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Thank you,just ordered one on the sales £20 and got him a Thomas "walk in" sleepsuit for £16.Thanks again everyone,hopefully me and Eli will be able to have a good nights sleep <'>

Hi I obviousley won't get into a debate about whether the MMR jab is linked to autism or not,but I really dont think that this particular jab will make your son "worse" as far as autism is concerned. I think it is a choice you would have to make and I know someone else on here was also deciding on whether to get her kids jabbed and did it the end,hopefully that very person can give you more advice. I have a heart murmur and asthmatic.My eldest is "officially" asthmatic and my other four have "probable" asthma.I have not had the jab, my kids have not had the jab and really don't think any of us will do so.Saying that if the flu crisis becomes more serious and kids are at serious risk of getting ill then I may consider it.In 2003 both my eldest (3 years at the time) and Sam (3months at the time) got flu virus they both were in hospital for 3weeks with temperatures of approx.43 and had breathing problems.Sam could have died.So if I had the option to get a jab then I would have done so,especially as three kids had died from same virus in our county alone.

Oh dear.Poor you!I would pull my hair out if I was in that situation Well try and have fun

Thanks for that heard of them before but completely forgot about it I will order one online and hope it works

Hi,I definatley think he needs to go to some form of adult sheltered accomadation.If he doesnt learn to do simple things,like budgeting,now on his on when will he learn?You and his mum prehaps do alot for him (I would do the same) but its not fear on either of you and he probably knows if he wont do it you will,so moving out will be the wake up call he needs.If he gets proper support he can get some guidance on how to spend his money,so he will buy the necessities first and then luxuries,that way he wont get sick cause he will have food,which hewill also eventually learn to cook.It will probably be a long process but he will achieve it.I used to work in a care home that had a separate wing for adults with learning disabilitys,mostly downs syndrome,all of the are independent,do their own shopping,budget,cook, clean etc.Some go to outside activities and one even had a little job.So I know it can happen.

Mine were relieved to get back today,I think I was nagging too much I know what you mean,I spent all morning cleaning to,you cant believe the places where I have found toys and food I am meant to be writing an essay though and now its nearly time to fetch them,so much for a relaxing day Bad news though we are expecting snow overnight and school may be closed tomorrow

Hi My baby,Eli,is 18 mths now,he has always hated having a blanket on but now its so freezing I am worried.At the moment he has got a chest infection so dont want him getting worse.All my other 3 boys were the same but mostly kicked off the covers in summer and kept them on in winter. I dress eli warm but not to warm,I dont want to underdress him because he will freeze.Any suggestions on how to keep the covers on?

hehe Soundsso fimilar.Sam andDanboth have this problem.Today Sam even put his hat and gloves and...he even zipped his coat up Dan lasted 15min then the coat was disgarded,no gloves,no hat. Glad to hear J found something nice and warm

Hi,sorry you having such a tough time at the moment <'> Like Jsmum has said smacking is really pointless,I also did this when Sam was younger he wasnt harming others but he would put himself in danger like jumping off furniture and running across roads,he just never listened so thought a smack would help(this was before I knew he has AS) he used to think its a game and laugh,running around! I also think meds may help him.Is there any way you could more his assesment forward?I did this with my son,I told them he had been excluded twice for his aggressive behaviour and they saw me the following week.I think you should call them and explain that your other kids are scared of him,I know it sounds mean but this will help him(and you) get the help quicker.If not you can go to the GP and explan things are getting worse at home. I hate the idea of meds,my son is 6 and he is not really aggressive at home (just one serious incident few weeks ago)but at school he harms kids everyday,I am not there so dont know the triggers etc. but it worries me and I am now considering medication.If he did harm his brothers I think I would definatley do it straight away. Lastly keep strong I know you must feel at breaking point but just know we know what you going through <'> <'>

I agree with Tally.Also if you should never drive if you are tired.If this was a "one off" it probably was cause you tired.If not you need to see your GP,maybe visual or even epilipsy,as you may be having small blackouts.Either way you need to get hep now and please,please dont drive if you are tired!

You have summed him up 100% in the last bit

I thnk it depends n the child.My Sam cant sit with food on his lap,we do this occasionally,he seems to feel very uncomfortable.He does like sitting at the table,but I dont put much emphasis on table manners,he does do quite well with his table manners though,he does sit at an angle (wont put the chair straight) and he doesnt like when his older brother talks to much,its often him talking and us listening.This "arrangement" works for us at this point in time,maybe as he gets older he will change,not sure.He would never go off to the lounge or his room because he has a fear of going into rooms on his own so if we all at the table then thats where he will be and he doesnt complain about it.

