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An example of this had a call from work today 'can you work next tues or weds' couldn't understand why I couldn't give an answer there and then but I have to break things gently to K if I am not going to be here I can't do things out of the norm suddenly. How do you explain this to others. I did try once and they looked at me as if I was mad. T

I adore johnny depp, I loved him in everything he's been in. I go back as far as 21 jump street!

I find there are times when I just don't want to be near other people. The constant" how are things" and the 'feel sorry for you' looks get too much so I lock myself away until I sort my head out. It doesn't do me any harm it's like time out and if I didn't do it I would explode. I am a very private person though. Glad I have you all on here as I feel you all understand. So no you are not alone! Take care T xx

Hi , I have missed you all , though I have popped in to see how things were from time to time Things are much better here now . K will not be returning to school this sept. Long story, suffice to say meltdowns have stopped and he is in great form. I've got my son back! We are looking for another place ( suitable to his needs) or we will home educate. School are very supportive and have said he can sit exams there and they will keep a place for him if he needs to come back full-time, part-time whatever. Great to be back. <'> T

Sorry baddad didn't mean any offence The reason I said this was although my husband and I work. We are still supporting our older two as they do not work during college terms. I only work part-time and we are not always in a position to access services privately but nothing seems to be available to us through the health services. I know people who have problems in their families unemployment ,separation etc they are all very nice people ( some friends and relatives) but they only have to ask and they are given the help they need for their children. Which of course is right but it should be the same for all children. I take your post in good spirt as I know it was given that way. Alli - sorry for being so harsh. I am a nice person really Just feeling sensitive at the moment, so I opened my mouth before I put my brain in gear! Thanks again to anyone else that posted. I will take time out now for a while from posting but I will keep popping in and out of the forum now and again to see how you all are. I consider you all my friends. In the words of Arnie " I'll be back"! Love to you all. Theresa

Alli , Glad things are so wonderful and perfect in your house . Things are not the same for everyone and just because my son has more serious problems than yours doesn't mean I have not tried to lay down rules like you do . I hope you never find youself in my situation as I wouldn't wish it on anyone. There is nothing worse than knowing you are doing everything in your power as parents apart from getting him locked away somewhere. Also I am constantly ringing psycholigists/psychiatrists etc. about his problems no one wants to know. My husband and I are both hard working. Our older children are in college. I have worked with children in the past so I should know what I am doing. We are not from a deprived background. Maybe if we were we would get some support. T

HI all and thanks for your replies. Carole I have told my son everything you mention above. He is given a place to go when he is like this but he needs to be physically put there as he refuses to leave the situation.This is not easy to do. I have also told him that what he has done is not going to be accepted in our house. He has apoligized now but when he gets in a rage again all that goes out the window. I really am grateful for all the advice given here but I feel my sons problems must be quite serious as I have already done everthing suggested in the past and also on an ongoing basis. To be honest I now feel that my son may be beyond help and I also feel a bit of a failure as what works for everyone and what should work for us cleary isn't. I have two older children 18 and 17. Although they are not AS I never get the defiance and pure refusal to follow rules that I get from him. The thing is when he is not like this he is in great form and so lovable. I need time to think things over so I won't be back for a while. Thankyou all for your help and advice and take care. <'>

Hi all, Feeling really bad at the moment . My son 14 yrs and 5'5' AS got quite annoyed the other night because he couldn't watch something on TV. He got aggressive towards me and had to be restrained he eventually calmed down only to start again the next night over something just as trivial. This time there was no calming him my husband found it hard to restain him to keep him from hurting me. My older son kept out of it my daughter 17 was in tears. It was in the early hours of the morning when we got to bed and we were wrestling with him to retrive keys as he was trying to leave the house. He kind of calmed down but then refused to go to his room we were worried about what he might do if we left him downstairs. To get to the point I completely lost it at this stage and screamed at him said a lot of things I didn't mean ( like my life is c**p etc) and regret it now. This was two days ago and he still won't talk to me. If I try to approach him he pushes me away and becomes slightly agressive again. If I really need him to answer a question he gestures or nods his head. He is not talking to anyone else either but I did hear him ask his brother if he had seen his shoes around. He covered my leg in bruises because he kicked me and when I showed him these he did look but said nothing. I did apoligize and explained that we have gotton back in touch with his psychologist ( who is useless) and are trying to get him some further help for these outbursts and we understand that it is beyond his control but all I get is blank stares. Sorry to go on for so long but I just wanted to warn you all of the damage that can be done by things said in haste. We had a fairly good relationship (when he wasn't in a mood) now I feel I have ruined it for good and also caused my son to become silent ,which he usually does when stressed , but never really with the family or me and not for this long. I wish I could turn back time T

My sons psychologist he is hopeless.

Never log out either

Well done!!! <'>

I have want two and my son has all his other cd's ,dvd's. Cool your girlfriend got a photo with him too. Thanks for starting this thread it's good to talk about something other than ASD's for a change. We should start more threads like this any ideas?

Carole, Have you heard anything from carol jx. Just thought if her today and wondered how she was. Theresa

Hi and welcome to all new members. You have come to the right place I treasure the day I found this site it's great! T

Wow never thought of that guess it does . Thanks for the tip on the album I'll check it out! Theresa

HI Jonathan, I saw him live three times he is wonderful. I like him on cd too though. I also got to meet him last may( got a photo with him) after a concert here in Dublin he is so nice and genuinely down to earth. My son (18) and daughter(17) like him too and we hope to see him again when he comes back over here. Did I say like? Maybe obsessed would describe it better. Glad to get your reply most people say" Rufus who" when I mention him. T

Rufus Wainwright Anyone heard of him? and James Blunt. They're both great.

Corcaigh, I saw the programme too and although it had some positive aspects it didn't cover nearly enough it was only on for 15 minutes and as alli said the ape thing was a bit weird. They kept talking about AS and showing apes? As for the support group they all seemed to be just sitting there doing there own thing and any interaction was very one sided. All in all I didn't learn anything I didn't already know and they didn't discuss any problem areas of AS, but thats Ireland for you. Brush everything under the carpet and we won't have to deal with it ,as in NO SUPPORT for teens with AS. Sorry to be blunt, it's just my opinion. T

Tissues,tissues and more tissues!!

Bid I always open my mouth to the wrong person! Karen sorry but I laughed too when I read your post! Years ago I was shopping with my youngest now dx As . It was the end of a long day,week, year , you know how it is. Anyway he was running off and after finding him for the 10th time I was telling him off on the dangers of running off when this lady( busybody) who presumed I just couldn't control my child suggested that maybe I shouldn't bring him shopping ( there was no-one to mind him) if he didn't want to go and that maybe he was tired which was why he was screaming and running away and if I was nicer to him he might not want to get away from me. To which I promptly told her to F**K off and mind her own buisness! Stress is a terrible thing it makes you do things you regret (bit like alchohol really) T

Take care Flutter <'> T

WELL DONE!!!!!!!!!!

My son always threw his legs around while watching tv. At 14 he still does it at times and now he has very long legs! T

I watched the programme and I don't think it would be something I would have tried if I had been given the choice years ago had I known my son was AS. I would certainly not use it on my 14 yr old son now. I thought they were trying to make the child into someone he wasn't. The comment from his 4yr old twin about him forcing his autism out was praised by the mother but there is no way the 4yr old girl came up with that herself even though it was implied she did. I was shocked at that statement. T

Thought it was just me too but then I managed to mail some other members