Amanda32

Lots of ... <'> <'> <'> <'> I know the feeling... Take care Amanda

Having quite a few bad days with my son with him being very cheeky, dirtying his pants...... He bother's with a boy by me and he's 5, my son is 9 and all of a sudden he's gone really cheeky pulls faces etc more than he has done before. He's very rude with visitors, family members and who ever else tries to speak to him. He his very lazy wont do anything and as been pooing his pants frequently and I have to tell him he's done it so he cleans himself.... I know he had problems before but everything seems to gone out the window. I have stopped him playing with this boy for now as dont want my son being like him as ive heard what he's like with his mother.... My son hasn't got anyone else his age only at school and he kept saying when he was going to playscheme twice a week he wanted to dress up but I told him no as he would of brought attention to himself with him being different. Hope things change when he goes back to school as dont want any problems with behaviour with his new teacher. Thanks for listening. Amanda

Hi claire22 Check this thread out http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...t=0entry12826 Hope this helps Take care Amanda <'>

If it was the local school he used to go to it's 10mins walk away so would be ok. His school he's in now is, if I walked him it would take us 45mins and there's no way he can do that. See if I hear this week otherwise may have to try and contact them myself and see if there are seats available for him. Amanda...... <'>

Thanks CarerQuie The parents that are in my son's school at the resource base were all informed the first or second week of july and one of the parents lives 15mins away from me so I should of had a letter aswell that's why im a bit annoyed to hear off other people instead of ed dept telling me in which it was their responsibility. Take care Amanda

I'm a bit annoyed with the education dept at the moment.. A week before they left school by word of mouth I heard they were stopping my son's transport and changing it to another bus company... The driver said the dept should of informed me as if I hadn't of heard it from them would be stuck waiting for him for school next mth..... Well I informed them and they said they will send a letter out explaining the new times/company that is taking him........NO LETTER that was the last week of school. Rang them again last week and they said AGAIN will send a letter out 1st class... that was the middle of lastweek.... cant they get anything right... Well to be honest if I dont get any information by the time he's in school as the bus maybe full now he cant go he's entitled to have transport so shouldn't have to take him myself or contact the company myself ed dept should have dealt with it all.... Why do they send letter's out to some parents and leave some out to get the info from other parents it gets on my nerves. See how things go as im not happy... Take care Amanda <'>

Still searching the internet, found some good deals with Globespan. Me and hubby may decide on seperate flight/hotel. Have been looking for flights from cardiff to canada and hotel in toronto and works out few hundreds pounds cheaper. So all im going to do now is try and contact my cousin in Iowa as not heard from her in a few mths by letter as cant contact her somehow now through Yahoo anymore. If I can contact her I can stay with her but see what happens. I know will have to get : Travel insurances Flight transfers/taxes supplements....... Lot to think about as im starting to get stressed over what I need. Think we are taking a trip before they go back to school to the airport get my son used to seeing the planes gradually as im really stressing about what he's going to be like. Sorry to go on a usual Im sure like you all said he will be fine. Thanks all Amanda

My hubby just said you was able to go to cardiff airport (wales) in the past where they had a cafeteria you could watch from there but not allowed anymore too much going on, only if your flying you can watch from that area. They have a place behind the airport you can see the planes flying off so may have a trip down there so he can see them close up. Thanks Amanda

Lots of <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Take care and we are all here if you need to let it all out and tell us how you are feeling. Hope things work out soon with everything as well. It does sound like he's not letting anyone in and not sure if he as ever told you how he feels at all. Im not an expert but if he wanted to be alone that may make him worse he needs support and you are giving him lots of that...... you have had alot to deal with too and I bet he's very happy he's got a loving wife who as supported him through the difficult times. Sorry if it's all come out wrong but just trying my best how to word things. Amanda <'>

Yes it would be nice.. I know I may meet up with Anneuk when she as time as in the middle of moving her business at the moment. I know Tylers-mum (julie) lives not too far from me and I keep in contact sometimes with Kirstie whom probably as had the baby now ...... she was due roughly this mth. Take care Amanda.

Thanks everyone Nice to have some reassurance from you all as I know most of you have beeen down the same road with your kids, especially when they dont want to fly like my son. I have some time to look around so may write some things down that I need to ask about etc. Take care Amanda

Thanks...sarahjane/lorryw.. Not done much searching at the moment just looking for the best deals for a year from now as it's going to be that long to save as want to make sure we have enough money to spend as not sure cost of things over there.... At the moment we are sorting our funds out and seeing when we can afford to go. I like to organise things way before it happens so im prepared. Say you was going into the travel agents you book your holiday/flights/insurances etc. Do you sort out seats with the travel agents?....Making sure we are all together, Im very confused with it all as new to flights etc so I may be asking lots of questions....Sorry Many thanks Amanda

