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I think the title just about covers it. My ds isn't so bad when he's in his routine but now it's Christmas it's like I have a different child. We've just visited the in-laws and it was aaaaagh My ds just had like a complete metal down for no reason - other than being told to behave appropriately. It didn't matter what we said he just got worse To make it worse he's still being assessed - so no-one's actually said he's got asperger's yet, and we could just feel the prejudging. So I wondered how your children behave in other people's houses? Does this vary depend on different factors - like time of year, how crowded, how much their behaviour needs correcting etc? And what do you do to try and make the visit as calm as possible? Thanks in advanced for your replies. Merry Christmas.

I'd try not worrying about it (easier said than done) and concentrate on him eating something and seeing if it gets any better with age. Did with my son.

Mine would use it as an excuse to stay up later

I whispered to my son earlier that his dad's presents were hiding at the bottom of the wardrobe. My son said, "Isn't dad at work?" Well I knew he knew he was but replied, "Yes!" So my son said - "Why are you whispering then?" I explained that it was to put emphasis on the fact it was a secret but when explaining it I felt like I was acting really odd for doing it lol. Anyone else have any experiences like this?

Yes I said that to them - but tbh it was the first time she had actually admitted he had any special needs and it wasn't just in my head.

I have recently become a parent governor and when I made my class visit for the day I found that it was my ds's teacher that pulled me over to discuss my son's sen whilst there......I didn't think that would happen tbh.

I used to find the healthy stuff my son would eat - even if that was yoghurt as opossed to crisps for example - and just gave him that - but would add one other food with it and serve it up without expecting him to eat it/putting too much pressure on him. What do you do now?

I have the same problem. DS is 9 in a few weeks and the little un is just 2. We find not leaving them alone is the only time (apart from when asleep) that they can be left. He doesn't understand that his younger brother doesn't understand the same way as him either. Let us know if you find anything that works.

Sorry for the delay and thanks for the welcomes. I'm having trouble because he's borderline and academically very bright - and well funds aren't what they could be and so have had trouble getting any help because other kids need it more Well he's being assessed by the professionals now but even so, since me and his dad started treating him and using things to help kids with asd it has helped him and us with his behaviours (does that make sense?) Thanks for the warm welcome.

Thank you.

OMG I am sorry it took that long.

Thank you. Have had social stories mentioned before and the school were going to find some but they were extremely basic. Do you have social stories and if so where did you locate them please? Tyvm.

sorry didn't think to do a search. Will look at the poll. Thank you.

Something usually goes wrong. We do try and invite them - but somewhere along the lines it doesn't happen. And he gets quiet annoyed with their parents then - which also doesn't go down well He does have circle time at school now to help.

Was just wondered as it's only by completing the ASD survey that I discovered that most people take 3 years.

I shall bear this in mind then. He used to drink loads when he was little and now I just assumed he wasn't eating his lunch at school.

This has helped my brother loads. And now after 21 years he is having small conversations with me.

My son "warned" a little girl not to go on this mini-roundabout thing in the park because she was too fat and might break it. Again not being rude just genuinely was thinking of her safety.

How well can your child play with others? Is there any ways that I could help my 9 year old son mix/play with others?

TBH my little boy can act so "normally" which makes things hard because it really does seem more like he's playing up. There was a little boy in the doctors who started lying on the floor and pretending to be a cat. He looked so cute and I immediately assumed he had some sort of asd. I must have been grinning widely at him because he looked so full of love. Then his mom explained he has asd. She seemed so relieved when I said my son (who wasn't with me) was being assessed for aspergers and that my brother has it. But I felt that this poor woman must have had such a difficult time if she felt the need to explain to me that he did.

Hi I'm really not happy with the whole balancing thing atm. I work part-time as a science technician at the local comp - purely because it fits in with my son's needs. I tried night work with great-granny (in-law) looking after him but she couldn't cope with him - says he was "rude" etc. I'd like to do something with my degree but am waiting to see what happens after my son is finished being assessed. My husband works 3 X 12 hr shifts a week (but can do overtime too resulting in sometimes 8 shifts in a row). And they vary between days and nights. But is reasonably good money.

I have to work when my son is at school - is this a possible option?

did mine when they e-mailed me

That so sounds like my life right now. I just get told that Luke (who is currently being assessed) just seems to have a different "perspective" on things Hope you get something sorted hun. I've just tried to teach him about bullies and how it's because they are jealous. He's getting upset because they are "lying" (they are saying he wears knickers) and doesn't understand why they don't stop when he tells them the truth. And yes since christmas and routine is changing don't I know it. Good luck with the school hun.

Hey Helen it is as good as it looks here then