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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team
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Elefan   

Hello and welcome Bev! :)

 

Glad you could join us! Your frustrations sound so common, so I expect 'others' will pop up soon to empathise and support you.

 

One thing that I have learned, is that where they cannot place a child into a specific part of the spectrum,..like Aspergers,...they leave them with the diagnosis of ASD. Whether this enhances support you will receive within the Education sector, will very much depend upon your own individual LEA.

 

My very best wishes to you all.

 

 

Also a hello and welcome to Rhyn Essence! :) Thank you for sharing your background. Hope your wife posts also,...I couldn't fail to notice you said she was in Education!

 

Is that flutterings in the Bat Cave I hear from Jester?!! :thumbs:

 

 

Kind regards,

 

Elefan

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nellie   

Hi Rhyn_Essence

 

Welcome to the site. I have never heard of Kleinfelter's Syndrome before.

 

I'm Nellie, my eldest son of 26, is diagnosed with ASD and my husband was recently diagnosed with AS.

 

I hope you find the site useful.

 

Nellie.

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nellie   

Hi Bev, a warm welcome to you,

 

I am sure you will find plenty of people on this site that you can relate to.

 

Just be careful of entering the Bat Cave you may never be the same again! :lol:

 

Nellie.

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kirstie   

Hello there Bev and Rhyn Essence, :thumbs: I'm glad you found us!! This forum has been a brilliant source of info and support for me and don't be fooled The Batcave is the best form of escapism there is!! love Kirstie. :D

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BEVERLEY   

:thumbs::thumbs: after you all mentioned the batcave i had to go and look.

 

LOL not laughed so much in ages, hubby (john) woundered what i was laughing at so came and joined -suprised he didn't wake the kids he was laughing that much

 

bev

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It is fun, Isn't it?

Nice to meet you, Bev and Rhyn Essence too.(hope I spelled that right!!)

Bev, my son, now 6, was a bit of a puzzle to the psychiatrist too. Finally got a DX of AS after 2 years, but you'll get there. Only thing I can advise is to make as much noise as poss. They don't like to give a DX until they're fairly sure......

Rhyn, I've heard of Kleinefelyer's syndrome. Wasn't it featured on a recent documentary on Ch4? You must've been through an awful lot!!!

Hope to chat with you soon!

Esther....

(alias the Caped Confuser!!) x

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It is fun, Isn't it?

Nice to meet you, Bev and Rhyn Essence too.(hope I spelled that right!!)

 

Rhyn, I've heard of Kleinefelyer's syndrome. Wasn't it featured on a recent documentary on Ch4? You must've been through an awful lot!!!

Hope to chat with you soon!

Esther....

(alias the Caped Confuser!!) x

Yes well K.Syn was featured on CH4 and I watched it hoping that it would explore the "emotional difficulties" as the prog advert intoned. Maybe I was distracted by a sudden gust of wind unless of course both of us mentally switched off because as I recall it centered on something completely different :wacko: To be honest I don't actually identify myself as a potiential transsexual and have no desire to dress up. :ph34r: though I have been known to do it for a laugh :o erm :D

 

Tim

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lynyona   

hi bev and rhyn_essence welcome and nice to meet you both.I am lynn live in north easy Lincolnshire with dh and my 4 ds 26,22,17(autistic) and 15 :thumbs:

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Jester   

Hi Rhyn_Essence

 

Well, if you like dressing up (even just for fun) you DEFINITELY need to come to the Batcave :bat:

 

Welcome to you and welcome also Bev

 

regards

Jester :)

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daisy   

Hello all, great to find this site. I am a mum to 4, our 7 year old son was diagnosed with AS in November last year. It has been a difficult time for all of us, not least as we are a "restructured" family, consisting of a 12 yr old, 10 yr old & 7 yr old who are my birth children & our 7 year old withAS who is my step son we all live as a family with limited input from absent parents.

I'm hoping the site might stop us from pulling our hair out!! B)

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lynyona   

hi daisy, nice to meet you i am sure the site will keep you from going hairless ,it as me so far it is full of friendlyand helpfull members and i dont regret joining them one bit so enjoy even at times like this :wallbash: .lynn

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CarolJ   

Hello fellow ASPs Autistic Spectrum People/Parents

 

May I bid a warm superhero :bat: welcome to Bev, Rhyn Essence and Daisy and an especailly warm welcome to Auriel

 

 

... son of bid and step son of jester
otherwise known as

The Jester and Female Inquisitor - child prodigy of said superheros are most welcome here.

