rainbow queen

hiya mel just wanted you to know i have been through this with my childrens dad [was with him for 5 years],been split 3 years now. the best thing you can do is involve the police and support of the dv officer -they really helped me. it got so bad that i had to have my phone traced by the police for evidence of his harrasment/a panic button put in my house/police mobile phone/. many visits to the solicitors /courts,restraining orders/non molestion orders ect..... do not worry about the threats about taking your child of you -they all say this-if hes been abusive to you -he may be to your child-thats the way the police and courts see it,so dont let him scare you with that. i no longer get any harrassment -theres now a life long court order in place stopping him coming near me or my children, i even have secruity cameras on my house connected to my pc, it was very hard at first but the relief is over-welming when you get your freedom back ect...... and mental health back ect........ hope everything goes ok . take care x <'> p.s. hidden hurt .uk is a really good forum about all matters related to this subject -very helpfull.

do any of you watch "big brothers mouth" on e4 after big brother -i think its so funny with that guy russell

ive just watched it tonight and think its going be a good watch. i think pete is very good looking too and sure he will do really well.

thats a great idea . i wonder how you would go about starting one. im a single mum and never ever go out in the evenings or weekends-i cant see myself ever meeting anyone for a relationship,let alone even being able to meet them. ive got some family but they have to be pushed into it and then they moan and complain -so whats the point asking them -all they do is make you feel guilty[the swines] i even payed my own sister once or twice ,but they dont want to do it regular. its not healthly for us to be house bound all the time. i better of becoming a nun at this rate too

ant killer is really expensive as well my sister bought antibacterial spray from aldi and that shifted them real good but ive just spoke to her now and they no longer sell it for some reason-but maybe another type would do the job?!!

hi my son is not dx as of yet but i know what you mean,i also feel like this alot,it may have to do with the fact that you have adjusted your life around your child,so like you also fit into the routine. so you get set into a groove . ive found i need to plan stuff alot nowadays and its rubbed off on my personality-its seeped into everyday life/relationships/ect.... i think its a coping thing too .

just letting you know -all is going well and certainly am being listened to now.set a date for another ados test-my son had one before but he was very young then. ive been asked to cam corder his tics/movements [and im going do his meltdowns], so going to do that. so all is well and moving along[with big thank you to this forum for helping me get further along the road <'> ] thanks for replys take care everyone xxx

hello cheryl[its marie ] saw your article in the paper -well done for highlighting everything. <'>

just letting you know where im up to -another appointment tomorrow with camhs /autism salt. son not going to it. wondering what if any conclusion is going be made. i will let folk know of outcome .

so far my son has headbutted me several times nearly broke my legs pushing me through a door i cut my hand with garden clippers whilst he was rowing with me covered my legs in bruises whilst ive had to carry him off away from places ect............... list goes on and hes only 5 in june its terrible the only thing that helps a bit is threats of removing stuff he likes doing ect.... pc/toy dog/ect... know its not much help but i also find it hard to cope with smacking dont work naughty chair and egg timer only works if we are at home in public its a different thing

this is only second time ive had him and i got a gate on side so hed been put ticket through i said did u do round back-he goes yes of course my gates always locked but as he told me he dose next door -i thought well he got over back with ladder. wrong i know he hasnt cause i just checked windows and i payed him for all. boy is he going get it next time its not just the cash -hes proven hes a liar do u reckon i tell him to get stuffed next time ? or tell him he lied ect.... he owes me ?2.50 and carry on with him .

oh noooooooooooooooo sorry to hear that was hoping you would get on tv.

i hope everything goes ok <'> <'> <'> <'> please keep us all informed xxx

oh my god cmuir IM SO PLEASED FOR YOU i know how hard you have struggled as i have followed your posts for a while-im also nearer getting dx and i felt what you did-getting scared in case i get let down again. well done honey <'> <'> <'> best wishes to you regards marie xxx

i have to agree as my son is delayed i believe the terrible 2s came much later hes nearly 5 now and has settled a bit more[now i got my 3 year old who was very good at 2 is now behaving really horrid] but i agree about the food cause ive seen both my sons mood change really quick after eating things and not just sweets ect...... but sometimes fairly norm stuff -i guess it just reacts with certain children though ive not pin pointed what it is yet -maybe ill start writing it down ect..... [another job to do ]

in my house "IN A MINUTE" "I WILL SEE ABOUT IT" "IM JUST ON THE TOILET" "GET YOUR SHOES ON" " RIGHT LETS GO" "MOVE AWAY FROM THE DOOR" "HOLD MY HAND" school in morning pe on mons and fri supply teachers name ****** shop bath wait homework the sentance i have found myself uttering of late is "ohJUST FORGET IT"!!!!!! when i can quickly see where the conversation is going take a turn for the worse.

