chris54

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Having worked in childcare as far as I know you should be informed at the time of the incident or as soon as possible as is reasonable. Certainly if medical help is required you should be informed at once. Obviously for miner scrapes and knocks you wait until you see parent but even then when parent is informed they are given a copy of report and sign for it. This is how it was done by us.

It was not called DISCO, but having a quick look on the site it sounds a bit like what my son had, a 3 hours long assessment. As he is was 7 at the time I think it would be somewhat different but:- First hours was spent playing with someone who first went along with his game, then ignored him, then tried to chang game, all to see how he would react. This was observed by person in charge then they had him do some tests, sore of puzzles and cutting out and generally playing. Then they had storey time when he was given scenarios and asked to talk about them and act then out with Little doles, then talk about life in general and any thing that cropped up in conversation. Whole thing was videoed, and we were on other side of one way mirror.(Son likes to see himself on the vidio) Having said all that this came at the end of the proses of assessment after he and us had been seen by all sorts of other people who all put their reports in. Final report consisted of 12 pages and a diagnosis of HFA/AS.

Where to start. First you would not be the first couple to split up on the eve of a deepening relationship. I don't think there is anything you can do that will make him chang his mind, that have to come from him. From what you said about him freaking out before, it tells me that he was unsure and was hoping that thing would get better, or different but he now see that that is unlikely. I don't think that knowing or otherwise about the possibility that he may have AS will make any difference. My own case, Yes I have always had problems forming relationships, I have now been marred for 10 years and only now at the age of 54 do I realise that I have AS.(After my son was diagnosed) Knowing I have AS has made no difference to my relationship with my wife only helped my to be more contented with life. No longer asking myself the question "What if". Knowing that there is no "What if", I am who I am. He is who he is, you cannot chang that. It may be that he feels you are asking more of him than he can give, more that he has in himself to give. My wife has always known that I have only so much to give, but then our relationship if formed on that basis.We both know that we will never chang.( She has same AS traits as well). I can only wish you all the best and hope that things work out for you.

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First to say that it costs nothing to make a school accessible to wheelchair users is clearly wrong. My sons old school ( along with many others) has spent 10's of 100's of pounds in order to make all parts of what is an old building accessible, they have installed new disabled toilet for children and adult use and a wet room to help cater for any children that are not continent. What is it exactly that you require that the schools are refusing to provide. As I said before is it something that would be considered "Reasonable" to be paid for out of the school budget. There are cases where additional funding or resources are made available from various sources for school to provide for such things.Have you checked out this avenue. From what you say 2 out of the 8 schools you have approached are happy to consider you requirements which from others Forum members prospective may be considered good compared to their own experiences..

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It is well known that girls are in general term earlier at toilet training than boys. We had a few problems with our son, now 8, who still does not like using public toilets, puts of going till the last minuet and some time does not make it in time. "Water splash" Try putting some paper down pan first to stop the splash. "Bad aim" That is just a boy thing, there are plenty of grown men who cant aim that well.(Don't suppose you have ever been in a men's public toilet ) "Wiping" You just got to keep working on that one. Our son, some times forgets, other times uses whole role. The thing tonight, not had that one, had pooing in the bath and using it to redecorate the bathroom. You will probably be told it is to do with exploring boundaries or something like that. But at the time its a job to keep your hands off them. Sounds to my that you are doing all the right things it just takes time and there will be times when thing seem to be going backwards but you will no doubt get there in the end. One thing that a lot of people have a problem with is demonstrating to their child the use of the toilet,IE using the toilet when their child is in the room.If you do this from when the child is a baby then they are less likely to have any hang ups about it. Not something you can do if not the parent.And to late for your situation.

Does not sound like any IEP that I have seen. What are the Teaching Strategies?. What does OVER AND ABOE NORN mean? What about Success Criteria? How are they going to measure success? I would want the whole thing clarified.

Cant help specifically with this kind of work, but what is useful to remember is that the questions asked are openings for you to talk about your self and your experience. As long as you don't end up repeating your self or talking nonsense (Like I have found my self doing on a few occasions) you cant really say to much. My most successful interviews have always seemed more like having a chat with someone about myself, but then I'm talking about completely different type of work.

Not knowing what the need is, I think it would hing on the term "Reasonable" in the Disability Discrimination Act. If it was a resource that was available in the school then it would be reasonable to provide it for your use. If it was something that was specific to your (The Parents) needs and would be an additional expense to the school and would be of no benefit to anyone else (at the time or at a later date IE a piece of equipment) then it may be considered unreasonable. I think it would be a good idea to contact the Disability Rights People (CAB) to talk about your particular case

Have you reported these assaults to the police , they certainly sound serious to me and should be investigated.

