KateBall

Has anyone seen this one?

You are so right here Clare. I wish I had the time and energy to do something about it. But I'm only just having time myself to fight the system - as I'm sure we all are. One day ................ Hope you are feeling a bit more uplifted today. <'>

I'm horrified. I'm Sarah Platt but I was very nearly Gail. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

I'm apparently like Judy Dench in "As time goes by" according to all the comments and mannerisms I come out with. Only I'm not a dame. I'll try the corrie quiz now.

If you can afford it you just keep buying bigger houses and getting bigger mortgages.

OK so I go in to school and leave a note for HT to call me. She does so after having so called "investigated" the matter - which incidentally didn't involve asking me and especially not my ds what had happened. So I told her - which was that I know my ds was upset cos the other boy wouldn't play with him so he was about to challenge him (possibly even hit him I think - at least he went towards him anyways) and with that the other boy puts his knee up. So HT says because of this it was an ACCIDENT. Oh no I said it was not. Even if the boy merely lifted knee up in defence it was still a deliberate act and then it was quite ferocious by the amount of the bruising on my ds. I don't believe it was as simple as lifting knee up. Eventually she accepted that it was "inappropriate behaviour" on part of other boy. To which I replied that as my ds is always guilty of "inappropriate behaviour" and gets punished for it then no doubt this boy will too? She said she will deal with it - but I don't think so. I have no confidence in them and they all stick together don't they.

The one who told you to go outside - and all the others who may have thought you should are ignorant selfish people. I hope the manager will do something about it.

I think he gets bullied quite a lot in one way or another. Much of the time it goes over his head but I see the way some of the other children react with him - look down on him - see him as a nuisance etc. I don't think anyone has said don't tell but what the dinner lady said to him concerned me too but I think more from the point of view of they were trying to put words in his mouth. He was clear to me it was deliberate and told me they had been telling him to go away and then later said it was an accident recalling what the dinner lady said. I need to get to the bottom of why she said that. They always seem to try and avoid any possibility that bullying or nasty things happen in the playground. They seem to take it personally as if it affects their record or is a reflection on them. I just hope I get support on Monday when I raise it otherwise I know I'll hit the roof and be back to square one with them. I was thinking about taking a photo of it to show the HT then felt really awkward about that - what do you think? Thanks for replies so far. I wasn't sure if I'd overreacted going to A&E

Ds came home from school yesterday and his home/school book said he was upset a lot of the day. I asked him later what was bothering him and he said M had kneed him in the groin. This morning I saw a bruise completely down one side of his "you know what" (not sure what I'm allowed to say on here ) and he said it hurt. So I took him to A&E to get it checked out and cos I want a record of it. No swelling so it should be ok but still a nasty bruise covering one side of his sac. My inclination is not to let him go on the bus on Monday to school but to ring school and ask for a meeting to tell them about it and require them to speak to - punish even - M before my ds has to face him again (my ds gets punished enough for the slightest of things). Then ds explains that it was an accident - I said why do you say that and he said because "Miss (dinner lady) said it was". How do you accidentally knee someone in the b_lls enough to cause that sort of bruising. Anyway ds says he did it because he didn't want ds to play their game he and others were playing so unlikely to be an accident isn't it? I think she was just trying to pacify him at the time perhaps. Oh god I hate confrontation with the school. They are good with my ds in many ways but cr_p when it comes to dealing with these situations and they get all defensive. I'm tormented for the w/e now.

Sorry to hear about this. Smacks of discrimination to me. Just a suggestion though, have you thought about contacting the Disability Rights people (DRC) because they would give you some advice and even let you have a draft letter to send. Good luck.

Beef Wellington followed by Treacle Tart and Ice Cream - just because I love the taste and textures.

Oh we had one of those just after Christmas. It was soooooo much fun. Hope you enjoy it.

Oh yes this bit I recognise definitely. My ds will not wait at all and will come and hit me if I'm taking too long to talk to someone or looking at things in a shop or museum or whatever. The only thing I manage to achieve sometimes is to tell him the consequence of him doing this will be xyz or perhaps by distracting him but actually the only thing that usually stops it is if I move on. Interested to know if anyone has any other tactic.

North East (Newcastle?) DavidMBaker Cumbria DavidMBaker Oxford Bard definitely Mumble poss Central Bard poss Mumble poss South West (Bristol/Bath?) Mumble poss Kateball Scotland Mumble poss with lots and lots of notice - how about halfway up Ben Nevis? Wales Mumble Maybe - Top of Snowdon? Outer Hebrides Mumble definitely Somewhere snowy Mumble definitely

I left my car keys on the hook of the door in the ladies on motorway service station. Someone handed them in - almost immediately. Let's hope you will find it heart warming as I did that there are honest people out there. Probably quite a few. Hope it works out

Thanks - definitely need :wine: and thank God for photocopiers

yes please - count me in. All I ever lost at ww was �5 Can you pm me the tracker too.

Thank's folks. So my thinking isn't way out then.

If it was someone who was trying to chase up your ex I don't think they would necessarily come the same - ish time 2 regular Saturdays. Sounds more like someone doing the rounds - such as salesman or religious caller?? Anyway wholeheartedly agree with putting up cctv. Can be done with just a simple webcam - wireless if necessary. I've got one outside my house now and gives peace of mind.

Got the DLA form in the post today to reapply before June. I have kept copies of all my last applications so surely if the same stuff applied as it did then and I use the same sort of language I should be ok shouldn't I?? If anything I should be able to add that ds needs more protecting from himself as he is getting older (those are words the recent SALT said to me). I suppose I should take nothing for granted. He is probably aspergers. He is currently on middle rate care. Does this sound about right to you?

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My NT daughter always did it too. SHe is now 21 and not really grown out of it. They were called duvet days when she sat and watched telly with duvet around her. However she then went on to a sheepskin and wraps that around her now. Smaller and easier to cope with. My ds (probably aspergers) does it now and it calms him down when he does. It must be the feeling of warmth and security mustn't it? I'd be interested too if anyone else has an idea.

I read some of the posts - not just on that topic - and was alarmed at the disrespect and failure to understand and arrogance of some - indeed it looked like quite a few - teaching staff. Scary.

I'm in the next County!

Yum - any left for me