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I didn't have any problems with my mum, she told me straight when I asked her that she always knew I was different. My dad's reaction apparently was "oh" or something similar.

That's excellent news

Sorry your assessment didn't go well Bid. I think a lot of people have a very stereotypical idea of what AS/autism is.

I remember being 13 and AS. I didn't know I was AS then but my experiences were the same. It was a horrible time. But I would like to say something. I still have the same problems, to a large extent, at 31 that I had at 13. However, I also have something as an adult that has helped enormously. I have more choice. I still get stressed out and can't eat in crowded places. So I don't. I find somewhere quieter. I still have appalling handwriting. So I type. I still can't make eye contact. I explain to anybody who asks that I'd rather listen and reply to what they're saying than give the appearance of listening whilst not taking owt in. I still have no concept or wish to be part of peer pressure. At 31 anyone who bases a person's value based on what trainers they've got is a shallow so and so not worth my time.

Thank you for all your help and I hope you pop in when you can.

That's marvellous

Really sorry this has happened

As things stand, I want Ds1 to go to the special school attached to the nursery he attends. If he could cope in mainstream I'd put him in a mainstream school, but it doesn't appear to be an option at the moment.

I can't make eye contact and listen to someone talk at the same time. It feels uncomfortable (imagine a bad itch translated into vision) and I lose track of what's being said to the point I literally can't understand). If I'm just observing it's a little easier. Ds1 makes eye contact now and again, if he's relaxed, but it's a lot less than other children his age.

Hope they have been and it went well.

I think that what is actually happening is the SALT is strongly suggesting ASD and the parents are interpreting this as a definite diagnosis.

I know with myself it was so I could be sure that the reason why I did things some ways and why I had difficulties was for a reason. The label hasn't changed me.

Why on earth are you leaving just because of no formal diagnosis? There are others on here who don't have the official paperwork. It doesn't mean their children aren't on the spectrum, or that they don't need support.

I'd ask for a second opinion.

Not sure what to suggest beyond offering him small amounts of what he normally likes, but I hope he's better soon.

Merry Christmas to everyone

Glad he's at such a good school Ds1 moves up classes at his special nursery in January. Five mornings a week.

It wouldn't hurt to try. I'm wondering if her experiences are realted to children with classic autism and she's presuming that Aspergers is the same as classic autism. There are similarities (that's why it's called the spectrum after all) but there are also differences (eg at your ds's age use of language).

Glad you were listened to (albeit they did listen rather reluctantly) and I hope you get the help you want.

Good luck for next time

Hope you have a nice time

You've reminded me of something. I used to be a very very slow eater. To the point I often got told off for it. I was attention seeking, I was being awkward. I wasn't and I have no idea why I was, I just was. I'm still a slow eater but now it's my choice, bwahahah . Anyway, one day my dad said to me and my sisters that whoever finished first could have a chocolate bar. Have a guess who finished first? Yes, that's right, I did. And yet I can categorically state was that at no point before or after did I deliberately eat slowly to draw attention to myself. So, I can think of two possible explanations. One, I ate at my normal speed and my two sisters deliberately ate more slowly to sort of psychologically suggest that I could eat fast when I chose. This option seems highly unlikely, considering they would have wanted the sweets just as much and they were also children. The other, more likely explanation, is that having the chocolate bar to focus on meant I wasn't thinking about my meal so ate more quickly because of that.

Hope it goes well.

That's excellent news

I'd have been upset as well.