just been reading these posts and have a few questions if thats ok? school nurse has tryed 5 times to do an eye test for my son but he wont co operate so shes told me i should try getting his eyes seen to . wondering is there a difference in opticians then? and is it better to ask what they will test for ect............. my neice has irlams as well -dose it run in familys and my sons dad is colour blind

so sorry to hear your news-im not sure of advice other than trying to explain in simple terms whats happened. i recently have started taking my sons to church and im now trying to explain the best i can about jesus and god ect........ as its hard concept for my boy to understand [i guess any children really] i tryed explaining you can talk to god anytime you want and he can always hear you ect............... to which my son replied " but mum you have to open the window so i can shout to him" ect...and "whys he not coming down then ""hes not hear i cant see him". so i bought some little simple books to try and explain-also one about dieing and what happens ect............. i sound bit morbid -sorry - im sure hes taking some of it in even if its in his own way . her behaviour is understandable as shes going to have to deal with a big change.

ha ha i do that to find a really wide space to park,ive already had side of the car dented,and i need plenty of room at the sides to let boys in and out as theres such a carry on with the doors ect..... my son likes messing about with doors ect...

<'> <'> hello eva <'> <'> <'>

hi im just really encountering the start of these sort of situations ,ect.... my boy will be 5 in june and he hasnt had any interaction with so called friends out of school at all[ie. cause he has none ] but recently moved and now have big garden and theres 2 children next door though they are older about 7. its took him ages to get used to being in garden and know hes relised theres boy next door he keeps mivering him at the fence all the time-as he latches on and pesters ect..... and other day i saw the lad next door telling him hes got a treat for him -to open his mouth and he stuck a stick in his mouth and i ran downstairs and he had all ants in his mouth --he cannot see that the other boy was not being friendly or nice at all.even after i explained it all. he wants to go into boys garden next door but im not letting him as i need to keep an eye on him all time .....................its very worrying ive just been shop for some cane slats [like a screen] to put up agaisnt the fence to try and get garden more private .......of course you cant protect them forever and i do have sleepless nights over it-theres no way hes capable of playing in the street or with other children................he plays with his younger brother a bit but of course the expections are not the same and he gets away with things that he couldnt with children who are the norm as such.

congrats <'> <'> <'> get the name book out

ive only had 2 boys -i felt sick but wasnt really sick alot -i used to retch at smells like cigs/ect..... i remember with both my boys my bump was real low down and all at the front -if that makes sense-not sure if it makes a differnce to having a girl? i used to feel faint alot but i had low blood pressure and had to keep snacking alot .

hi there my sister and husband are finding not much help is about regarding what services are for there 25 year old son? just wondered if anyone knew any leads i could tell them to follow up-his social worker is pretty useless-and they get passed around the houses alot. the problem is he lives at home and he cant hold a job down -hes tryed lots of jobs and very willing but hes a danger to stuff ect...[like electric ect.... doing things wrong ] and has been sacked from every thing. he did go to college on leaving school- hes involved with a part time cookary course in evenings which he loves. the jobcentre and disabled bloke are ment to be helping find suitable assisted employment but nothing so far hes at home all day surely theres something he could be doing ??ect..... any help gratefull thanks <'>

my nearly 5 year old is similar if i do take him anywhere he moans /crys.shouts/general being silly/wont co operate /stops you and my other son [plus anyone whos with us]from looking at anything. constant droning moaning in the back ground till you cant take it and many a time ive stormed back home crying. like today is a bank holiday -we no chance of going anywhere -gets me down at times -i mean i could if i wanted to ive got a car but i found its more trouble than fun-i cant trust him in the car when im driving-so i dont drive very far. it makes u feel really trapped. i guess it improves a litle as they get more older-i remember my son when he was younger in buggy and he really used to scream and bawl for hours on end-there was no comforting him [i remeber walking along blackpool front -and he screamed all the way with me pushiing him in buggy -of course back then i didnt know anything about asd-and i just couldnt understand it at all-he screamed all the way back to hotel] now on reflecting i relise he did this as he was in unfamiliar places ect......