Clare63

Awwww that's fantastic, who knows could be the start of something big ! Its so good isn't it when you can post a thread like this, thank you for sharing, hope someone has some ideas for you and self publication, in the meantime enjoy this special moment. Clare x <'> <'> <'>

Oh JPL that's so exciting I am really pleased for you .....sounds like you''ll have your work cut out for you the next few days, shame you don't have more chance to sort all your stuff out and then perhaps you would not have to fill all those cupboards. Try to keep cool and enjoy the move.... just keep thinking of that God send of a downstairs loo. Good luck Clare x <'>

Con finds it very difficult if not impossible to give things up no matter how old or tatty they have got. When ever I suggest either getting rid off, giving to others who don't have such things etc., he always seems to come up with some wonderful memory linked to the particular item and how heart broken he'd be if he had to give it up as he may not be able to remember the memory. have not found a solution yet, so will be interested to see what others have to say. Mel, do you have a photocopier with your PC printer maybe he could take a copy of his picture to keep and give to orginal to his Dad, grandparents etc., ? Clare x

My advice would be to get as much driving as you can in between now and the test and if possibly get someone to sit with you for a longer than normal journey so you get on some different roads and get some expereince of driving where you don't recognise things. Just before my test (many years ago now) I drove back from Bournemouth where we'd been for the weekend whilst its not a huge journey it was the longest I had ever drove and of course did not know the road, was totally shattered by time I got home but think it gave me extra confidence as before that I had only driven locally and mainly around the test route. Good luck and fingers crossed for next time. Clare x <'>

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Well its a good start Curra, lets hope the support will follow. Clare x <'> <'> <'>

Hope you get some answers - Good Luck Clare x

That's good news that the police are going to send someone round to talk to Steve lets hope it has the right effect. See from another thread you have a bit of respite today, hope you are managing to enjoy the break, oh and by the way isn't your Mum just lovely. Clare x <'>

Been thinking of you guys, hope things are a little better today. Clare x <'> <'> <'>

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DS hates clothes so will only wear pants and jogging bottoms no top, also hates going out probably cause he knows he has to wear more clothes, even in the cold of winter he'll refuse to wear a jumper or a coat, was a nightmare when we went ski ing last year....never again !!!! Clare x

Just to let you know what happens here.....my DS very untidy and disorganised however the things he really cares about are neatly filed, stored and treasurered, yes his desktop is all lined up neat and tidy, cd's dvd' books etc all in order, like to have complete set of things even if he does not read or watch them !!!!! Must say there has always been order to his lining up, thinking back to when he used to line his cars up they would be grouped bu say colour or size or make. Clare x x x

Hi Carebear and Welcome, My 12 year old has aspergers and experiences all of the above with the exception of playing alone he does play with the other kids most of the time but prefers own company. His biggest obbsessive behaviour is the seam on the toe of his socks and repetitive removal of shoes to check this, this makes us late for everything and if we travel by car he continues with the behaviour until it feels just right, our psych said he does this to control his anxiety. As you say its not about a label but getting your child the help they need, sadly though I found the "help" only really came when we had a dx and that "help" you still have to fight dam hard for. Clare x

Oh I am so sorry its all been so tough on you guys lately. I did not realise from your other post that you are Hev's Mum, now it all falls into place. From what I can tell you have all been very let down by the proffesionals, like Jsmum says maybe the police could help deal with what appears to be an obession Steve has with them, maybe he'd take some firm sound advice from them, trouble is he sounds set on being the "bad guy" so not totally sure that will work. I am afraid I don't really have any advice for you, but my heart goes out to you all, words I know that are not enough. Keep posting on here the people are great and have some wonderful suggestions and words of support and encouragement. You and Grandad are fantastic Grandparent and parents, but take time also to care for yourselves. <'> <'> <'> Clare x x x

Awww Jenrose you are a brilliant MUM .... its difficult for any child to deal with growing up I know I absolutely hated the thought of it as a child, was in fact I was quite horrified, scared and upset as the changes took place, so really can't begin to imagin what its like for our kids. I think its a great idea to with draw gradually and teach him to bathe as a positive being the clever young man he is. Don't forget also this is "your baby" growing up too and whilst we all know this time will come its still a bit of a shock and a minefield of not quite knowing how to handle it. Good luck <'> <'> <'> Clare x

Oh Loupin, sorry to hear the holidays are not going too well, its not surprising the whole family ends up falling out, I think Easter is not unlike Christmas for meltdowns possibly down to much chocolate and breaks in routine and perhpas our expectations are higher than usual. Hope things improve as the week goes on and that you have finally got rid of those nasty nits !!! <'> <'> <'> Clare x

Shaz, Hope you managed to get some sleep last night with all that stuff going around your head. You have got some fantastic replies above and really don't know what more I can add, I could particularly identify with what Frangi was saying, I am looking forward to the day when we can start putting some pieces of the puzzle together. The important thing to remember is that we know our children better than anyone, we love them and want the best for them and through this love we will support, fight for, understand and accept them which is really all we can do to help them achieve their own individual potential. I think I have said before I am more than happy to talk, listen and share information & expereinces so please don't hesitate to contact me. Good luck and I tyruly hope you feel a little better today. Clare x <'> <'> <'>

Have a fab time, can't wait to hear all about it when you get back !!!!!! Clare x

Oh Stevegirl, its so hard isn't it, so frustrating and so heart breaking. I wish I had some answers for you, just keep fighting and remaining that wonderful. supportive, loving and caring Grandparent you are to dear Steven. <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Clare x

Ah bless him.....mine well he shut in the spare room with the curtains closed on the PC and PS2 saying he does not feel well enough to go out !!!!! Hope you do something you'll all enjoy, Happy Easter Clare x x x

HAPPY BIRTHDAY hope you have a lovely day x x x

Yes it makes you wonder. I have thought its a blessing that Con and I have each other, I can't begin to imagin how he could have been treated if he was borned to different parents. People say I have the patience of a saint, but I think not, I have acceptance and understanding. Clare x

Hev, I don't know what to say..... <'> <'> <'> Think it might be a good idea to contact the police first so you can fill them in. CLare x

Curra, hope you don't mind me nipping in on your thread, but just wanted to say thanks to Fran for your reply above, it has made a lot of sense to me and giving me some ideas to work with my lad, I hope its helped you too Curra as I know your son like mine does not like going out.

Awwww Shaz , you certainly have a lot on your mind no wonder you can't sleep. Would like to give you a more depth reply but feeling a bit knackered now and need my bed, just wanted you to know I am thinking of you and will reply properly tomorrow, as you know Connor as AS but whilst we can compare I don't think it will help much as you say all children on the spectrum are different. My son acts and behaves according to his anxiety levels and whilst he does not have any learning diffiuclties at time of high stress he can't add two numbers together. When he's overloaded with worry he really struggles to function. Anyway hope you get some useful response and as I said I will re read and respond to your thread tomorrow. Night night.... <'> <'> <'> Clare x