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DP comes home from work irritable, shattered and often 'feeling unwell' particularly after time off and returning to work as I have discovered this week after him having 2 weeks off (and away from home) he is awful this week. He works 8-4 and has always mworked full time in several jobs and generally after 2 years he is being 'attacked' by other members of staff (usually his bosses) and needs to move jobs... Am hoping now we know why he behaves like he does (since last October) we can put more strategies in place to help his transistion from work to home much easier, unfortunately as he comes in I go out to work as I hold down 3 jobs all to fit around his 1 job and that is half the battle he gets no 'wind down' time after work I do agree you need to work at the social side and I can understand (finally) how exausting it all is, but I guess if you are working part time you get several days respite from it and surely it is better for you socially to be working a little than none at all?

feel ###### knackered if I am honest! Hate the clocks changing about ###### me up for weeks on end

my oldest is 16 and NT and has not mentioned a moped, but there is NO WAY she would have one, not cos I don't trust her, but I don't trust about 95% of other road users out there.

wish I had done mine online for DP would have been so much easier!

casual smartish remember to brush your hair (something I am really bad at doing) and let them see who YOU really are a busy kind and caring Mummy who allocates her time to her family and not her face paint and nails

still waiting to hear from our review, they did write to us today to say they are still deciding, overall this has been ongoing since October 13th 2009! How often do you reapply?

my DD is the same, at nursery she is calm, placid and 'shy' at home she is stressed, limited eye contact and needs routine, gawd forgive me if I deviate from her routine to the slightest (even to the point she tells me which way to drive the car and gets very distraught when I go the 'wrong way') SENCo says no way could she be AS as she is a girl and does not behave like an AS child!! As for your DD hitting her nose til it bleeds, if recorders realyy distresses her enough is there another activity the school could encourage her to do instead? Is it the sound of the screeching recorders? Although I agree to a point we learn by our mistakes, if it is traumatic then there needs to be some addressing to be done xx

we been waiting since last October and have chased numerous times xx

as someone said its empathising xx

thank you, I am very proud of her

darling partner lol

true, but saying that it can take even my 4 kids a while to catch on

weekend foods?

yeah a few schools round here have paid their kids to do well in exams Personally I think the 5 press ups is a reasonable 'punishment' and probably used as a calming method as well, although I find just stopping what I am doing and either waiting for the rest of the children to catch on or clicking my fingers is just as calming in method and a lot happier result afterwards

I do think your son should know his own diagnosis, my children know everything going on that involves them as I could not have them not knowing things When my oldest DD started primary (she is 16 now) so back in 1998 there was a really awful boy in the other class in her year and she would come home with stories of what he had doone etc. I really felt for his Mum at that time because all the other mums I knew would say things about her son really loud that were very nasty and it was clear he had special needs and couldn't 'behave himself' like their perfect kids makes me angry thinking about their disgusting behaviour I always encourage my children to consider why other shildren do or say things that they might not themselves and to be understanding of their needs DD2 best friend is a foster boy with a lot of challenging behaviours, the school do everything they can to keep him calm and noin physical, he has never touched my daughter physically and she has been out with his foster mum and her friend on numerous occasions back to his house (he isn't local either) and there has never been an issue there (he did sit on her glasses once) I have no idea what his official diagnosis is and TBH nor do I care, but I do know the school os doing what they can to help keep him in school and are very encouraging of his friendship with my daughter, I have spoken with the teachers myself about my concerns with him affecting her educationally, but as they sit on different tables that is not affected, socially she can play with who she chooses. I guess in all my waffle I am saying that it is important your son knows why he is different, the children in his class should know there are things he may not be able to control, but its not always necessary to give a full diagnosis to the parents and children.

my son is milk protein allergic and cannot have the lacto free cheeses or goats cheese / milk etc as that still contains traces of milk proteins (he stops breathing as a result of his allergy) He is on neocate which is a prescribed milk from the GP I have bought him fruit pots instead of yoghurt, he loves jelly, check bread as there is often milk powder in there! He has other allergies too and food sensitivity issues so the poor love doesn't get a great choice in what he eats, but he loves sausages and fish fingers and DF choccie spread Buy the PURE butter, I bake him cakes and TBH its not much of an issue now cooking separately for him as I generally cook the same meal, but adapt it to suit him and in a different saucepan! this is a great site http://www.plamilfoods.co.uk/products/

fantastic, could do with him in Kent!

:( AM sad reading that My daughter is a peer mediator at her school, she is in yr 6 and it is a new thing they have started this yr. It means if she spots someone alone she is meant to encourage them to play with her or another child and also the other children can speak to her (or any of the team) if they are concerned about anything in or out of school Think it is a fantastic idea and in fact her best friend is one of the more challenging children in the school and my daughter has been praised for her patience and understanding with his needs and others in the school They have a bright blue baseball cap to wear when they are 'on duty' and it seems to have been received very well so far!

I think you do start noticing things about others when you are more in tune with behaviours I knew I had a child in my class (I teach trampoline) with AS and finally his Mum came up to me and asked how he was doing and I explained he was disrupting the class, inattentive unless it was his turn, couldn't sit still, refused to make eye contact etc. He was also unaware of some of the dangerous things he was doing - putting his feet up in between the springs, throwing his water bottle onto the trampoline under someone jumping, the list goes on. At this point I had said to my colleague he is ASD and she agreed. His Mum then told me he is currently being assessed for ASD and she would take him out the class if he was being a problem! Have put steps into place (with Mum's consent) to deal with the disruptiveness, in other words instead of waiting for his turn next to the trampoline as they are meant to do he does this for the first and last 20 mins and the reast of the time he sits on the bench just behind reading his book This works fantastically for him and me and the other children have been accepting of this change to the rules too. I refuse to have a child leave my class due to behaviours if we can put steps into place to integrate them effectively

Glad you feel you are on the right path and good luck with the GP xx

DP was on citalopram Dec2008 after his first breakdown and TBH it made no difference to him, his dose was upped over the course of the year from 10mg to 40mg Eventually the GP changed him to another medication, but he came off it before it had a chance to see if it worked for him as he is waiting on the mental health team appointment so has been medication free since last October as the GP said he needs to be assessed without meds hazing things iyswim My friend has today been prescribed citalopram for her anxiety and is scared to take it

my DP cannot stand unstructured times, so I have to organise him doing things around the house (he likes stuff like that) but with no money its been really hard to do anything catch 22 eh! No quick results for sure, but even putting timetables and structure into his day will make life far more bearable for all of you xx

dp used to emulate 'normal' behaviour too and would get it sooo wrong in the process lol no wonder we frustrated each other! We started with the australian scale (online) and I think the GP ran something similar according to DP

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how ###### rude of them! Sorry thats made me cross Hope you get somewhere with it as it is out and out exclusion xx