Paula

Does anyone watch this programme. I do.But i get right annoyed when they compare normal mums and every day women with other so called normal mums ect who are celebrities with loads of cash and acess to all the best stuff. Take last night. That lady aged 38 with 3 kids,pets ,husband and a job.Looking a bit frazzled and stuff like you would. But hey take a look at victoria beckham and Liz hurley,same age and looking great Victoria apperently injust jeans and a tshirt.Yea sure jeans that cost a fortune,same with the tshirt probably jimmy choos on her feet,haire extensions,fake tan and boobs expensive jewelry and acess to a makeup artist. Wed all look good on that. Even my husband said they shouldnt be allowed to do that compare normal women with stars and then say were not makeing the best of ourselves. Wed all look good if wed wads of cash to spenmd purley on looking ace.

My As son continually bites his hands and chews his fingers and skin.His hands are a right mess and always look soare. Then after i read a tip on this forum i got hold of him a chewy tube.There specially designed for chewing and giveing a sensory input to the mouth.I got him one of theses just last week and hey presto.Hes chewing that instead of his hands !!!!!!!!!!! Give it a go.Ill give you the web site adress and stuff.Id to telephone the company and they sent one out to me cost about ?6 with postage and packageing but well worth it. http://www.kapitex.com/index.page.php?page...hewytubes-range Click onto the above link to take you to the web site from there you can take a look at what im on about.

Roll on monday.Cant waite. Im been driven mad. AS son on PS2 all day,NT daughter sat most of day on the pc.Whingeing whineing moaning for food.House a constant mess.Im fed up and i cant get my fix of this morning on TV. Managed to get out yesterday.But today my son hasnt bothered to get dressed so i guess thats that. Im gonna escape saturday i think.Me and my daughter hit the shops have a coffee and a big slice of cake.Well bloomeing need it after our enforced inprisoment.I will leave the boy with his dad.Thjey can get on each others nerves for a while. There aint even any biscuites in the house coz the kids have scoffed the bloomeing lot !!!!!!!!1

My 12 year old son also attends a special school. He did one awfull year in mainstream against my wishes but it was what the LEA wanted.It had to all go wrong and end in tears before they realised mainstream wasnt right for my son.They just wouldnt listen to me.He hated it. Id never ever fight for my son to attend mainstream.Id to fight for a special school.Luckily there was one in our area although it does involve a houres travel there and back.Worth it though. I tend to find that people officials who bang on about inclusion in mainstream scjhools often have no idea about the needs of special needs kids they just havent a clue.Yet seam to think they know what is best for our children.

Oh Daisy i hate sick. It didnt do the dripping down youre face bit did it where just a little trickles into yure mouth............. URGHHHHHHHH Yes ive had that many a time. I can do as much poo as yer want but not sick. Rough justice by the looks of it all round on this thread. Men like to watch women struggle but normally they enjoy rushing over to give a helping hand and show you just how macho they are.Im surprised he didnt rush to help.

oh heck viper as my son as got older i do see so many si ilariteis in our behaviour. But is this because ive had to adjust my behaviour to fit in with his or was i like this anyhows.I guess ill never know.My husband says im weird also and a bit strange.hes always commenting on the way i walk and speak and stuff. I also have issues about people invadeing my personal space.I hate it hate people comeing up to me unexpected but dont mind as much if its me who instigated it.I also have trouble expressing emotions especially love but i do feel it. I would never bother though seaking out a diagnosis at 37 almost its a bit too late. Im just about to watch for the god knows what time againe with my As son star wars return of the jedi.We collect box sets and love watching them back to back in a so called movie marathan.

