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<'> <'> <'> Sounds very similar to many a day ive spent.Wold war 3 springs to mind. Ill be sat tearing my haire out next week when its half term.Well al be argueing and yelling the air will be blue with swearing. Family life aint it great. Hubby will be saftely at work comeing home dareing to ask why im tearing me haire out and ready to kill !!!!!!!!!!!!! Hope you have a better day tommorrow.

My Nt daughter has missed out i guess on so many things because our As son made it so difficult to do things that we just didnt bother. She went through a phase were shed yell at me and occasionaly still does that i prefer him to her because hes not normal and how she hates his guts. She was kinda right in a way i do spend a lot of time with him.Inow make a concious effort to go out with her and hit the shops,have lunch out spoile her a bit. She also has a freind over regulary to sleep and do girl stuff.Yes at first her borther tried to muscle in on the action and drove them mad.But after a few times he got fed up and wandered away. Im very very guilty though of letting my daughter have whatever she wants.Ie money clothes anything as soon as she asks she gets.Why because i feel so guilty.Unfortunaltley as they get older shes now 14 they cotton on to this very fast and can play you for a mug.

My son once un beknown to us spent all day removeing stones from our driveway and hideing them god knows where in his bedroom. Later on when i went to check he was ok in bed and asleep i found him lid out on his matress with all these stones underneath him like a bed of nails except they were stones !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Theyd not been there before so hed obviously retreved them from a hideing place and laid them out specially to get into bed onto. We named it his bed of paine.But he looked realy comfy. He wasnt happy when i got him out and took the stones away.We never found out what it was all about. Hey Daisy i hope you didnt kick on of these towels out of line.!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My son likes lineing up cars all in a neat line and his rotton nt sister just deliberatly boots one ever so slightly out of line and all hell breaks loose.She s a begger i tell you she reckons she doesnt understand his AS but actions like these mean she knows exactly what sets him of on a rant.

Trinny is far far too thin isnt she realy when you look at her and shes got a bit of a trout pout going on.Plus there doestn appear to be any lines on her face her face doesnt move.A bit odd for a women in her late 30s i think my 14 daughter has more lines and crows feet. I prefer suzannas body shape at least she can fill her jeans and tops although she is a bit of a dragon.

Brilliant. All kids are stars and an autistic kid is a shooting star.Everyone notices them.

hectorhouse Thanks for being so so honest. i too have suffered from bullimia and at times have been extreamly underweight.Im going to be realy open and honest here.When i was thin too thin i also had no boobs,my backside was so bloomeing boney that i couldnt sit down with out it hurting.You could count the ribs on my back and i was constantly breaking out in cold soares.I was very drawn in the face and looked terrible.But hey i was in a size 8.Not worth it i tell you. My moods were also all over the place i was a nightmare to live with. Im now 36 will be 37 this month and although its hard coz once youve had a well established eating disorder its always there i have gained weight.I can now fill a bra it doesnt hurt to sit in a bath and my face looks younger coz the skin isnt hanging of the bones and causing lines.Im happy most of the time and best of all i can enjoy meals out and holidays rather than thinking oh god what will be on the menu. Marilyn manroe im sure was a curvy size 16 and is a beauty icon.We need more women like this>For me Fern Britton is bloomeing fantastic.Shes happy full of life and eats chocalate on live tv instead of picking at it. Ive a 14 year old daughter and im very very aware that some of my eating habbits have rubbed of on her.Shes a beautifull young women who is obsessed with her weight. I also have ibs and its horrid a legacy of my ed.My stomach blows up and i cant put on jeans i then suffer horrendous bouts of diareha(cant spell it) All these things arent talked about they should be.Thats the reality of constantly denyeing yourself food and striveing for an unnatural stick thin figure.

Normal sized women are now been made to think there outisized.When ive gone into shops and asked for a size 14 ive been looked at as though im some sort of freak by a ultra skinny size 8 assistant.Then told we dont do outsized clothes !!!!!!!!!!!!! Men dont have specific sizes on ther clothes do they.Its waiste size and leg lenth.How come women are specific numbers so that the larger number you are the worse youre made feel. I tell you why because were daft enough to beleive the fashion industry who say unless youre 5 ft 10 and a size 8 then youre not normal or attractive.We buy into this brainwashing and i think were our own worse enemy at times.