Hi all None of us have ever been on a plane before, the only person that is worried is my son 9. Im not going to keep on to him about it as probably be ok when the time comes but I want to get ready before the trip. We are planning on the end of next year to go to Canada for a week and I heard the flight is about 10hrs approx. I have a cousin that lives in Iowa and may contact her to stay there instead but no plans yet only to see Niagara falls etc. How do some of your ASD kids manage for a long time on the plane? What can I tell him before the trip as he thinks he can get a bus there... I know he can take a gameboy etc, told him he can sleep on the plane if he wants but it's the sitting around on one for a long time and thats difficult for him without performing. As iv'e said never been on one before and id like to know how and what to do to help my son get confidence going in one. Id also like to know if anyone as been there to let me know any places we can visit etc. He had a lovely day out yesterday was in a park and he decided to get some mud from the ground and wipe it all over his face... He told me he was in the army what can I do, that was the first time he's ever done that but let him carry on as never liked being dirty before.... Thanks Amanda <'>

Hi something-different It's easier for some people to chat online because you haven't got the contact if you know what I mean. I can talk on and on, mostly usually about me, me and my kids etc cant help it. I talk fast but get more nervous not saying anything. Im not sure if im partly shy as not sure if I go on because of this. We can type alot to people on messenger, as I have found and it is easier for me as you have not got the crowds etc. I hate crowds especially pubs, big shopping centres but I try to deal with it the best I can, but I do try to avoid alot of things if I can unless im pushed into it. Your not the only person that struggles we are all here when you need a chat whenever you need one. You be surprised how many people out there feel the same way as you but keep it to themselves. Take care Amanda <'>

Hi Bid Fingers crossed in any help you can get and hope it works out really well. Take care Amanda <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'>

Hi Tez Lots of <'> <'> <'> <'> for you it must be very difficult keeping cool and not blurting out how you feel without hurting your Aunt. Your son is not a monster he's the same person just need that extra support and people to understand their difficuties, rather say they are naughty etc. You could go up front with her as honesty is the best thing, such as tell her that she upset you give her some information on the difficulties Autistic children have. Im not sure what else to say but im sure someone else will give you more advice on this. I have in-laws that stick their nose in all the time and I am getting fed up of it but the only reason I haven't said anything before is because I think the world of them but wish they would stop moaning when they visit and telling me what to do..... The problem is they live 5mins away so see them everyday.... Take care Amanda <'>

Hi Sallya This is for you...... <'> <'> I got some barcardi breezers in my fridge been there a few weeks think I will join you.... I know what you mean they know best they have been around longer.... Take care Amanda Have a lovely evening

Having a fun afternoon, took my son shopping no tantrums... I told him he could buy something so he decided on a costume...again.. Woolworths were selling Darth Vader 7-11 year olds so got him that so he was very happy... My hubby when he seen him in it and it makes sounds like breathing same as in Star Wars. He went out to show everyone and thought he'd look in someones living room window to see what he looked like Again... Dont our kids make us so much when we see them happy and having fun... Take care Amanda

My son keeps his room tidy, sorts his boxes of toys out and dont let anyone mess it all up as he gets annoyed. If I go in there to clean he says, mam dont do this and that you shouldn't do that. He likes things in order and cant move anything really but im not going to stop him better than throwing it around.... My daughter hasn't got problems and is quite lazy at 12 and I haven't been in her room for 2 weeks now left it to her to sort out as she should be doing it herself anyway so she has to sleep in it. I like to keep things in order if I can and dont like anyone else doing my work as I do it the way I like and am quite independant. I clean the house and always look over things all the time to check if its spotless and no crumbs anywhere. I ALWAYS tell my hubby what ive done and what im going to do in what order and for him to look over my work.... Lately I havent had the chance to get things square with work going on in the house and its doing my head in.... He has lots of tools etc and I dont like clutter but im trying to bare it until the work as finished.... Im the same at work like to clean with perfection (if that's the word).... making sure that its done properly. I am finding it difficult with the mess at the moment but if I want the work finished I should let him carry on. Take care Amanda

Just an update, had my eyes tested again but she said nothing as changed but she did notice I strain alot with lights and blink quite a bit too. She did a different test today which I haven't had before, it was some red lights I think and some sort of pressure put into your eye she said its to check for gluacoma (cant spell it) but all ok. She advised I go back to my GP as my symptoms are the same and to ask for a check up. I have to take my glasses back on monday as she said pale tint in my glasses may help a bit from the lights. Not sure if I can wear them outdoors as they are only for reading and close up things but its shops etc that will help too so may just wear them now and again outdoors see if there is any improvements. will ask her monday if she recommends me wearing them not just for reading etc. Thanks for listening Take care Amanda <'>

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CONGRATULATIONS TEZ..... Good for you in the result, drinks are on you now....... Take care Amanda

I voted yes as my son have had 1:1 support in a SEN resource base since he was 4 yrs old. He has come on much better since he went into a new school when he reached junior age and have been very pleased with his progress. His teacher as been teaching him for 2 years but in sept will have a new one so hopefully he wont mind the change... up for his school as think they work really well with their special kids... Take care Amanda

Hi Tez Cant offer any advice on appealing as not been through myself but wish you luck for tomorrow and hope it all goes really well...... <'> Let me know how you get on and fingers crossed...... Take care Amanda <'>

Hi Emma Hope this helps, if not there are lots of other member's that will give you more advice if it doesn't help. Clothing, Observations http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=2947 Take care Amanda <'>