Well im not As least i dont think i am. And i love watching films over and over againe.We have a vast collection of dvds and i love to watch them repeatedly. After reading this thread though i must be a bit odd. I also laugh at the funny bits and stuff. The reason i watch over and over againe is because i like to spot stuff i havent seen before.Stuff in the background the miniscule detailes of a film that you dont normally see when you only see it once. Im right into how films are directed,the musical score and so on. You know what i think i must be a bit strange I do alsortts of other odd ball stuff too.I like to know whats going to happen,i react realy badley to change i hate change in fact,i dont do crowds and i panic if ive to go anywhere new.Ive very very riged routines and stuff. I often think me and my As son are very very similar. When ive examined more closely my school days i can seee that i was a loner had no freinds and was always refeared to as weird. Oh well.

Yep. It took a rbibery of "Ill buy you the wallace and gromit dvd when it comes out on monday" but i managed to prise my As son away from the PS2 and go to town. Granted wed to get there real early for when the shops opened.And had to rush around to get stuff done before the place busied up.Plus hed to know exactly what was going to happen. But hey i left the house and it wasnt too bad. Sometimes if im honest its the fear of what might happen and not my As son that stops me doing things.The reality is at times not as bad as what i imagine.But im always scared and avoide things on a just incase basis that something bad might happen. I guess im not helping himby avoideing stuff.But when youve had years of screaming in public and angry ignorant lookers on you just think sod it im not risking any of it. Today was good though.

<'> <'> <'> How terrible. All i can say is if it had say been you who had had this happen to you imagine how youd feel.I wouldnt want to leave the house either.Shes going to needs loads of support and a lot of time. This craze on so called happy slapping is awfull.

My Nt daughter shes now 14 was bullied for about a year when she was in year 8.I knew nothing about it till i found a suicide note and she cut her arms. I approached the school and gave the teacher the name of the boy yes it was a boy who was bullying her.Nothing happened.Yes the y spoke to the boy but he still carried on. Anyhow i went direct to his parents phoned them up and put them in the picture.Luckily this paide of they were absolutley shocked at what hed been doing.I explained that yes id only her side of the story and maybe shed been up to a bit of no good also and when he retaliated she didnt like it ect i didnt want to go in guns blazeing.But it worked the bullying stopped imediatly once his parents knew. Doesnt work for everyone i guess and not all parents are as good. Good luck i hope you sort it.The school has like phasmid says a duty to respond and not seing you is disgracefull it shows loack of concern. If all else fails do lile i often do and threten to expose stuff via a tabloide newspaper.That often gets results.

Reading what Daisyfulkirk as written as her signiture has given me hope for the future for my son. Thankyou.

Bloomeing heck just shows you. And shows how spot on a womans instinct about men who appear creepy can be. Nine times outta ten thats coz they are weirdos. I bet yer dead glad youre kids never slept over youd be thinking alsorts of stuff might have gone of. My daughter shes 14 is allowed to sleep at her mates house but the parent is a single mother and ive known her years.She did have a boyfreind who was on the scene for ages but he wasnt creepy and although it sounds a bit ott i always warned my daughter not to wander round in a state of undress ect ect perverts and all that.Normally met with a oh mum !!!!!!!!!!!!! We need to protect our kids from these sick pervs. Years ago my sister in law used to have a bloke come round her house a so called neighbour shed a small child at the time.Wed no kids then.I thought he was a weirdo and he gave me the creeps.Anyhows she had a tip of that he was a child abuser and had fiddled with his own kids hence the reason he lived alone and his family were never seen.He denied it all of course but i tell yer somenthing he never gained entry to her home againe.He later tried to hook up with another single mum with a little girl we gave her the tip of too and he was duley dumped. These men and lets face it women dont have it stamped on there heads im a firm beleiver in if they appear a bit weird give you the shivers up youre spine and leave yer fealing shaken ask around find out if they have the same effect on other women and girls chances are they do even more of a cert is there a pervert looking for an oppertunity to strike. Also take note of what yer kids get up to on line.My daughter was once a victim of an internet pervert poseing as a teenager or something.It was only when she forgot to log of of a so called chat room and he thought it was her that i realised was was going on i thretened to report it to the cops he logged of and i gave her a stricked talking to no holds barred.

