teacher is now happier with his behaviour as well. From Easter he will get TA 21 hours. I hope that she will understand him and he will not have bad dreams about her as well. danaxxx

Hi, My son (has ASD) told me that he was killing spiders last year because he dreamed one giant spider in front of our house and he was afraid of it.. He was also upset on his treacher and told her that he dreamed that she was beating him with a stick and he believes that she will do it. She and SENCO had to reasure him that this will never happen. Recently, I observed that he keeps putting coasters up side down. I asked him why he did it and he told me that he dreamed that the pictures from the coasters 'spread' to his own favourite pictures.(printing pictures of his favourite characters is his main obssesion). I know that the main problem for children with ASD is mixing fantasy with the real life but I don't know if this is also common. Danaxxx

Well done! I am looking forward to it. Danaxxx

Thanks for these links. They are really good. I have been looking for something like this. danaxxx

Hi Nicky, I am glad your son will finally get more support. It is helpful to have a supportive SENCO. I would just like to add that when my son got the draft of his statement there was not specified how many hours of support he would have but in the final statement there was. I was told that this is the way they do it. Anyway, it is a really good news. Danaxxx

Hi Sally. <'> >< <'> I am really sorry this happened. Maybe involving private reports would help? I wish I could give you some more advice. Take care. Danaxxx

Hi, we applied for the Family Fund recently for a computer for my son (10 and has ASD) and we got it. In fact, they didn't give us money but sent the computer to our home. I would stromgly suggest you to try Family Fund. The only thing is that it takes ages until you get the answer (we waited more then 6 months!). You can download their application form online. Good luck. Danaxxx

Hi, I really enjoyed our meeting today! My husband was very much amazed when I told him that we stayed 3 hours in Pizza Express. Danaxxx

Hi Smilie, I liked your poems you posted here and wish you good luck with publishers. BTW, I've recently written a short novel myself and also looking for a publisher. Danaxxx

Hi and welcome to the forum. My son has ASD and is also 10. Before I joined this forum I felt like an outcast. Here I found a lot of good and friendly advice. Danaxxx

Hello and welcome to the forum. Danaxxx

Hi and welcome to the forum. I have a son (10) who has been dx with ASD and severe Dyspraxia recently. Danaxxx

Welcome back. Danaxxx

Hello and welcome to the forum. It is hard to fill DLA form (for several different reasons) but you can find an excellent guidance on the Cerebra website as well as NAS website. (National Autistic Society) My son(10) also has ASD and the money we get from DLA helps us very much. If you get it, the child tax credit also goes up. This forum is a nice and friendly place. It helped me get out of isolation last year. Danaxxx

Hi, I will be there too on 13th and don't mind walking to a different Pizza Express (as long as it is Pizza Express). I don't know how many heads I have got at the moment! Danaxxx

Hi Sally, I am really happy for you and your son and that he found the place where he can feel valued. We have to take everything what professionals say with a pinch of salt because life is sooooooo unpredictable! Danaxxx

<'> >< <'> Thinking of you and wish you a fast recovery. Your health is the most important now and do not worry about work too much, what other people will say. You are not a fraud! You know how ill you are! Wish you all the best. Danaxxx

Hi, 12h is ok with me but not earlier because I don't live in London. Looking forward to meeting you all again! BTW, Yellow cross and Pizza Hut on 13th sounds good to me. Danaxxx

Thanks Paula and Sally for your replies. I do take this seriously and definitely mocking it is not something I would do! My son tells me every day about his conversations with Jesus. He tells him about his worries at school, ask advice fromHim how to behave, how to deal with bullies. On Friday he got a badge at school for a good behaviour for three days and told that to Jesus in his dream. Jesus told him that it was Him who did it for my son. I told my son that Jesus helped him but that it was my son who behaved nicely at school and diserved the badge. The fact is that my ds has very difficult times this year at school. His new teacher doesn't really understand his difficulties and putting a lot of preasure on him. I don't mind that she wants him to achieve academically but too much preasure, I think, is not good for him. IT is the right measure that is difficult to find. On top of that, this teacher has a tendency not to belive him when he complains about bulling. His problem is that he finds difficult to express himself and acurately discribe thesituation and in order to do it he changes his story which he teacher interprets as if he is lying and wants to get other children in trouble. He cries to me that nobody believes him and when somebody bullies him he often does not tell his teacher 'because she will not believe him'. She tends to believe other children rather than taking time to find out what really hapened. The example was what happened at the Christmas party. He saw two boys hugging each other in his classroom and said to one of them that he loved the other. He simply stated what he though he saw. The boy didn't like what my son said and started arguing with ds. Some of my son's bullies told the teacher that he was calling the boy names and she throwed my son out of the party. When I came to pick him from school I saw him sitting alone on the floor and talking to himself in the classroom next door while all the other children where enjoying the party! When I asked the teacher what happened she told me that my son was naughty and called the boy names. Than I asked that boy what happened and if ds was calling him names and he said that HE DIDN'T! He even came with me to the teacher and told her that. She was confused but didn't apologised for her mistake. I am not saying that my son's behaviour is always good (and I always support the schools efforts to crrect it)but I think if he doesn't behave he should be properly explained why he shouldn't and the fact that he finds diffcult to express himself and explain what happens should be taken into consideration (he does that at home as well and I have to be patient to give him time until he finds the right word or sentence, this is also due to his severe Dyspraxia). Although his year 6 teacher is trying to help him she does not know how and find difficult to understand his difficulties. I tried to speek friendly with her severel times and keep trying (I would hate to argue with her, so trying to do it nicely since I believe that she wantto help, but it is hard). The year 5 teacher was much more understanding of his needs and he was really happy then. Now, every day he is talking to me about the holiday in July and talks about it in details and can barely wait the school to finish. I am sorry my post was soooo long. Danaxxx

Thank you all for your replies. I liked your poem very much, Baddad. Even now sometimes I dream myself that I am flying but unfortunately never very high. It is usualy over the steps and close to the ground. Still, it is a nice feeling. My son goes to the church school so maybe thats why he thinks of Jesus so much that he even dreams about Him. Danaxxx

I am sorry, but I don't understand how ' distant dx' has anything to do with Sally's OP? In my opinion, Sally made her point quiet clearly. The way I see it is: 1. The fact is that results show that her son is not making any progress with reading. In contrary, he IS regressing, therefore he needs help. 2. His school say cannot do more for her son. However, her son needs more help and, perhaps, a different aproach in teaching him that his school is not willing/cannot provide. 3. In order to change this situation, Sally wants her son to go to a special school with a hope that they can help her son more. 4. How can she move her son from mainstream to special school? I am sorry I cannot help you, Sally, because I don't have any experience in this but I hope that you will find the best solution for your son soon. <'> Danaxxx