Clare63

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I can totally empathise my DS is exactly the same (he's been off all week so far this week) He really hates school and I have dreadful problems getting him there. The worse being like you say the tears it breaks your heart, my DH says he puts it on but I just can't see it myself, his behaviour when anxious and stressed surely could not be put on. Like you say whilst at home they are relaxed happy and in my case find he functions very well, but the law says they must go to school !!??? All my GP says "he's got to go to school he'll get used to it" ...... but he's almost 12 ! <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Clare x

<'> <'> <'> <'> <'> I know how you feel Rach, this place is wonderful Clare x

Oh dear the dam friendship business, trouble is kids are so fickle, but obviuosly for our ASD kids its hard for them to understand. Perhaps he could see his friend off to France with a small gift & card for his Bday so he won't feel so bad about missing it, I think witsends idea of organising something after the trip would be a lovely idea and a chance for them to reaffirm their friendship. Good luck with this one. <'> <'> <'> Clare x

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No wonder you are so angry, what an awful experience for you all. I would certainly lodge a complaint against this woman, how dare she intimidate your children and they are so young, I hope it does not put them off going to the gym/pool again. <'> <'> <'> Clare x

That's wonderful....I've got goose bumps ! <'> <'> <'> Clare x

I may be missing something here, but I am sure you said you guys hardly make any noise anyway, so where is your neighbour evidence surely they would have to supply evidence to support their claim and why should you have explain about your son , they should consider themselves lucky you have not got half a dozen kids, have parties every weekend, play loud music late into the night, have a barking dog and wear stilleto's (that's you not the dog ! ) Sorry about that but your neigbours have made me cross. Think Caroline's suggestion of a leaflet or letter might prove helpful. maybe your neighbours want you out because they have friends/family they want moved in ??? Clare x

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Aw Mel, least us lot can stick together and you've got loads of cyber friends and supporters. Don't suppose it will help but have loads of these... <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Whoops it told me I put many emotions on !!!!!!

Oh so sorry I missed this post, afraid I don't really have any advice apart from the usual -making sure you are prepared with notes, facts etc and if possible having someone with you to take notes on what is being said. Good luck. Clare x <'>

Yes that'sa good point JSMum its is sometimes confused with that butterflies feeling. Clare x

Hev, it must be so hard to manage his behaviour when you have a little 3 yr old, I apprecaite that you can't just drop everything to focus on Steve. Has he got a punch bag or trampoline to exert his energies on ? Sorry don't have any advice but my thoughts are with you. Clare x <'> <'> <'>

My lad often complains of tummy ache at all sorts of times, one of his rituals is do a bowel movement before he leaves the house whether he seems to want to go or not. So will sit and strain I think the tummy ache perhaps relates to pulling muscles. Went to see GP who is now treating him for IBS due to his anxiety, he said straining would not give him tummy ache ???? Clare x

Thats great news I am so pleased for you. Clare x <'>

Pippin, Hope it gets sorted out soon <'>

Oh my God.........Oh how I hate the school gate tooooo.. I want to give you all a BIG <'> you guys really understand. All I can say is thank heavens I found this forum. Clare x <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Ps Mel, hope today has been better for you <'>

Curra, I am so sorry you have to deal with this it must be such a worry. <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Clare x

Curra, I am so sorry you have to deal with this it must be such a worry. <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Clare x

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Oh Mel, I am so sorry you are feeling so down and can empathise with your "self -induced isolation" sometimes I keep the curtains closed and refuse to answer the phone, even if its a friend just ringing for a chat and to see how we are doing. I just get so fed up about talking about our life to people who don't really understand, who are so full of bright ideas etc etc This forum has become so special to me I feel I am getting to know the members and as BP said share things I would not with close family. You have always been so kind and supportive to me. My saviour is my little dog, she asks for nothing but a couple of walks a day which gets me out in the fresh air I have also meet a small band of lovely people up the fields who do not judge me and with whom I can be myself. I am still waiting for counselling, perhaps that something you would consider, I am hoping it will help me to look at life with fresh eyes. Perhaps we could organise a "meet" say middle/south england, I would certainly go ! If you ever fancy a chat, you are more than welcome to phone me or I'll call you, just send me a PM for my number. Take care and hopefully things will improve soon. Clare x <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

Well done Bambi, sounds like the press visit went well. <'> <'> <'> Clare x