Brook I never get a valatines card or gift either my husband says the same as youres that its all awaste of money ect ect. I guess it is realy and after so many years id wondered what he was up to if i suddenly received a gift. Asda have a card for 8p that says smart price on it or something.Id rather have nothing than a card like that.

call me jaded I know i shouldnt smile at the thought of no clothing and bowel problems but i did. My son is spending his days sat in night clothes he calls hit chilling out.His siter calls it being a pervert !!!!!!! Thats teenage girls for you. The gluten free diet sounds realy radical.I do find if he sticks to whole meal bread and not many processed foods or high sugar foods or fizzy drinks his bowel leakage is almost gone.And stool passage is a bit easier.But you feel sorry for them when they say can i have a biscuite or go on one can of coke now and againe wont hurt.Then yer sit back and waite for the fallout. Hes just spent the last few days biteing his hands and trying to nibble of his moles there all beelding.hes already had one mole cut of through constantly picking. Luckily thanks to a suggestion to another mum from this site ive got hold of theose chewy tube things and it came today so im hopeing hell chomp and chew that instead of his body parts.

Thankyou every one has been really helpfull. Just knowing its a common problem helps loads.Though i wish it wasnt a common problem. I have looked up on the internet poo fears its got a special name and tried other sites to give ideas on beating deep rooted phobias. Its a viscious circle you see.Hes got this fear of toilet paper.This also extends to all forms of tissue paper even when were out and about and say you get knifes and forks wrapped in paper he freaks and ive to remove it away from him.He wont let me touch any part of his body or wipe even his face with tissue paper. This then in turns means he wont wipe his bum.Combine this with a reluctance to sit on the loo and its a difficult one. His teachers have been told,the gp,the peadiatrician but no one listened.they said hed grow out of it.I thought he would like all his other little fears that came and went. I went into the kitchen last night and cried my eyes out at the why us type of thing the oh gods decended.That made me feal even morre guilty. Later on that vening un promted our son walked over to me and gave me a hug and said i love you mum. What can you do its not his fault.I love him too im his mum we get on with it its what we do its what all the mums and dads on here do. I will try and see if i can find a adult aspie sight also. Paula

oh and once we had a clinical physcologist try to hypnotise him in an attempt to rid him of his toilet paper phobia.That had to be seen to be beleived.Its a whole other story. Granted my son wasnt hypnotised and i couldnt keep a straight face.

Yes ive used suppositries and we use wet wipes and yep done the pead.All to no avail.he wont touch his anus at all. Basically no one took anything i said seriously ever when i fist realised this was going to be a serious problem and gradually the years passed by and now i cant break it.Yep ive tried thinking sod yer sit stink be a mess.he dont give a toss.Doesnt appear to bother him.Though he will try and hide at times his underpants. To all mums and kids haveing this problem it sounds funny it aint.And i guess im lucky at least hes not in nappies.

<'> <'> <'> <'> Ive had a rotton day too.School hols as and autism dont go they just get used to the new routine and then there back and its a kick of all over againe. Ive had people at times standing outside our house like its a tv show when all hell breaks loose with our son.Cheecky sods they are. Tommorrow is another day and as we know they can bve little horrors unintentianally and without meaning to of course one day and angels the next.Fingers crossed for an angel week.

my son has had bowel problems for a while all his life.Gps and pead never helped us.Then he developed a phobia of toilet paper.Againe no ###### took it seriously no matter how mant times i told them.Hence he wont wipe his own bottom. Combine this with constipation and anal leakage plus bouts of diareaha and a refusel to use the loo when needed and its hell. Altering his diet has made it easier for him to pass stools i guess but he refuses to sit there at times.Then he wont wipe his bum and hes all messed up. I know this is a familiar thing from reading other peoples problems surrounding the loo. Today has been a nightmare.All underpants wrecked trousers full of sh*t to be blunt and him screaming. Welcome to my world.(in the voice of jim reeves)nose peg on nose to come on in !!!!!!!!! I guess i can still smile through the tears. hes just screamed his head of coz he wanta pizza.Ive tried explaineing pizza makes bowels worse.But hes yelled screamed and got in my face.Today i gave in. Tommorrow surely cant be as bad.First day of the holls always goes with a bang and this time it came via the bottom. I make a joke to get me through it else id cumple up and scream the ###### place down. God help me hubby hes due home soon hell get it coz the sh*t will be literally hitting the fan.

