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ksanic God they make yer sick dont they.You wouldnt be there if ther wasnt a problem.God almightly. Thing is and ive said this before there arent that many people so called self appointed proffesionals who actually know anything about autism/Aspergers and the subtle ins and outs of how this disorder presents itself.If the person doesnt fit the no eye contact,rocking ,untoucheable none verbal typical steriotype they only portray on tv drams then theres no way yure child can be on the spectrum. Ive never had a diagnosis for my son.It was like banging yer head against a brick wall.No one was ever prepared to say yep hes Aspie.All i ever got was well hes not right but we cant say for certaine,or we need to give it a few more years ect ect ect................ In the end i wrote a letter of complaint to the health authority saying that my peadiatricain was a waste of time and that all hed done over the years was drag and parade my son around and go over the same old same old every time i went.Why couldnt he just say he aint a clue how to diagnose and refer me to someone who could. That made them sit up specially when i insisted i had copies of all his medical records sent to me.Yes id to pay but so what. Suddenly i received a letter form the peadiatricain saying in his opinion he was aspergers but he didnt want to label him. I said right thats all i need.I said i aint comeing back to see yer no more or any other so clled specialist againe whats the point ultimatley im on me own with this. I then concentrated on getting him special help in school and gaineing him a place in a specialist school. All the teachers at his school said after speding time with him regulary that he was aspergers.I know he is,my son knws hes different. For some a diagnosis is important and it opens some doors to other forms of help.But in the long run it changes nothing the behaviou is still the same you have to cope with. It was being like let out of a nightmare no lolnger being involved with the gps,drs and hospitals.I could concentrate on doing the best for my son without and lets face it outside interfearence from at times people who havent a clue and make it ten times worse. I hate the drs and the hospitals as you can tell. Can i just also say that even without a diagnosis i receive dla and carers allowance.he is statemented for special education and got a place in a special school. I think its important not to get too hung up about chaseing a diagnosis because it just wears you out.It did me. Plus i didnt want my son as he cgot older and more aware to think i was looking for a way to put him right and that i wasnt happy with what id got.Because i wouldnt change him for the world. Its ignorant peoples attitudes that need to change towards all forms of hidden disabilities.

I was gobsmaked when the speech terapist said it were me accent that caused him not to speak. But beleive me she didnt say it in jest.She was a right stuck up snotty sod and i think it was kinda also meant as a put down. I pointed out to her before chucking her out that if that was the case how come my daughter who was 4 at the time could hold a conversation like an adult and was speaking in sentances from an early age.Surely shed have not spoken either and just screamed because i spoke broadley. She was a right sill cow.God did it feel good to say get lost go on get out me house.She was even that daft she asked if i wanted another appointment making.I said do i hell as like its a waste of ###### time. Speech therapy works for some but i knew my son was capable of speaking and speech therapy with someone who aint a clue wouldnt help. I bought a dog.That worked ###### wonders hed speak to the dog and through the dog in third person to me.It was amazeing.Unfortuatly he wouldnt take the dog for walks coz he hated leaving the house so we had to eventually get rid of it.But i replaced the dog then with a soft toy who againe he spoke through if that makes sence. Hes a good if slightly odd little talker now.But sometimes he still only speaks through the same soft toy hes had all these years and i have to also speak through toy else im ignored. Gods i feel daft at times communicating with a soft toy but it gets results.

My son used to run at the tv and try to overturn that.He was like a caged animal desperatly looking for an outlet for the anger/frustration god knows.How do we know when they cant explaine whats upsetting them. As hes got older he now tends to stomp of up to his room bang the door a few times and pucnch his favourite teddy bear.He does tend to say im sorry mummy later on when hes calmed down.I just give him a hug if hell let me and say hey it dont matter we love yer no matter what. I always replaced the broken stuff.Some might say i shouldnt have done but you do what yer think is right.