 

You must be possessed of a twisted and clever mind indeed!

 

I look forward to welcoming you all into the Batcave. :bat:

 

Caped Confuser put the kettle on and I'll grab whats left of the Hob nobs.

 

SWOOOSH!!! - [ASM woman swirls her ample arm up in a stylish flair tossing her superhero cape around her generous form - she turns and trots towards the safety of the batcave, leaving behind her a faint smell of Byriani ......] .... :thumbs:

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Kris   

I think that she's trying to say hello!!

 

You'll have to excuse the... interesting... sense of humour. Some of our members have passed the point of no return. I'd suggest a visit to the Batcave in General Discussion to learn more. Be warned though you may not escape with your sanity.

 

But... welcome to our forum. I hope you are able to find the information you need, unwind or maybe sound off when necessary.

 

Kris

Forum co-Host

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clair   

Hi just in case you are wondering I am Clair, married to Adie with three kids, Elise, Srevie and Aston. I am awaiting a diagnosis for Aston the youngest, 6 years old, most likely Aspergers. I have been fighting for a diagnosis since he was three, I originall thought it was ADHD. My sister is a speech therapist and mentioned it could be Aspergers as she had her own concerns. The more I read the more I am convinced. Luckily after getting the school and CDC to take me seriously they called in an Ed psych who said she didnt know how I had coped at home with him. "at last". I can honestly say I think I am going crazy at times as when the school say that all has not gone well with him in the day I think I am going to laugh. I dont mean to be funny but when you tell them for so long that you are having problems at home and they cant see it at school, it becomes amusing to see the teachers face when she cant believe the way he is being now. I think to myself "yeah get on and push it through your channels then instead of telling me", I already know what he is like. :devil: I was so glad to find this site, I have never been a one for forums but I have found myself having a look more and more. I will post as time goes on if I can help but really I am a bit of a lost newbie.

Speak soon

Clair. :wacko:

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nellie   

Clair

 

You won't be a newbie for long and your are not lost anymore - consider yourself found. >:D<<'>

 

Welcome to the site, you should find lots of information and support here.

 

It sounds as if you have had a struggle, I'm sorry.

 

Best Wishes to you.

 

Nellie.

 

You might hear a lot of talk about bat caves etc. Don't worry it's parents letting off steam, I think!!!!

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clair   

Thank you for the warm welcome Nellie. It is nice to know there are people out there who care. Thankyou.

Clair :P

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Kris   

Hi Clair,

 

Welcome to the forum. We hope you'll find all the information, support and understanding that you need. Our members are the best and always willing to help out.

 

As Nellie has already mentioned, if you ever feel the need for a healthy dose of insane fun then visit the Bat Cave in General Discussion.

 

Kris

Forum co-Host

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nellie   

Hi Auriel

 

A big welcome to the site. ;)

 

Love the avatar, did you choose it? It's brilliant. B)

 

My name is Nellie, I look forward to having you around. :)

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Auriel   
Hi Auriel

 

A big welcome to the site. ;)

 

Love the avatar, did you choose it? It's brilliant. B)

 

My name is Nellie, I look forward to having you around. :)

danke, yeah i chose it myself :thumbs:

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Helen   

Hello Clair and Auriel and welcome :)

 

Auriel, I hope your sense of humour is better than your madcap mum and Jesters! :lol: Great avatar by the way :dance:

 

Helen :)

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benruth   

Hi everyone,

I've really enjoyed reading the postings. Not yet grasped how everything works but will keep trying. I have a son age 13 and daughter age 11. My son was diagnosed with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in 1996. I always knew he was different since he was a baby, and he was extremely hard work from day 1. Eventually got a statement by year 5, then he refused to go to school and was out of school for 18 months. He now goes to a weekly boarding school which he never refuses to go to on Monday mornings so I take that as meaning he is happy there. He rarely talks about school (he cant remember things that have happened when he changes location so home and school life are kept totally seperate) He is very animated when he initiates conversation, which is usually about films, computer or PS2 games or science.

 

Living with him before he went to boarding school was very stressful. Due to the pressure he felt from school, his verbal and physical aggression was becoming intolerable due to his rapid growth and increased strength. He is a changed person over the year he has been at his new school, more tolerant when he comes home at weekends and is now rarely physically or verbally abusive. Still struggling with getting him to attend to personal cleanliness, rarely brushes his teeth! When I send him to the bathroom he pretends to do it (wets toothbrush to fool me). Same with washing hair: wets his hair but wont use shampoo and hopes I dont notice.

