Enid

Hi, my son, now 14, has been on it since 12, 4 mgs a day, it saved our lives and sanity.

OMG Suzy, how terrible, My lad was simialr but calm ish at mo, same meds as yours with exception of lorazepan. You absolutely cannot go on like this that is definate, the semi independant is not going to work because of her fears, have you tried MP? my heart goes out to you. xx

HI J1s mum, just sending support, and to the others on this thread who are struggling too. nearly had to call the police last night, but managed in the end to cope, I hate to do it, makes me ashamed with the neighbours.......!!!!! BUT no one else will come when he is "off on one" the police will now only come if there are 3 of them as he will attack them as well, even though I lock all dangerous stuff away he will still find something . last night I thought I dont want to play anymore this is the last time, but today is another day and on we go again, the younger ones amaze me as they never hold it against him even though last night I had to barracade them in a room to keep them safe, and my daughter was doing her science homework knelt on the floor.... they all sat at breakfast this morning looking like they didnt have a care in the world, whereas I didnt sleep a wink with the worry of it all. rescued the sky plus box that got thrown out an usstairs window, didnt get it last night as didnt dare risking opening doors in case he ran out, just plugged it in and it works

Hi, sending support from someone who is in your position many a night, and day! last night he didnt get out as doors all locked but he screamed and raged for 2 hours and threw his sky plus box from the ustairs window, I beg for help but get none, I am going to get 1 night as his school starting next week, but that is a new scheme and nothing to do with SS, Like you last night I though this is it I am not taking another minute of this sh't and worry and fear, but then today I just got on with it, school run, work, littlies hospital appointment, and we just pretended it never hapened, feel a bit like a battered wife...... anyway there are loads on here like you, just surviving day by day, no life is it, but its the hand we have been delt. keep strong love.

HI, Also had this problem, try bribery...... my J gets his spending money weekly, what he gets depends on how he behaves/takes meds etc. he is now on strattera, and its working well, much better than the ritalin/concerta xl. the days he refuses it, I grind it up and put it in his hot chocolate and before any one reports me!!! I have told both CAHMS and SS that I do this. Like you I struggle to control his violence and both me and the littles are at risk, when he is lovley, he is LOVELY, he wants to be home and we want him there, if I have to resort to this to achieve that, thats how it has to be. sending you support J`s mum, we do seem to be following a similar route with our boys, mine is nearly 15 now, and MUCH bigger than me, 4 staff at school struggled to control him the other day and phoned me to ask how I cope!!!!!

Have a lovely time!!!!! we are off next week. <'>

Hi, gave a long reply to this but hasnt appeared! quick recap, was in similar poistion 3 yrs ago, had to fight like hell for any help, medication was the ONLY thing that saved us in the end, but really wanted and still do, answers!!!!! but keep notes, as what seems "wierd" at first quickly becomes normal! and in meetings you forget. pm if you want anymore details.

watched it too. and much preferred the "tough" version, kinder and quicker all around, the softly softly, "get in the cot with them" nanny was actually using the same methods but taking longer about it, and that scene where the poor dad had to sit and watch his son in distress and wasnt allowed to cuddle him was really tough, on both dad, child and mum, think the dad did amazingly well. shall look forward to next weeks

Well no one ever seems to be able to give me any help with my son, new school struggling already, he left again last week and ran across a dual carriageway, head who was out looking said a lorry missed him by inches........ Good to see you suzyQ, and get an update. hang on in there. <'>

Hi, thanks for replies, did take him our instead, so alls well. <'>

The only child in the entire school..... he has had a "challanging" few days, well monday and tuesday, after a first class term,bearing in mind we moved 300miles and this is a new school!!! he has done so well, I know they are right and am obviously backing them up but as his mum, my heart is breaking for him.......

No to all the above, have 3 times tried get a social worker, have had a caf report and have been told I dont meet the criteria........ its just all so wearing, have other kids and a job and have given up the fight for now, the support I get comes from the school.

I cant get any help at home,even though have begged pleaded ect ect. my lad is like the other 2 J`s!!!! all I have got is 2 days a week hoiday club at the school, 9.30 till 3.30, £10 per session and from sept one over night a week.

Good Grief....... youre amazing, I gave up last year but had another go this year and have now got 2 days at the school repsite in the hols and from sept one overnight, but it is such hard work, starting again and again with each new worker, what I would like is one or two evenings a week for someone to take him out so the other 2 could have a friend to play! but have been told NO.

Hi just had a pm which was spam, anyone else had this?

Mine lasted a week....... <'> <'> <'> <'>

mines the sames jsmum!!!!! cant wash his own hair but got an iphone and worked the whole thing out straight away, I am always asking him how the sky remote works now we have sky plus!!

OMG, it made me cry, if its true it incredible, wasnt the dad lovely, will watch it again more objectively, will also be interested in others views.

Havnt time for a long reply but will later, have you read "the explosive child" by Ross Green, it really helped me and you can get it on amazon, you will get lots of help and advice on here, many/lots of us in same boat. <'>

Bought it recently, have read all of hers and particularly interested in this, specially having a son with similar age/diagnosis. will start it soon and keep you posted.

Well you know my views, I am back to the forum after a break looking for support, that thread yesterday was really interesting to me as public meltdowns used to be a huge problem for me, and believe me when you have a huge lad lying on the road, it soon attracts a crowd!!!! It was a shame it tunrned into a farce, again...... it could have been really helpful to many of us and thats what we come on here for.... not to have our posts taken apart and over analysed, who has the time!!!!! anyway, ignore the posts that upset you, it gives me a headache reading them!!!! and keep posting and getting and giving support.

Well done that boy.

Wow, That what I meant but couldnt quite put it like that

I really wanted to answer on this thread as its something I have a problem with, from time to time, but one of the reasons I have been away from the forum for so long is THIS..... the scoring of points and smart alec answers, Baddad you cant compare your son to others, they are all different, it is bad enough coping on a day to day basis with children that are "challanging" without being blamed...... I will pm for support re this thread but it is something I find acutely embarassing, a meltdown, in public.

Wont be far behind you all. J`s school has post 16 tho so hoping he will be selcted for that, thats if I can get him there, this week he worked out the door code and ran off from schooll!!! and got off the mini bus twice, after a pretty uneventful few months he seems to be hitting a "rough patch" again.....