Ive replaced many a broken toy. How about saveing the broken ones for throwing purposes and buying new ones to replace them.Perhaps have a toy bag that containes toys just for chucking and breaking.maybe that would work.

My son is always right and always wins the game and god help yer if yer say any different. Even when hes playing driveing shooting type games on the ps2 he stops at the red traffic lights and waites for the green to come on.Now thats safe driveing. Me and me hubby were saying last night.God we love him to pieces and all his little ways.Someone once said everyones a star but some are shooting stars and there to be noticed.

Worst bit of tosh i was ever told was when my As son was haveing so called speech therapy. The speech therapist would come to our house as at the time he wouldnt leave the house without a meltdown taking place. She told me that no wonder my son had communication difficulties what did i expect when i spoke with a broad yorkshire accent !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11 Im assumeing then french children dont speak because they dont understand french,or geordies,scots, or the welsh I chucked her out and said she was talking tripe.I never bothered with speech therapy againe.My son communicates just fine in his own aspie way and with a brill yorkshire accent eeee by gum !!!!!!!

My son when younger and he found it harder to communicate would hit me realy hard all the time.Hed use the candle sticks and beat me over the head with them id be cowering on the floor.Hed also bite punch and nip whilst screaming. Thankgod as he got older and his speech more normal and he could make himself understood the abuse stopped. he now takes out any frustrations on slamming his bedroom door or punching a much abused teddy bear. Im realy glad because hes a big strong lad as big as me and hes only 12. We have to be understanding though.It must be awfull not being able to communicate correctly yet knowing what it is you want.I think id lash out too.

My son and i know im biased is a good looking lad,all blonde haire and blue eyes.Its his dress sence that leaves little to be desired. Weve know got the Next directory and bought him a load of fashionable clothes to smarten him up.Ive thrown away his self named Easy wear just kept one paire of jogging trouser things.He wasnt happy>But he looked like a tramp. Theres a young lady where he goes to get his haire cut shes 19.He likes her also and tries to impress with witty reportee.Such as ive got haires on my tu tu. What can you do.Luckily shes known him years and i say to her just nod and smile nod and smile Then i bundle him out very fast.

the 14 pence chicken what a bargaine. What a day youve had. bet yer dont sleep tonight with all that coke induced caffene.

He has kinda got a girlfreind at his special school shes got AS and adhd.His chat uplines work on her apparently and she thinks hes brill and dead interesting. Weve told him that he needs to ditch the high waisted elasticated bottom pants,his make shift thongs (underpants back to front)and revamp his haire.Mismatched socks dont help.Then sit back and the teenage girls will flock to him.Via his sister fetching them home. Keep his mouth shut and dont mention his yo yo or go on about star trek before they know where they are theyll be betrothed and itll be too late once they twig. Yer have to laugh. Yesterday his 14 year old sister was on one of her vicky pollard moments saying yea but no and god yer nowt but gay !!!!!!!! to him.He lifted his leg farted very loud and said with a dead pan face i call that revenge. Made me laugh till i cried.He never broke a smile though.Hes so so funny and doesnt realise it.

I had to laugh my son whoes 12 and desperate for a girlfreind is constantly trying unsuccesssfully to chat up his teenage sisters mates. Latest line he thought would work was. Im famous and ive got cash !!!!!!!!!!!!! She didnt take him up on it.Surprise surprise. Next time he says hes gonna say hes got a limo and a million in the bank. When i asked what hed do when she asked where the limo was he said i dont know pretend its in a garage.

Oh well then shes no excuse

Perhaps Ulrika has been misquaoted in the newspapers then hey.Wouldnt be the first time the papers print stuff that hasnt actually been said. Perhaps we should give her the benefit of the doubt. I once met paul daniels and his wife debbie magee when my son was in hospital years ago.I thought theyd be a right bunch of paines specialy her.But they were realy nice,freindly and chatted to the patients and the poorley kids for ages.So i guess its wrong to go on the image these celebs portray on camera.