One of the most heart wrenching things id to witness was last year when my son took part in a swimming gala competion thingy through his school. I was under the impression that it was an event only consisting of special schools but how wrong i was. Id to sit and watch my son and other special needs kids some with cerablal palsey compeate against nt kids.Ever single one of those special needs kids gave it there whole and every one came last.It absolutley broke my heart seeing my son try so hard and basically be left metres from the start line whilst the others had finished.I was so proud of him yet i was fighting back the tears. The parents of the Nt kids were whooping and a hollering shouting come on oh god hes come second or that wasnt his /her best time and i fealt sick inside. What made it even worse was that medals were handed out and of course none of the kids from the special school got anything because theyd not come in the top three of any race. He wont be taking part againe. But is that for him or to spare me i dont know.Maybe if im honest for me.I left that building devestated as the reality i dont normally see was laide out bare in front of me.I never want to feel that againe.

hev Ive struggled with my weight for years.Im not over weight but have at times been very very underweight due to not eating in an attempt to loose weight and conform to the media steriotype of what is supposed to be attractive. Ive also done the sitting all day and eating every thing i can get my hands on.Whole 6 packs of crisps,.packets of biscuites peanut butter straight from the jar none stop eating.Not even hungry but when im bored down depressed its a comfort. Then it hit me god ive spent virtually all my adult live not enjoying food constantly worrying about what im eating or not eating.Its bloomeing daft when you think about it.When i look back on photos i can see that i was of a normal weight yet at the time id been trying desperatley to loose weight.Such wasted years. Since i decided to think sod it.Sod watching what i eat eat what i feel like.yea i guess have more fuite veg home made food i havent craved the so called naughty foods as much and my weight stabalised.I feel so much better. For the record ive also been a memeber of the Eating order association due to bullimia. Food for me maybe for you too isnt about hunger its about emotions and loneliness and being at times really depressed. Yesterday i saw a couple on phil and ferns this morning.They had a daughter aged 19 in a coma with braine damage due to anorexia and then taking an overdose.All due to pressure to be this super slim image.Its tragic.Its not easy but be happy be whatever size you want and if like me now and againe yer think today is a full on chacaholic day so be it. I hope ive helped maybe i havent but weight food as made my life a misery at times i didnt want to think you were alone. <'> <'> <'>

First single good love can never die by Alvin Stardust Ive still got it somewhere.

My son sits and cracks and clicks his knuckles.it makes me squirm.But if i say stop he does it even more.

I think helen as a realy valid point in males clashing whether as or not. As my son approaches puberty hes 12 and As he and his dad are clashing more.Its like our son is pushing the bounderies and trying his arm to see how strong he is. I think if you take a peek behind anybodys net curtaines youll find in reality couples arguing,tensions high and a hell of a lot of agro at times kicking of.Our house on Saturday was a hell hole.Ended up with me packing my husbands clothes and saying sod of dont come back.he was back with in the hour.Just tension pressure.We all love each other realy. No one truely understands the stress haveing any child with a disability puts on you unless youve been there. <'> <'> <'>

<'> <'> <'> <'> Hope everyones better soon.This virus thing is awfull.Everyones had it round my way.

<'> <'> <'> <'> Sounds awfull and id have reacted in exactly the same way.Its like a primevil thing when youre kids are thretened. Thing is though and this sounds like im a realy realy fussy fussy mum and i guess i am.We live opposite a large playing field but im scared to let our 12 year old As son go play over there.So so many times when hes gone across to either play on the swings or kick a ball around and i stress he plays alone it ends in tears because other childre NT kids approach him and even if its done in a freindly way he cant cope and starts to react innappropriatley.He has a meltdwon they start laughing im rushing over there to remove him forcible from the area.God its a nightmare. We kinda came to an agreement that he could go across but if other children arrived he had to come home.I know its not faire but it always kicks of and i cant cope with the fall out. Thank god he acepted this and luckily he doesnt realy like to go across there much. I want him to be normall and interact with the kids but in reality it never happens.Hes left screaming there laughing and im in floods of tears as it hits me smack between the eyes all over againe hes not the same as them. Its hard god its hard.Watching kids his age play and have fun and hes all alone. But he seams happy enough.

My son was sevearly constipated with anal leakage. yet still refused to sit on a toilet and have a poo.Wed to get some anal supositries that mmade his bowel contract to help him force the poo out.It was a right saga. Anyhows even now its a battle to get him to go.He sits for ages or just leaps of the loo saying cant go when its obvious hes desperate.Ive to force him to stay put and waite. I play hell especially if emerdale and corrie are on the box he goes eventually and always says he feels better. Yuore doing great coz it aint easy.And people laugh when you say they hate the loo and stuff. my son is terrrified of toilet paper has been for years.Ive treid everything.Altering the coolur usieng moist wipes alsorts but to no avail.He just refuses to touch it this means he wont wipe his own bottom so unfortunaltly even though hes 12 years old ive to do it. yes ive tried thinking sod yer but the mess doesnt bother him and i dont want him to stink and be sore.Im hope eventually this fear will pass but it takeing years instead of months.