 

My daughter probably has ADHD (not diagnosed) doesnt sit still for a moment, plays sport every day and needs this to get rid of excess energy. She gets into trouble at school for fidgeting and distracting other kids and her teacher once described her as being like a 'Meercat'!

 

I'm sure I will enjoy reading all your messages and getting to know everyone

 

Jan

 

:D

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Auriel   
Not yet grasped how everything works but will keep trying.

:D Generally the buttons do what they say (post posts, reply replys, log out logs out....) :D

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Kris   
I've really enjoyed reading the postings. Not yet grasped how everything works but will keep trying.

Hiya,

 

Welcome to the forum.

 

Dont worry about it - I'm the resident techie here and still havent worked out how it all works yet :lol: (Elefan will tell you how often I manage to crash the board - And I'm supposed to be a professional!!!!!) :D

 

Kris

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CarolJ   

Hi Jan (alias Benruth), and welcome.

 

This is a good place to offload, seek advice or generally lose yourself in insane ramblings, whatever takes your fancy.

 

Look forward to cross posting!

 

Regards,

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Blimey!

 

I drop off the introductions thread for a couple of days and loads of new people join!

 

Welcome one and all! You'll find loads of support here.

 

Simon

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bid   

Hi Jan,

 

Welcome to the forum!

 

My son is nearly 15 and posts as "Auriel".

 

I sympathise with you over the teeth and hair!!! (Are you reading this, Auriel??!!)

 

Perhaps I'll see you in the Bat Cave!!

 

Bid :wacko:

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kirstie   
B) Hi all you new guys, memory stinks...so one big hello and welcome! i used to be sane untill i met this lot!! joking apart this is a great site and there are so many knowledgeable people who know exactly how thing are.now... to the Batcave and beyond......... :bat: Love Kirstie.

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CarolJ   
Your teeth and hair are awful auriel

 

Stop picking on Auriel, boys will be boys! My son is almost five and I darent brush his teeth, his bite is worse than Jaws! Believe me I have tried everything, superhero toothbrushes with batteries, he just chews the bristles off!

 

As for the hair, well, I just give him a no. 2 - have you seen the sheep shearers in Aussie, you have to be dead quick - I get his head in a half Nelson and three strokes later he's done!

 

In fact need to tackle hair problems later, as he has caught nits from playgroup - sigh! - easiest solution is to shave it all off!

 

He does look cute with no hair!

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saz690   

Hiya all,

 

New around here, just found this forum and seeing as everyone else is doing an intro I may as well join in!

 

I'm Sarah, married (for my sins) to Ian and we have 2 children, Alex and Lydia. Alex is 8 and has dx's of ASD, ADHD, dyspraxia, severe migraine disorder, hyperlexia, hyper+hypotonia, pelvic/trunk/shoulder instabilities and finally anxiety disorder! He's a lovely little lad, very complex to say the least! He goes to an ASD specific unit (we did the mainstream thing - never again!) and he's been there for 2 years or so and is doing well. He's made alot of progress these last 2 years and I personally beleive in the ASD specific approach, its worked for Alex and there should be more provision like that around. He's very gifted in maths and could read before he could talk properly, but writing - urgh! He hates it and will do just about anything to avoid it!

 

Lydia is 3 and is definetly becoming more of a puzzle each day! She is beautiful, chirpy with huge blue eyes! She's in pre-school one day per week where she is currently getting 1 to 1. She enjoys it and likes to go but really doesnt *get* the other children. She toewalks, stims, twirls, flaps, has echolalia etc etc etc. Her speech isnt brilliant, her pronunciation isnt very good and much of what she says is echolalia but its coming on - slowly. We are currently waiting for an appointment for her for CDC, she was seen there last year but they weren't sure if she was copying her brother or not, well we are 1 year on and we are pretty sure she isnt copying her brother! So here we go again, at least this time we know the score.

 

Ian, hubby, is *in computers* and is in my mind *somewhere* on the spectrum. Me, well I'm just stressed!

 

Thats about it for now.

 

Sarah

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nellie   

Welcome to the forum Sarah, :)

 

You have had your share of problems, I'm not surprised you're stressed!

It's good to hear that your son is getting specialist support in school and yes, I agree, there should be more places like that.

 

I hope you find lots of information and support here and maybe have a laugh to ease the stress. Look forward to chatting with you.

 

Nellie.

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