Im no longer smileing i could weep. Ive just had to bin all his clothes that he was wearing.Then shower him of. God how long does this go on for.Ive been wipeing his bottom,cleaning him up for bloomeing 12 years 12 years.Theres no end to it.Hes actually developing haires now on his u know what.So i guess my fear as arrived.Im wipeing the backside and showering a pubebesant boy. Im realy fed up of it. yea i know theres worse things out there and in some ways im lucky.But it doesnt feel like it. Please please anyone anyone can you give me hope that they do become self sufficiant that this behaviour passes.Because it seems like theres no end to it.

God i could bloomeing scream. My son is soiling all his underpants and has seveare anal leakage. Ive tried forceing him to sit on the loo but he just screams and yells.Its obvious hes got constripated againe and now liquid is seaping past.The whole house stinks.And his NT sister is complaining. Does he care does he hell. He sitting stinking,shuffling round obviously in discomfort but getting all angry when i suggest the loo is needed. Bloomeing great start to the school holidays.Roll on tommorrow.Thats if i aint gassed by the smell and keel over. Dont yer just love the AS kids. Humour its the only thing that gets me through.I hope no one visits well blame the draines.

This is going to sound harsh but why should we as parents constantly feel the need to explaine the behaviour of or As kids to other parents.Who as we norrmally discover dont actualey give a toss whats wrong with our children and dont want to learn about it. I gave up long long ago feeling i needed to do this and it was like being let out of a prison cell.I know whats wrong family know and lets face it parents and other adults with any common sence at all can see as youre child gets older that there not the same even if there not sure what is the matter and if interested will ask. Theres nothing more frustrating than trying to explaine the ins and outs of autism and aspergers to a bored adult looking uninterested and then infuriatingly saying oh right>Breath is better saved i find.

why not try giveing youre son a sweet potatoe either backed whole or cut into thick wedges and baked in the overn.No need to peal them and they do taste sweet and are full of nutriants. My son is a fuss pot with foo>One minute hell eat something then he wont.As hes got older though hes now 12 he is open to trying different things.Yesterday he had braising steak,mash,cauliflower and brocali with a yorkshire pudding and loads of onion gravey. This is a boy who used ot only eat ready break for every meal.So dont despaire.Eventually they move on.

id go with the past life thing too. I have a dream where im dressed in old fashioned clothes in a realy large house.I go up some steps and im meant to be cleaning but cant resist opeing a large wardrobe thingy.Inside theres gorgous gowns and i start to hold them up against me.Im wearing a grey long smock like dress.Suddenly the lady of the house enters and shouts at me and i run back down the stone steps. its so so real and not like a dream but like a memeory. Ive had another one also where im in the lebanon everyone speaks a different language and were in a large building.Suddenly im terrified and we are told to get out.As i pass a mirror on the wall i glance at it and i see a reflection of a woman with blonde haire and wearing glasses.I dont look like this now.The fear is overwhelming and then i hear a loud bang and it ends. I beleive in reincarnation and think these are buried memories of other times.

Hev Ive not worked since the kids were born and the eldest is now 14. Its just impossible.The sort of job i could do that may fit in with kids pays sh*t money and so i cant afford child care.My husband works all houres and so cant be relied up on to be home at a certaine time.So i just gave up. I sit at home bored stiff wondering of what might have been. Just recently i decided to appy for a job as a casual escort of the school transport system that transports special needs kids.I got it.Its something i guess but its hit and miss but maybe one day itll lead to something more perminent. My sister pays over ?180 for threee days just for one kid to be looked after by a child minder.When her other daughter is of school this rockets in price. Thing is though shes got a ###### good well paide job and its worth paying the cost. Most women work for peanuts and cant afford it.