Enid

Well done Hev, its not easy this parenting lark is it, My NT son is 19 next month and god I remember the worry when he was 16/17, girls, staying out, etc, as far as I know he never did drugs, but now he is a lovely lovely boy, well man! but still my boy, but even without the ASD bit, they still put you through hell, myself, I never gave my parents any bother :lol:Enid

2 of mine have had broken arms, The oldest just 3 days before he went away with the ATC to Belgium, I ordered one of these special covers that mean they can shower/swim everything, got the number from the hospital at the time, they are usually only on for 4/6 weeks. Good luck. Enid

God poor you, what a nightmare, it would have been silly to have driven up, I know I would have wanted to, but what a journey, your poor poor parents, hope you get a good night sleep and all sit together tomorrow and it will be one of those family stories that get embelished slightly in the telling each time! <'> Enid

I would have loved to have had the chance, my son was 12 and was being taught in the senco room alone, we havnt any asd units in this area so he has to travel an hour to nearest special school, if there is a place for him and you are being advised I would go for it. Enid

Well done Cat, good advice, my DS is also playing out at mo, I cant actually see him as park is just out of line of sight, but very good neighbour is keeping weather eye on him and he has to be home in 10 mins. Enid

Thanks pookie, good idea! Steve is Hevs boy btw. will try that next week and see how it goes. Enid

Hi. I also live in cul de sac, with small park on the corner, its a nightmare as hev says, I hide round coner and watch, ring neighbours who can see park, drag other kds up there, on on, i used to be able to say, youre not going out, but cant at mo, he will just go, so I "allow" him and yes he is used and picked on, and other parents knock on door, love it when it rains as he stays in, at the mo he is obsessed with "playing out with my mates" but like all his obsessions it will probably loose the novelty factor in time, bring it on :whistle Enid

Hev you sound like soo much fun, I would love to meet you, I used to be fun till I had four kids, but can still hold my own on good days .go for it girl, this is not a dress rehersal, this is the real thing Enid

fantastic, my ds has never been allowed to go on school trips, unles I am present, since he started new special school, he has been on a day trip to adventure park that went ok so am hoping things are on the up. glad it worked out ok. Enid

It is def to do with school results, no question. Enid

Flora, when you said compassion fatigue I wanted to jump up and cheer but would have spilled large glass of red Have spent what seems like years since taxi episode on Wednesday, talking to ds about why his behaviour is not acceptable, and why the driver is not as friendly, and why he has to sit in the back and why the driver cant buy him ice-cream/do nuts any more He, like your son is not even meeting 25% of the way, He was also out of school and at home with me for nearly a year, and is finding it difficult now, he is not away at nights but school is an hour away and he is out of the house for 8 hrs, the others are at the school I work at, across the road, so he feels left out, I have told him that if he cant cope with this school he will have to go to residential, he is saying, oh thats because you like the others best etc etc etc, I have talked and talked and talked to him tonight and he says he was in the right to open taxi door as driver was shouting, I have decided to ask community police officer to talk to him as this is the second time and I cant think what else to do. so Flora and the rest of you cheers and <'> Enid

Dont take it personally, I have had it said to me times Its just the sort of thing ignorant people say! Enid

Hi, just in from work/school will listen to it later, have lots of family in Sheffield and received many texts about it whilst it was on as the long-term plan is for us to move there, so may well be very useful in the future. Enid

Hi, Myself and driver text/talk all the time I have no gripe with him, son was dragging feet literally, this morning, couldnt quite believe it when he got in, driver rang me at work and said the only sound was the slamming of the door when he got out :Enid

lots of you from devon, ever heard of the south hams? Enid

Hi caroline, glad the paper clip and marbles are working, for now! trying to keep up with what works is what its all about as everything works for a short time I`ve found, my son is now 12 and hard cash is the current curancy plus he needs to know what he is saving up for. We have mornings off to a fine art now, but its taken years, and if one thing goes wrong, he wont get in taxi and go!! Enid

My ds also had Autism outreach worker, and CAHMS.Enid

blimy! I thought you were talking about 14and a half!!! my advice is to get tough now while he is still portable!!!! cos once he`s a big strong teen you wont have a chance! I agree prehaps tricky if away for weekend without you as could have ruined it for the others, but if you are going out just insist he goes, while you still can!!!!!! good luck Enid

wot a day, took him to school myself, 2hr round trip, twice, he went without a mumour! county council phoned and gave driver a hard time for allowing him to sit in front and buying him ice-cream, told him it was totaly unprofessional, and it is BUT driver spends 2 hrs with ds on his own each day, for months now, I suppose the rules were flouted bit by bit, outcome is county council will not pay for escort, ds to go in taxi and sit in back and not be given anything from driver who amazingly has siad he will still take him, so, will see how it goes tomorrow. Enid

all of the above, the school keep saying my boy was a naughty boy, If he was my first I may have just though he was, but there was a certain naieveness and old-fashionedess about him, when he was little it was just really cute but as he got older it was becoming more odd, I asked my gp fo referral, my ds was 9/10. they have to refer you if you ask. Enid

sure someone will know better than me, but when ds had those reports I took it to be like the red books, and the weight/height charts, 50 was average, my youngest, he has a heart condidtion, was always on the 2nd centile! I hated takin him to be weighed! so I would say they were below average results. Enid

My ds was also very over familiar with strangers when he was younger, he used to take a shine to people, and yes sometimes random strangers! so I dont think that would be a reason not to get a diagnosis, but it seems to be different in different areas, although it def shouldnt be. Enid

At pre-school where I work Hev loads of them behave like that, if she has always been like that I wouldnt worry, if its just started perhaps it could be anxiety, but she sounds like shes very sociable, so I dont think you have anything to worry about.

So glad you are feeling more positive about it, they keep us on our toes these kids dont they!!! Enid

Oh no, you must be traumatised, is he ringing on school phone or his mobile? Its really early days and a lot of different staff so hopefully things will settle down soon. My ds was in respite for 3 wks in jan, he had never spent a night away before and we were all traumatised by it, he was on the phone ALL the time begging to come home it was terrible because you feel so guilty. hope you all get things sorted soon. Enid.