Kismet

Communication passport sounds like a great idea!! Thanks for that!!

Hi Dan, I am very sorry to hear about your situation. I have watched my brother go through the same emotions this past year and they are all part of the grieving process but you must accept her wishes and look at moving on without her. I realise that this is difficult given your circumstances and the situation still being so new but time is a great healer IF you make the necessary changes. Firstly, I strongly believe that it is important that you accept your diagnosis before you can move on with anything in your life and to be able to open the door to new opportunities. Living in denial will only hold you back and prevent you from being in touch with yourself and living your life to the full. On a positive note, I think it is great that you have joined this forum and admitted that you have been living in denial. You have already taken your first step to coming to terms with Aspergers being a part of who you are. I lived in denial when my son was first diagnosed with AS and it affected my relationships with not only other people but also with myself. Eventually when I accepted the diagnosis, one way was by reading lots of inspirational books written by people with Aspergers, I began to feel inner peace and acceptance. Everybody benefited from this! Try your local library for books or the National Autistic Society to recommend some. If you don't want to buy them I believe the NAS have their own library.Try your local library for books or ask the NAS to recommend some. If you don't want to buy them I believe they have their own library. The National Autistic Society can help you with finding appropriate employment with employers who are aware of the difficulties that people with Aspergers face. They can help you with filling out application forms, CV, interviews and adjusting to the working environment. I have even heard of a certain organization that will go into work with you and visit you to see how your getting on and talk to your employer for you if you are having concerns. Talk to the NAS.In fact they can help with most situations from learning more about Aspergers, to what is available in your area, to financial matters, the list is on going. If there is something they cannot help you with then they will forward you on to someone who can. Also perhaps counselling will help, there should be charity organisations in your area that provide a listening ear for people who are going through a divorce for a small fee. My son takes part in Autism research projects and he has made some good friends on the way, as well as some money and it has given his self esteem a boost. Volunteer work is a great way of adjusting to the work life and gaining skills and confidence. You could volunteer as little as an hour every 2 weeks. WRONGPLANET.NET is another forum you could join which you may find useful. It is great and I have had lots of useful feedback from the members there. Trekster has given some great advice "Once i started reading up about aspergers and accepting why i was different i found my life was much better. i dont think of being disabled as being a negative thing just others reactions to my disability can be negative. ive found a way to channel my autism into helping others through volunteering" If your interested the National Autistic Number is 08450704004. What have you got to lose Dan WHEN THERE IS SO MUCH TO GAIN. Hope this helps.

My AS son is 13 years old and recently I have found that members of the public are less tolerable with him. His behaviour at times can typically be inappropriate eg he is too loud or not behaving in a way that is expected of a 13 year old. I am sure you get the idea. I am so frustrated and angry when people judge my son. As a mother I am very defensive and up until now I have been able to handle the situation without confronting the person but what I really want is to be prepared with something to say that will be affective enough to not cause a conflict between myself and the judgemental person or persons yet feel like I have defended my son and also not embarrass my son in anyway. Can anyone offer any advice and/or share any similar experiences please as I feel absolutely heart broken in such situations and although my son may not communicate it neuro typical way I can tell that it is affecting him too.

HI, MY SON IS 12, ASPIE AND MY DAUGHTER 15, NON ASPIE. THANKS FOR THE DATE. I STILL GET THE EMAILS FROM MKASPS REGARDING DATES, YOU NEVER KNOW I MAY TURN UP ONE EVENING. <'>

Welcome It took a few years for my son to accept he was different and now he is so comfortable with his diagnosis and happy within himself that he doesn't think about it anymore. I hope that when he is an adult he will feel the same way. Good luck with your relationship and keep the lines of communication open <'>

Welcome my son was diagnosed with aspergers 3 times at various hospitals and our local hospital tried to undiagnose him Its been a long and tough journey but atleast we are not alone now

If its any consolation I spent last xmas and new year in bed with the flu . I know its hard with the way you are feeling right now but look on the bright side and count yourself lucky that you have got it over and done with. Atleast i hope that is how it works:) Hope you feel much better soon. Stock up on the vitamin c's!!!

Forgot to add, tell me about your family. How many kiddies do you have? How old are they? Do you go to the local support group ?