oxgirl Report post Posted February 21, 2007 Anyone else have trouble with their kids' toanails??!! Good grief!! My lad is 13 for heavens sake!! He used to get hysterical about having his nails cut when he was little, but he did get out of it and was fine for several years and now all of a sudden he's started going nutty about it again. He won't do it himself and yet if I try and do it for him he struggles and cries and shudders and wails and quakes and generally freaks out. I've been putting off doing it for weeks, but have just finally done it and, honestly, you'd think I was sawing his leg off with a blunt carving knife for all the fuss. Now he's totally traumatised!! Not sure whether to laugh or cry!! (*feeling slightly hysterical!*) ~ Mel ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MichelleW Report post Posted February 21, 2007 (edited) I've had this with J, he used to scream and get himself in a right state, so I started doing them by torchlight whilst he was asleep at night. But then he started to wake up. It would take me days doing a bit at a time. In the end I tried doing it while he was awake and offering sweets to encorouge him - he'd turn down the sweets rather than have his nails cut. However, he has got better over the last few years. It's the same with washing his hair - he has to "be brave" to show his little brother it doesn't hurt. I'm sure he really believes it does hurt him, but he tolerates it now. It must be extremely difficult with a teenager - it's not something you really want to be doing as he gets older. One suggestion is a regular visit to a "specialist" foot person! It's strange, but J wouldn't let me cut his hair (again he would scream and thrash about) , but will happily go to the barbers to have it done! I expected his first visit to be really difficult, but I explained to them first, and the woman was really patient and he happily let her cut his hair with no screaming at all!! Edited February 21, 2007 by MichelleW Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dooday24 Report post Posted February 21, 2007 reece wont let me touch his toenails he goes histerical think im murdering him then i end up totally battered and bruised Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BusyLizzie100 Report post Posted February 21, 2007 Yep, we have the toenails thing. Fingernails are not so bad now, but DS2 just can't bear his toenails being done. I think it actually does hurt him, or he's so sensitive that he feels it too much. I heard mention elsewhere that sometimes the sensation can stay with them for some time after the clipping, too. I have to promise lots of rewards and say well done massively to get the toes done; at the moment he has had one nice neat foot and another with claws - he couldn't make it through the two feet. I was hoping to get it done today, but apparently it got too late so we have to do them tomorrow. There's just no point trying unless he agrees... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Deedee Report post Posted February 21, 2007 M's 'toenips' don't ever seem to grow enough to be cut ?? He seems to wear them down deliberately so he doesn't have to have them done..Don't ask me how it's something I've never managed to find out!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oxgirl Report post Posted February 21, 2007 Haha, somehow I thought this would be a problem well-known to many people here!! M's 'toenips' don't ever seem to grow enough to be cut ?? He seems to wear them down deliberately so he doesn't have to have them done..Don't ask me how it's something I've never managed to find out!! Does he pick or nibble them?? Jay went through a phase of picking his toenails so they didn't need cutting, but he doesn't do it now (unfortunately ). He bites and picks at his finger nails and they are way down past the tips of his fingers so they never need doing, but I don't think he'd mind his fingers being done as much as he does his toes. Can't win! ~ Mel ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted February 21, 2007 Oh boy! Yes - we have this problem too - needs bribery/corruption/sneaking up etc to get them done. Often one foot done one day and the other another day! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smiley Report post Posted February 21, 2007 You'd have thought i was murdering him if i go near his toes/hair/fingers with a pair of scissors! ALWAYS ends in a huge meltdown. He has gotten better as he's grown - he'll let me cut his hair with hair clipper thingies now - but only if he's sat in front of the TV...............but as soon as an ad break come on - all he!l breaks loose . Unfortunately - this means he has very, very short hair most of the time and i don't like it Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
barefoot wend Report post Posted February 21, 2007 oxgirl et al, Totally with you on this one - the neighbours thnk I'm murdering my son. We only ever mange to do one each sitting. Thing is it isn't my AS son who has the problem but my ADHD one - hmmmm? We've tried loads of different clippers, scissors, file, etc. but to no avail. We have similar problems with hair-cutting as well. Barefoot Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathrynh Report post Posted February 21, 2007 The only way I can do B's finger and toe nails is when he is asleep and I have to be very quiet and disturb him as little as possible. If he wakes I just have to leave it to another night. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fairynormal Report post Posted February 21, 2007 We have exactly the same problem. He will only have his nails cut after he has had a good soak in the bath to make them soft. He screams and wriggles usually resulting in me cutting off more nail than I mean to. The hair is another problem. We partly got round this by letting him wear his MP3 player to block out the sound a bit! he still ahtes the vibration of the clippers on his head. The odd thing is that he is obsessive about having his haircut all the time, even though he hates having it done. he likes it really short (which I hate!) and as soon as it is long enough for him to grab hold of he insists on having it all cut off! Strange boy! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bikergal Report post Posted February 21, 2007 My daughter won't let me do hers, but she's taken to picking them. Suits me, I remember the days of screeching, wailing and screaming. She was always very sensitive with having her hair brushed too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KarenT Report post Posted February 22, 2007 J bites his Karen x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted February 22, 2007 steven is obsessed with doing his toenails,he does them with clippers daily to the point where they get all sore,he also likes to shave his own hair and has it at a number one at all times,i dont like it short,hes got lovely curly hair when it grows,he looks like a terror with his hair and his hoodie which he wears everywhere!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisa35 Report post Posted February 22, 2007 ditto! least bites fingernailsnow, hair teriblewhen younger too! Used to have to wait til asleep in buggy! Still hates me to touch his scalp!!?? Lisa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
peppa Report post Posted March 1, 2007 Toe/finger nail cutting used to be impossible a total nitemare. I also used to try doing them whilst dd was asleep but even that became impossible as i'd either wake her up or she'd flinch and curl into a ball with arms and legs tucked in! I gradually eased her in to it just doing one finger/toe a night and she now just about tolerates it, teeth brushing though is a whole other matter! Tried every trick in the book, sometimes she just opens her mouth and voila done in a flash, other times its total hr and a half meltdown and total hysteria leading to her passing out! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bambi Report post Posted March 5, 2007 Yep same here, i cant get near Ts toenails no matter how hard i try and thats been for years! He has hardly no finger nails as he bites them, i do his toenails when he (eventually) goes to sleep, this is the only way i can do them. Bambi x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
butterfingersbimbo Report post Posted March 5, 2007 and here too!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rach04 Report post Posted March 5, 2007 my son 10 bites his finger nails and toe nails so i dont have to cut them and he only has his hair washed once a week cause he kicks off Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tmf Report post Posted March 5, 2007 Hi Mel We have this problem too......the only way i can get him calm enough to do it is if i do his sister 1st and let him watch. I think his biggest problem is sensitivity......the slightest touch to his feet and he wriggles. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
worried mum Report post Posted March 5, 2007 mine too, i used to think it was just him and yet another of his quirks (pre-diagnosis) he hates having his nails cut and he doesnt bite them so they do need cutting. it's the look of fear that i cant get over and even if i do mine first he's the same, he's fine having his hair cut at the barbers though??? i use nail clippers what do others use? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