My wife thinks I'm a bit potty as I even match up the pairs of socks on the washing line. I'll go hunting for one if its missing.

Hi Steve I can see a lot of me in what you say about yourself. I always know I felt out of step with others but it was only when my son (8) was diagnosed 6 months ago that it made any sense. I never really saw much wrong with my son, I think that is because he is a reflection of me, It is only that he has educational problems that have led to a diagnosis. I have severe dyslexia which when I was a child you were just thought of as being stupid, so I grew up thinking that that was the root of my problems, that I was stupid, in fact I have quite a high IQ. One of the few things I remember about school is that my infant teacher thought that the harder and more often she smacked me the better my ability to learn. Even now I feel uneasy when I go into a school. I digress, at my age (54) I see little point in going down the road of diagnosis, Iv got by until now, in fact my life has never been better than it is right now. But if you feel it will help knowing for sure one way or the other then go for it. I now realise that My father also had AS traits and was dyslexic and I think a very frustrated man. Chris.

It's hard to know what to do in a situation like this.All you can really do is not hide you dislike for her but at the same time support your son in whatever he chooses to do. We had similar thing only it was boyfriends mother manipulating my step daughter. They had only been going out together for a few months and his mother was already talking big engagement party to coincide with s,daughters 18th. That was the last strew for my wife. After a long talk with daughter , daughter called it off. I ended up having a stand-up row with BF mother. Never seen or heard from them again.

Iv just been reminded that my nephew then about 4, was having nightmares, turned out to be the wallpaper in his bedroom that had big pictures of motorbikes or the like, redecorate, nightmares stopped.

Get the paint chart and let them all pick their own colours.

Blue always seems a good colour for a boys room. Just done my boy's room, Blue. Very pale blue ceiling, cupboards, door frames and skirting. Mid blue for the walls and a darker blue for the doors (room and cupboards). Took for ever as I built new wall cupboards, altered a big cupboard, put up selves. Installed more sockets, changed radiator for a more compact one. Also had floor boards up to Chang pluming for hot water system(rest of house) and install new wiring for outside lights and sockets in kitchen. Then renewed some of old floor board as had been damage by work carried out by previous owner. Just left with the cupboard doors to make, paint and fit then the job will be finished. Our last house was painted pink every room the some colour. Only took me about 7years before the last of it was covered up. then we moved and started all over again. When I was a child my dad got given a 5 gallon tin of blue paint so everything got painted blue.

I'm much too old to remember them. The wooden tops, now your talking, in black and white.

Just a bit off an update. Well Iv told son, but he doesn't really know what I'm talking about as he does not see that he has any problems, to him it is everyone else that is is out of step with him. When I pointed out thing like hurting his "Friends " at school, "Yeah but they were spoiling my game". ( I did talk to his teacher about that one and they understand what caused it and try to avoid the situations.) To some extent it is probably that we have always micromanaged his condition and that he has never or hardly ever had any big issues at home. At school I have always felt that he sees himself as more of an observer rather that a participant, and joins in thing just to hummer the teachers etc. This is very much as I felt when at school, Really most of my life. Off the subject a moment , they have a residential trip at school in the spring. Two nights away, that will be the first time he has ever spent a night away from home. "I don't want to go"" Why not" " They want know what I like to eat". Now I keep getting reminded to wright a list of what he likes to eat for when he goes on the trip.

Well done that boy. Now the funny thing is that according to our council you don't pass or fail the 11+, it is used as part of an assessment proses to see which school will best suite a child. Try telling that to all the parents that are ever on top of the world and down in the bumps about it. I wont spoil the day by giving my views .

We use to have an old man who sat in the high street playing his harmonica. I'm sure he know what the tune was but nobody else had the faintest idea what he was playing.

Hi Tally Only 19, it could well be that she sees you as someone who see through her veneer, her insecurity. The Night Shift Manager, Well we all know what hes thinking. If they ever do--- she will be out quicker that you can say P45. Hang on in there. Chris.

Sorry if it sounded like it but I was not saying that the LEA did not have a duty to ensure a statement is kept to. What I was saying is that the school has a duty to provide cover for sickness etc and they cannot pass the buck to the LEA as some seem to do.The LEA's has a duty to make sure that a statement are kept to by the school.