I must say that because it has been just me and the boys the whole holiday,Sam has been great Yesterday we went to the shop and he did get upset as he wanted to pack the shopping but it was them self service ones where the bags have to remain in one place so this did cause a huge tantrum,was really hard as the shops were packed,rather than me being embarrassed it was Sam who felt embarrassed! Well,its just hard cause he seems to be in trouble constantly at school and its causing me stress these two weeks have been soooooooo relaxing,I am so dreading taking him back to school

Sorry to hear the sad news Sally.We are all thinking of you at this trying time <'> <'>

Hi and welcome t the forum <'> .My 6 year old Sam has just got a dx of Aspergers and like you I suspect his younger brother Dan (3 yrs) may also be on the spectrum,he also has different signs to his brother but similar to other kids.I am going to wait until he starts nursery(next week) and see what his teacher says(incidentally the same teacher who suspected Sam is on the spectrum!) This group is a saviour to me,I get loads of good advice and I dont feel so alone as if I am going mad

My eldest is 9(NT) and I dont know how to talk about this topic.He hasnt been taught anything at school but he knows what it is to be "gay" and also has mentioned "sex" but not sure he knows what it is.The kids at the school seem to know far to much and I really try keeping my boys...well boys not teenagers.Even my 6 yr old has said some shocking things to me,dont know how to deal with this I just brush it off and tell them not to tak about this. I have told his dad to talk to him but he says he is to young,I dont want him being mis- informed.I think I will buy the book suggested it may make it easier.

Sorry I dont think I will be much help but my 6 year old also has Monday refusal to attend school,sometimes fridas as well as this is when he feels tired.I didnt bring it up with the head she brought it up cause the LA said he is absent to much,my head said if he is really getting to worked up best not to bring him in because on the occasions I have "forced" him he has behaved really bad.She said she will deal with LA,as he has not got a statement yet so he is not getting any support.Again sorry for not helping

Hi sorry you having a hard time.I have just had the very same experience,I had made friends with a mum who has a son with AS and now she isnt on my friends list,dont know if this can happen automatically or if she has done so deliberatley,I am also confused told her some really personal stuff! I notice you say 3 of them are behaing this way,just continue to be with the one that isnt she may be your true friend.Better to have one good friend then 50 fake friends!Ignore the others they may come round again but just make sure their motives are right and that they not using you.

I know I love you David Tennant When he said I dont want to go I shouted well stay then!It will take a long time to get used to Matt Smith.My son said he seems okay and he is the big D.W fan so if he is happy so are we.

I agree Bid,both couples should work,not just for financial reasons but everyone needs to interact with people from outside the home.For me my work was my only escape as my ex never let me socialise.My situation was that as I was not a UK citizen I never received any financial help for government no working tax credits,child tax credits or even child benefits,so for our family to survive both me and my husband HAD to work as we both only could get minimum wage jobs. However,cause we didnt qualify for help with childcare,he would work day shift and I worked nights and/or weekends,this meant after working 12hr shift I then had to care for my kids,although two went to school,it was very hard so obviousley to me I worked far harder. We didnt have a joint account but all bills were in his name so he always wanted me to give him the cash,therefore I never saved a penny!I loved working and hate the fact I had to give up work when I left him but even now that I am a citizen childcare is so very expensive.I think our arrangement would have worked if the money we both earned was divided equally,I earned more so should have saved more.I also think he knew how much I earned but I never knew exactly what he earned he just said it was less then my wage and I trusted him,he could have (and I believe he did) earn more but spent it on himself,he always liked to wear designer gear!Also if at the time we received some financial help,I would be in control of child benefit so at least my kids would not go without clothes etc. Now I want to go to Uni and my course has placements that end at 10pm so I may live with him again so he can take on the childcare role,but after the two year break we have had dont think we will rush things it will be more like roomates,thats if it even happens!!!

Hi Happy New year to everyone.Do hope 2010 brings everyone the happiness they deserve. Just wondered if anyone has had some comical moments over the festive season? Last night while watching the countdown to 2010 on the telly,Sam said the London fireworks on telly are fake and they using computers to make it look really nice,he then refused to watch and decided to look at the fireworks our neighbours were doing as they were "real." Then today while eating lunch he asked how many calories are in fizzy grape juice,I asked him if he is watching his figure,he then dissappeared from the table,he returned with his BEN 10 figures and said "Now I can watch my Figures."

Sorry,I know he is not the president but he was the first black president in SA,its not about getting tickets he is an important figure in African (in fact in world history) I was born is South Africa and only came here 8 yrs ago, so I know all the in's and out's of SA politics. Many people go to Robbin Island where he was held captive.He will more than likely attend some of the games as the SA peeps will want to see him at this important event.Just like when royal Family attend events such as Wimbledon,Mandela is seen as Royalty in SA. Sorry didnt mean to ramble,I was just adding my thoughts

I agree sports bras are best!I am quite...well big busted and I absolutley hate underwires feel like its cutting me.Plus its easy to stick sports bras in washing machine.Oh I also like these vest like shirts with hidden support dont know the name but my mum gets them abroad,though you can get it here,they nice in winter as it keeps you warm and gives enough support.

That wont be good as South Africa are hosting the world cup and sure loads of tourists will want to see the man himself.On the other hand he has been really ill and he is old so it is extremely likely!

Hi I have the same problem with my 9 year old(NT)HE lost a tooth two weeks go and the day after the tooth next to that startd to wobble so he is also wobbling it.I was angry with him though the tooth tha fell out was really rotten and decayed,no more sweets