My son swears at me sometimes also.I dont say anything because it makes a bad situation even worse if i pull him up on it. What i tend to do is waite till later and then braoch the subject.When hes in a better mood he doesnt like th thought that hes uset his mummy or made her cry and i use this tactic by saying mummy was sad ect ect or i say ill have to tell and name his teacher at school if he does it againe because its naughty.This normally has the desired effect. Thing is our son gets away with murder because im scared that if i push things hell go into meltdown and the meltdown is far worse than say the swearing or the banging around and causeing a bit of agro.

Sounds absolutley fab Grab the place if offered with every hand available.Special schools and good ones are hard to come by and even harder to gaine a place at. Our son never looked back once we got him into a special school.

Yes its what inside that counts. And some woman are naturally thin and ive nothing agaisnt them. What gets my goat big style are woman who are realy slim,then go get breats inplants coz theyve lost there natural boobs due to weight loss and then pretend that they eat normally.If there to be beleived posh and folks like her are eating burgers and pigging out on whatever they like they realy enjoy there food !!!!!!!!!! and are surprised that there only a size 6 or 8.Yea sure you eat normally.Its rubbish. Im a woman of 36 ive two kids and yea if i diet like theres no tommorrow and basically starbve myself i too can be a size 10 even a size 8 ive been there done it.And boy was it a miserable place to be.But if you eat normally have a bit of what yer like tuck into the odd full whopper size bar of choccy the weight goes on and yer back up to a size 12 or 14.Then yer level of.Yer happy rounded and have a bit of a backside. Only a man i guess wouldnt get the pressure on woman.Yea who gives a toss what folks look like realy as long as there decent people its the pretending there eating normally i cant stick come out and say yer eat nothing to look like they do. Im swinging me handbag.

They get paid to go on BB and im a celebrity though dont they. I tell yer id go into the big brother house for half the fee.Wouldnt fancy im a celebrity though coz i might have to eat something rotton.But Big brother id just sit around and do nothing and claime me cash. Pete burns is a bit odd.His he a transvestie or a transexual i cant quiete work it out. tell yer what though hes brill at shoveing on his makeup his skin looks flawless and his wigs aint half bad.Wish id got his legs.If he were a womena id hate him.

You jammy begger of to Australia. I filled in an application form to see if we could emigrate to Canada.Thing is wed no skills they wanted,wed no cash in the bank.and hey presto the reply came back saying they didnt want us !!!!!!!!!!!! We laughed coz we were only seeing which country would have us.But we didnt fit the criteria for any. So if anyone knows of somewhere hot and sunny where they let yer in if youre skint,no skills and havent worked for years but youre husband has let me know. And ill book a ticket.Then againe i guess im already in one.

My son used to bash me over the head with a metal candlestick holder. Boy did that hurt. He once head butted me and he used to bite me realy hard when he got frustrated. I used to cry with the pain.Thing is i never hit back at him or tried to stop him i just kinda sat there and took it.At the time he couldnt speak and used to get really frustrated i was the nearest target the punch bag. Im glad he grew out of it because at 12 hes a big lad and id dread to think the damage he could cause.

Yea it fealt good to let it all out Jill. makes yer sick though dont it the constant pressure to be stick thin the constant paradeing of celebrity skinny minnies saying how great they are and we could be too if we ate this or that or ran on a treadmill for 3 houres a day only eating a lettuce leaf. Im five foot 6 size 12 and weigh around 10 stone 6.Im not stick thin and im not overweight. I wish we could go back to women actually looking like women and not wanting to look like young boys.Its daft and unhealthy. Its a right pet hate of mine. Tell yer what yer can always spot these women there the ones looking miserable with just a bottle of water at lunch time when im sat with me full cream cappacino 4 sugars and a big old slab of rocky road cake with loads of choccy and cherries.Im the one smiling they look miserable as hell.Pluss i dont need a boob job or backside implants to fill a paire of jeans. Men dont actually like stick thin women or do they.My husband doesnt he moans if i loose weight. I could be wrong though . This is supposed to be about ulrika but ive gone on about skinny women. Sorry.