My son also had a fragile x test and we were worried sick.magic cream and a loveley dr helped.Our son didnt bat an eyelid apparently. I chose not to be present when they took the blood.I know it sounds like im a terrible mother but i thought hes more likeley to kick of if im there in the room with him as he might pick up on my anixiety. Good luck with it.

<'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Been there also like every one else. Hope things improove.Were human we do what we can and none of us are perfect but from reading these posts all the mums and dads are comeing pretty close.

Its just finished ive just watched the final. All the woman looked great.id have been dead nervous me scared of tripping over or something. You looked fantastic and well done on looseing more weight though i didnt think you needed to but you looked great.

We used to have a lady come to our home who worked for a children with disabilities organisation. She was fantastic. She used to come as many times a week as i required.her purpose was basically so i had someone to talk to let of steam moan to ect.It was a god send especially in the early days when we couldnt leave the house because of his choanal atresia and then when he started displaying Autistic features. She also used to find out and sort out for me any other services that were available although i never took any of them up. I do think though that ultimatley youre on youre own when it comes to dealing with the kids in the home.And maybe this isnt such a bad thing. Surely too many outside influences would just have made things worse everyone haveing a differing opinion on how to go about dealing with the behavioures. Its a very lonely isolated place though being the parent of a child who doesnt fit in.No one wanted to come to our house not even family because of the screaming and meltdowns and to be honest i dreaded the door bell going because i knew what was to come.

Our son is now 12 and doesnt have much imaginitive play. At first glance if say hes playing with his toy sword he looks like its all comeing from a imagined place in his mind but when you look a little closer hes just reinacting stuff from either a ps2 game or a scene from a filmand trying to copy what theyve done. when he was younger hed no interest in anything .He did have a toy traine that went round on a track but all he liked to do with that was hold it agaisnt his head with the wheels spinning round he did that none stop 24 7 for weeks on end it drove us mad but he must have got something out of it.

Im only a 34 B cup i wish i was a 34 c that would do me. Yer know bras are dear what ever size yer in.Ive to pay ?22 quid for a good uplift bra that makes me look like ive a cleavage. Its a bloomeing con job.Men would never put up with paying so much for so little material. I tell yer what i found that makes yer look young sexy and gorgeous dim lighting.Not full glare.If and when coz its a rare occasion we go out i always look at me self in the mirror in dim lighting i look bloomeing good then.And the fact im supposed to wear glasses but dont helps coz i cant see me self properly last thing i need is to be in focus.

We always go to Bude in north cornwall and stay in either a static caravan or a cottage. Same caravan site same caravan. But this year were staying in a 3 bed self catering cottage cost ?400 for the week in high season August school holidays. Weve been going to Bude ever since our son was a baby.Hes used to it now and likes the place i couldnt face changing the location it took 8 years for him to get used to it id be a pensioner before he got used to anywhere else. Bless his little tinker.

Yea it was the self confidence that shone out after the transformation. We all know that on some days we can put on exactly the same clothes and do our haire and makeup and feel we look terrible but the next day wear and look exactly the same but feel fantastic. This programme i think showed that to look good on the outside you have to feel good on the inside so that it shines through in youre eyes and smile the way you walk and talk.Regardless of surgery. I watch all these type of programmes and always think the women look good before as well as after its there own perception ofthemselves that it wrong. We always zoom in on our so called faults fat backside flabby tummy but no one else notices this. Saying that though if id the cash and was brave enough i wouldnt mind a boob job.Im fed up of being flat chested and haveing to wear a padded push up bra.I look great clothed but when the bra comes of it all goes south and deflates.Any weight i gaine goes on me backside not on me boobs.

Ive watched the whole series of make me perfect. So so brave to undrgo what looks like realy painfull surgery. Personally i think all the women looked great before the surgery and that the surgery they had just helped give them a boost to there self esteem.Everyone looked fantastic afterwards.Did yer get to keep the clothes. Good luck with the live final tommorrow.Ill be watching.

Yep you can refuse to let her see him i bloomeing would. I once totally refused to let the community peadiatricain see our son because she constantly made stupid blatently ignorant comments about our son.I told her straight to her face that i never wanted her to see our son againe. When we went for one of them assesment thingys she was going to be on the panel i was shaking in me boots but in front of all these so called professionals i said i didnt want her present and requested she leave.And yer know what she did. Parents patients kids we have rights we just dont enforce them often enough for fear of being labelled a trouble causer or some mis guided presumption that a dr is a higher being than us. Its cods wallop. Good luck stick to yer guns and stand firm.Sod them.