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Hi Didi I have an 11yrold son dx 3yrs ago with ADHD/ODD&another under assessment for god knows what.Im a single mum too I had probs with sons school,they wouldnt hear/believe my worries&I was often looked at as a fussy parent,on one hand they told me i wouldnt get a dx as he can sit still for 20 mins&the next he was put on part time school till he got medication! know how you feel about school.we know our kids better than anyone,but schools seems to think they do cos they are 'teachers'&know it all here if u want a moan

Have a brill time,Turkey is a lovely place! roll on july we off to sunny spain

Totally agree..what happend to 'A Mars a day helps you work rest and plaaaay' lol oh and the Smash Aliens,THEY WERE ACE..so was the milky bar kid..dint av no 'NO WIN....no FEE or CASH forrrrrrr GOLD stuff back then .simplicity at its best..unless im just old&sad

I cant STAND that airfreshener advert wiv the little lad sat on the crapper saying"poo it stinks"..grrr its usually on around teatime too,kids hate it also&press mute on remote when it comes on

Really feel for you,my son does the same&its awful he has dx ADHD&ODD.I take away his things such as fone/games console/internet time/tv etc etc..SEEMS to work for a while then his behaviour goes back down again&we back to square one..swearing,running out of the house then its back to the the punishments&its really draining. he was grounded last night but came in form school at 4pm&ran straight back out&didnt come in till7pm..hes grounded AGAIN..no internet..no games..blah blah. 3wks ago was the last straw,he punched my arms cos I wouldnt let him have a£1 due to his behaviour,school have finally listened,we are trying for statementing again(primary school wasnt interested)things have been put in place for him at school&the parent support adviser is on board to try get me some respite through Barnados(as i dont get ANY,)but today I lost faith as support adviser was supposed to be with me at 10am..no sign,i rang school at 2pm,she told me'sorry sat nav couldnt find you' really feel for you when u feel like your child is getting let down&your trying your absolute best keep going&keep chin up,ive decided now im gonna get on peoples backs to get him what help he needs as they dont think twice about getting on my back when he has a do at school! as for the war zone..right with ya there too,youngest brother under asessment by camhs too for his behaviour&'ways'&the fights are horrendous! I know this post wont have been any help,but at least you know your not on your own&im here for you if you need a moan <'>

hi Daniel,welcome:) Im quite new here too but everyones really helpful

heehee trekster,I used to have an Acorn Electron(so guess im just as old then)lol,they werent exactly the easiest things to load& my tape recorder thingy always seemsed to eat the tape&make silly 'ding..pinggg.duuurr' noises lol I thinks its ace u mastering it at 3.5 years..I couldnt at 8yrs old&i bet I couldnt even do it now lol

well... ds just came storming through the back door in floods of tears,sweating,snotting,dripping,u name it! Was having a chilled glass of wine with my best friend&jumped up to sort it out. ds had gone&sat on the stairs&all I could get out of him inbetween BIG sobs was "hammer...broke..hammer,trouble,me again hammer i thought! EVENTUALLY calmed him down so he could explain.... he&my friends daughter were trying to break up a tree stump in her garden,ds hit it&the hammer snapped in half so he ran home(all of 7 secs away)in bits! from the tears&snot etc i expected to hear 'hammer...window,broke" this wasnt the case,rang my friend&said" I owe u a hammer chick" she was like"oh god noooo,its a cheapo hammer&il borrow yours if need be then on speakerfone she said"you broke my hammer&do you know why??its cos your a BIG STRONG LAD..&I couldnt have done it cos im not as strong as you,big man still took 45 mins to sink in that he wasnt in 'trouble' and it WAS a total accident..bless him! this is an example of what camhs are looking at..EXTREME reaction to something minor...minor reaction to something EXTREME. broken hammer=major upset etc....running into path of car=wots yr problem.heeeeee kids lol

Hiya,Im quite new too so just thought i'd say 'hello'

awwww thats BRILL! Dont reckon I'd have the guts to give out leaflets on the street! so to your son, a very very WELL DONE!

SURE DIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIID

Well here again lol,still tryin to get a grip of this board thingy lol soz if ive gone on¬ bin relevant not so puter lit lol x

Had to get train today to return faulty item to a well know toy store that we dont have in our town...sooo I booked taxi(which we are regular approved customers) for 35 mins before train departed(11mins from home even when busy lol) &after ds checked things eg:meds windows,doors,catfood,water,fish,doors,windows ... we got the taxi!..OK he had JUST taken his ritalin as we ran out for the taxi...oh dear..he was hyper& started poking brother(not good as he under assessment for sensory/behaviour probs etc) I told him to stop doing this,he did..BUT started to push/bang/rock(however u wanna put it?? i cant explain ) on passenger seat were I was sat,I turned around once more to tell him his behaviour was not acceptable& to STOP IT& tried to direct his hands off my seat onto his lap,at which point the driver turned round&shouted "YER u better pack it in OR I'L HIT U ASWELL!" ds put hands up visibly scared&went ""woah ,GOD,SORRY! I didnt register at first what was said as i was too busy trying to calm son/S down,but then it did!for the last 3 mins of journey..SILENCE,not the usual chit chat!Ipaid&got out then rang to complain. sorry for moaning so thats why I thought id SCRRRRRRRRREAAAMMMM love to all