Women make the mistake of constantly thinking slim automatically equates to beautifull and it doesnt. Im finding that a lot of female celebrities and woman in everyday life are going to the extreames and are looking thin,tired and haggard with no backsides and none existant boobs.Then to rectify this they have to get cosmetic surgery.Its cheeper to put on weight. Come on what woman actually beleives that you can be 5ft 10 say and weigh only 9 stone have no backside or hips but surprise surprise youve a 36 DD chest it doesn happen.Women who have naturally big boobs tend to have a big ar*e and hips as well. Im sick of celebs making out its all natural and then us meare mortals are trying to acheive this and fail. Im rambling but i guess its a pet hate of mine. Ulrika did look a hell of a lot happier and better with a few pounds on her.So did Posh spice and numerous other stick thin celebs.

I love sci fi I watched all the next generation series on tv.I watched all deep space 9,and voyeger which there re showing on channel 4 or 5 not sure on a saturday night right from the begining.I also love star gate and star gate atlantis.And we also watch Enterprise.Ive seen all the Star trek films and ive watched Star wars all the episodes back to back numerous times. Now who are the best baddies. For me it has to be the Borg and the Gemadar, i think thats how you spell it. I wish theyd make a film with the gemedar in.Or the cardasians.Brill stuff.

Ulrika Johnson What can i say she gets on my nerves.She was in a magazene the other week banging on about how shes had 3 kids 3 different men and how running keeps her sane as she looks for her MR Right againe. Then to add insult to injury i think shes shoved out some sort of keep fit DVD on how she looks so slim and good.Well i think she loks old haggerd and far too thin and her secret diet is heartache and being constantly dumped by the men she rushes into relationships with.Why wpould we want to look like her. I have heard of ODD though a lady was on the tv last year with her son and she said he had been diagnosed with this condition.But it was far more serious and much more complex than refuseing to obey orders. So called celebrities should but out of stuff they know nothing about.Stick to eating with a baby fork so they feel fuller or pretending theyve havent been airbrushed and are naturally 47 and look 25!!!!!!!!! I once read an article Keith Duffy had written about the therapy he was haveing for his Autistic daughter.Thats a celebrity who knows what its all about but doesnt feel the need to publisise it for his own benefit.

There is a book called the five people you meet in heaven which is of a similar thing to yure posting. Its all about how everything in youre life everyone you meet has meaning and a part to play and you in theres no matter how it seams at the time. The author is Mitch albom. Its only a short book but makes you think realy hard about youre life and its not religious.

My son was sevearley constipated and had anal leakage constantley. He couldnt push the poo out and so it would build up then leak out and then his stomach was all bloated. We were prescribed a suppositary that guaranteed hed go to the toilet for a poo within 20 minutes.It forced the bowel to contract there by forceing the poo out.I cant remember what it was called though and it was pescribed by a peadiatricain.To ensure he couldnt clench his anal muscles and try to prevent the poo comeing out we we were also given some sort of cream that meant he couldnt do this either. The combination of these drugs meant he got into a routine of useing the loo every day or every two days.We only used them for about 2 weeks.My son also has poor muscle tone around his middle. He still hates useing the loo for a poo and will only go at most once a week then her blocks the toilet. As for the bed wetting.Hes now 12 but only stopped wetting the bed and soileing it when he was 9 or ten.We used every piece of bedding everynight.And he wouldnt wake if hed wet the bed.Id to check him everynight then change the sheets.Hes now dry. I found that id to cut out white bread,fizzy drinks and virtualy all processed foods from his diet and that this made pooing easier for him as it formed something easier to pass.When these foods are introduced he has constant runny type gleuy poos that he cannot pass and causes a right mess.