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HI and welcome, my son has been diagnosed with ADHD, ASD ( ASPERGERS) and DYSPRAXIA. You will get plenty of advice here, THERESA

HI and welcome!!

H pingu, I have a recurring dream where I am trying to get through to someone on the phone and it's an urgent call ,everything that can go wrong does and I wake up panicking and soaking too. I know people will say it reflects what is happening in real life( my son and trying to get help),but I have been having this dream for years and it is really scary as the call is always really important as in life threatening and I never get through. Theresa

Oh you poor thing <'> I kind of know how you feel .When my son( 15) is stressed he can't answer questions so he looks at me to answer for him .I always get the feeling that the psychiatrist etc. and whomever else is in the room give each other knowing looks as if to say I'm putting words in his mouth,especially if I am expressing fears etc. I often say to hubby that one day they will just turn round and say that I have him the way he is. The thing is if they did , I would more than likely blow my top and rant and rave before breaking down, sobbing and crying and then they would assume they were right as I would be going into meltdown ( I've done it in the Past with the school head and a psychologist who I just could not get through to ) I have some funny little habits too ,who doesn't. My son cannot socialize, I can if I have to just most times I choose not to, it doesn't mean my son gets it from me . These professionals annoy me the way they try to analyze everyone except the one's they are supposed to be analyzing

Carole my daughter had a similar problem last year and the doc gave her anti-fungal cream,( I would have sworn it was ring worm) but the cream made it ten times worse. She was only 16 and she nearly went mad with the itch and embarrassment ( it was on the inside of her thighs). She went back to our own gp and it turn out it was not fungal,it was stress related as she was doing exams. He gave her a different cream can't remember the name and it helped,it went away ,but not until her exams were over. Just a thought,may not help. Theresa

I would have to agree with Bid, Phasmid and Baddad on this one , well meant, I'm sure, but tread carefully! Theresa

Great news!!!!

Glad things are starting to go well .

Hailey, Thankyou for sharing your story with us.... I wish things were better for you <'> <'> <'> Take care of yourself...Theresa

Oh dear Malika, Sorry I can't help you, I am not having a good day either ( must be something in the air) feel like I am coming to the end of the road and can't fight anymore, No one in authority is listening to what I say regarding my son. I do hope you feel better soon. Take care. Theresa

TM, sorry I missed this yesterday ,I hope you are feeling better today. You are a good mum it just gets to us all sometimes..Take care I have pm'd you with regard to support. Theresa

Desperate, Can't add anything to the good advice you've gotton so far ,just hope it goes well for Neil tonight ...Glad to see you back on the forum sorry things are not going well for you though..keep in touch. Theresa

Happy Birthday Hev!!!!!!

Hi sorry I wasn't around yesterday so missed this one .Hope you had a better day today....Sometimes it all gets too much for me too and then I wonder what I made such a fuss about when all is calm again...but know I'll do the same again next time! Take care <'> <'>

It is a sad fact that in fighting for what our kids deserve,we tread on a few toes,it can't always be helped but you were polite in your action and I think you did the right thing. The head had no right to speak to you like she did Theresa <'>

Hi all, My son went back today and they welcomed him back as if nothing had happened. They may have learned something from this, as in how to deal with kids with AS. However I will be keeping a closer eye on things. Also from now on I won't be taking a back seat in decisions and assuming that they know how to deal with him ,just because they are professional. Thanks for the advice, Theresa

Yep!! From the time he could hold a conversation and still does it now with everyone he is 15! Theresa

Thanks Tez, Think I was posting when you were, but I would have followed your advice if they hadn't called by first thing tomorrow morning, so THANKYOU, <'> <'>

Well the unit haven't called very caring aren't they ....NOT. His primary care worker who is also head of the unit hasn't even called him/me to see how he is ( which is very upset as he still can't understand what he did wrong). He went into the unit early oct and had a great careworker asigned to him, but two weeks before xmas she dropped the bombshell she was leaving and things have not been the same for him since. Anytime he had a problem ,she would deal with it and although they didn't always agree ,if he had a problem and was at home, she would call him. I am so annoyed now 4:15 pm The careworker just called. She is not prepared to end it like this and said he has had punishment enough by his 2 day absence.She has spoken to the teacher involved and I am to bring him in in the morning and careworker will have a quick word then he can go off to class for a fresh start. He only has a short time left at the unit . He is happy enough to go back once he doesn't need to apoligize. He won't get his explaination of why he was put out ....but hey I suppose you can't win 'em all! Thanks again for all the advice and replies . You're all great , Theresa

Simon, so sorry to hear this. Take care xx <'> <'>

If I get told this once more .....aargh!! This is what is happening with my son at the moment as he wasn't dx until he was 13 and It was too late to teach him any other way than the way he knew. Theresa

I think what you did was right,my son joined an anxiety group in the unit he attends ,turned out none of the children in the group had AS and it DID NOT suit him at all ,caused major meltdowns and the stratagies used certainly did not suit him. I had agreed for him to join as he did but then when he wanted to back out there was a huge deal made out of it, we had signed a contract saying he would take part ,they acted as if it was legally binding. So be careful. Theresa

No advice to give but I think the situation is a disgrace hope you can sort something out <'> <'> Theresa

Well sleeping on it hasn't changed his mind .He says he is not going in today if he has to apologize,so I guess he won't be going in. I'll wait now to see if the unit call me. Theresa

I agree she may be taking it a little too personally! I'm inclined to agree with this too ,had to bite my tongue in front of my son,when we came home and related to hubby what had happened. I am coming round to the same feeling. Thankyou all so much for your replies,Hailey, she is the principal and main teacher as it is just a small unit! As I said the psychiatrist is on her side ,when my husband asked what if he won't go back he said we'll see what happens,maybe have a meeting. I am sure when he doesn't show up tomorrow the head of the unit will contact me but they had a team meeting this morning and I'm pretty sure she knows all about what happened.Also when I was called in on monday afternoon ,as I walked into the place the head of the unit and the teacher were both talking and I don't need to guess what that was about ,if the look I got was anything to go by. I'll let you know how it goes and thanks again, I'd belost without you all