Hiya! It was suggested to me by psych when ds is kicking off&lashing out,to try wrap him in a quilt&hold him so he feels safe&can regain control. ok thats not practical when outdoors as you cant drag a 10tog quilt everywere u go lol what about a special blanket maybe? works for me but all kids are different its just a thought

This is true,my son has dx of ADHD and he can spend ages on the computer or the Wii.His consultant asked at about this at time of dx&I told him he can sit up to an hr on these,maybe more (that was without meds).he said this is typical in many children with ADHD and its called Hyperfocusing. BUTask him to get dressed,he mite make a start then Il find him playing with the hamster cos hes switched off,were as the computer/games are stimulating for him:)

I used to get embarrassed by ds meltdowns in public,now I try to distract him or remove him from the situation&just let him get on with it as long as he isnt going to hurt himself/anyone.the best way I find of calming him down is to hold him face first to my chest and put my arm round his ears,I can feel his heartbeat start to slow down and feel the tension drain away from him. in the past we have been stared at&ive kinda smiled politely&tried to shuffle out of the way.not anymore I let it run its course and if we get stared at ive been known to ask people if the would like a 'ticket' and they've soon walked on past

CONGRATULATIONS!!

Aww thats awful how u were treated,it really upsets me does that,thats why i really feel for my little one:(

sorry dont know what Ive done there,my reply gone twice

The school know exactly how he be haves&it annoys me cos they said at his review"oh we definatly need to re-refer to camhs" 2wks later I asked if the referal had been made&the HEAD told me"well its just pot luck with schools,camhs dont always listen to us&be best if you took him back to the docs" told them its worth a try,they just seem like,they made their minds up he doesnt have problems&hope I forget about it.camhs told me its not 'pot luck'&school dont sound very helpful&rolled their eyes when I told them what school he goes to! they make a big deal about him getting this help as the Ta is in that class to help ALL the kids&Im made to feel like they 'doing him a favour' and he gets told"while your behaving like this all the other children miss out" I also know comments have been made such as 'you dont have problems,your just naughty'I spoke to school about this but I get'OH THATS NEVER BEEN SAID! 3psycs have got details of his behaviours he has seen two and yet to see the head one EPBST are involved and so was the health visitor and a support worker.one of the psycs saw a behaviour during testing the other day we were in a room&u could just hear a door slightly creak outside&his head did a 360&was totally distracted&forgot what he was doing,she asked him if the door made him look he said yes,that was noted down too&I was told thats on MY list of behaviours too. when I mention things like that to school IM fobbed off with 'oh yes my son does that too' or my daughter doesnt like certain sounds

The school know exactly how he be haves&it annoys me cos they said at his review"oh we definatly need to re-refer to camhs" 2wks later I asked if the referal had been made&the HEAD told me"well its just pot luck with schools,camhs dont always listen to us&be best if you took him back to the docs" told them its worth a try,they just seem like,they made their minds up he doesnt have problems&hope I forget about it.camhs told me its not 'pot luck'&school dont sound very helpful&rolled their eyes when I told them what school he goes to! they make a big deal about him getting this help as the Ta is in that class to help ALL the kids&Im made to feel like they 'doing him a favour' and he gets told"while your behaving like this all the other children miss out" I also know comments have been made such as 'you dont have problems,your just naughty'I spoke to school about this but I get'OH THATS NEVER BEEN SAID! 3psycs have got details of his behaviours he has seen two and yet to see the head one EPBST are involved and so was the health visitor and a support worker.one of the psycs saw a behaviour during testing the other day we were in a room&u could just hear a door slightly creak outside&his head did a 360&was totally distracted&forgot what he was doing,she asked him if the door made him look he said yes,that was noted down too&I was told thats on MY list of behaviours too. when I mention things like that to school IM fobbed off with 'oh yes my son does that too' or my daughter doesnt like certain sounds

Hi Trekster,thanks for4 the reply,I feel like im learning loads today lol ds doesnt react in anyway to light apart from being able to hear the kitchen strip light 'flicker' when it gets switched on. meant to mention,if he is made to jump he can literally fall to the floor,i thought he was messing but he gets really scared,there's a dog nxt door but 3 which barks when u walk past, even tho i warn him about the dog it still makes him jump,IF he hasn't put his hands over his hears 10 miles before lol He cant have cherryade or blue lollies from icecream man as this leads to him literally bouncing off the walls&swinging of the banisters. quiet humming/singing drives him mad too(does it bug you?) and he puts his fingers in his ears when i hoover OR he walks round in a room away from it shouting LALALA&clapping his hands,like hes trying to drown the sound out but doesn't mind being noisy himself!?? connor reports were done&he scored just under the line so consultant refused to dx.I asked if it could be just ADD/ODD and was told nothing wrong case closed. he seems to have bits of behaviour of adhd/add/odd/autism but maybe it IS just the way he is! he forgets everyday things but can tell me bits of what he did on holiday when he was 19mths old!(scary) if anyone gets too close,the fists clench,teeth come out&so does the language usually" f*s can that fat b*****d gets any closer etc and he doesnt care how loud he says it either thanks for your advice I really appreciate it