Suze

Its ages since I started a thread ..................so thought I,d dip my toe back in the forum pool.Just wondered what we all did when we are not ploughing through the posts on here.I,ve got 3 kids and lots of animals they keep me very busy.2 lovely polish lowland sheepdogs.They are like old english sheepdogs but smaller.My son 17 yrs, who has AS works so hes off at 7.00 am every morning.I usually go for a run ..I like to do 10k or half marathons , training now for 2 in the autumn.I keep lots of rare breed chickens, pekin banthams especially.My daughter rides and most weekends I,m towing a horse box around the countryside as she competes.I used to work in an underwear shop selling very expensive underwear but packed it in a few weeks ago....currently trying to set up my own business on the net.I,ve a lovely hubby too and I love cooking buns casseroles anything really.My youngest loves rock music and he is obsessed with Muse (gets it from his mum ).

Hi In Exile..........noticed your into horse riding we have a pony, my daughter competes, dressage show jumping.Shes got a nutty secb who is very sharp and goes like the clappers !!!............where do your ride ?

ouch .... ...............steady on, lets be friends, .........

Absolutely...agree with this completely.My inference with the self moderation (unfortunate word lol )of your own posts was simply in response to other members describing the OP (Special T ) as being of a sensitive nature , I was simply asking that we take this on board when posting as specialT had become upset with regards to some of the comments.I don,t like to think of myself as the forum police , more like a referee , I try to keep everyone happy and the atmosphere comfortable for everyone . .

This thread is a classic example of how people can perceive things differently .It also shows how difficult it can be understand the tone of other peoples posts and their inference and meaning.I cannot see any need for moderation to the thread,I wonder Special_talent 123 if you would in view of my post now, like to leave the thread to continue.,It is an interesting discussion, and you did ask for opinions.I would just ask that members realise that Special t...feels a little sensitive and to moderate their own posts accordingly....I hope Special t you find this agreeable.Regards suze.

Nice one A-S

Please Cr4ckp0t , can I urge you to refer to and read the Depression and mental health crisis support link at the top of the forum pages.Unfortunately I am bound by forum rules and policy to close this thread .

I,m shocked that your son is 2 yrs old and only now concerns are being flagged..........did no doctor or health visitor notice these delays ??.........for now it is great that you have a series of appts set up.Write down all your concerns and odd type behaviours your son displays.Also include how he was as a baby with sleep feeding etc, how he coped with lumpy foods etc.Does he have any sensory , such as aversion to types of sounds.Have you had his hearing checked to see if this could be why there is a speech delay...best of luck with your appts, it may not be autism , but your right to be concerned , welcome to the forum , suzex

Bullying is always a good one, can happen to anyone, at any age, in school, or a work environment etc.My son was bullied quite badly at primary school.No one would mess with him now though , hes 6ft 2

Hi pingu , I think its probably best to pm Lufty.Hope your ok I know things have been real tough.Good luck with that book of yours , suzex

thanks for that , I alerted Lufty yesterday , unfortunately as a mod I can,t get in to delete posts as the accounts have been de activated.Lufty knows and is sorting it.You can disable the updates feature for now if looking at the posts upsets you.

How verbal is he , and whats his understanding.....do you use makaton or something similar?.Are there specific methods that work for him..ie good behaviour =a reward.Would it be possible to wean him off the toilet visits..could he maybe do one visit every 30 mins for a reward of some kind.Then obviously increase the time if possible.Would he respond to education on the digestive system?......the only other thing is an underlying medical problem, constipation, allergy of some kind.Best of luck.

So sorry Meldrew...is there any increase in stress/anxiety?........was there a trigger in the past when he regressed?....is he out of sync...ie cos school/college etc is on holiday?...is his routine messed up at alll?

Hi.. and welcome.....WOW.....you sound very talented!!.........have you applied any of these talents towards a career/job?.........its nice to meet you hope you enjoy looking around the forum.

Glad he had a lovely party and enjoyed it, my sons worst nightmare was a party lol, he rarely attended them, and hated the attention if he had one.........just loved all the pressies

When my son was 7 rs I would have put him at an 8 or 9...hes 17 now and able to live his life how he would want ..ie no school etc , he is free to pursue his obsession/interest as a career and he is very happy.He would probably be a 3 now.

The note sounds like a fab idea xx

Hi, has she just started to do this since school broke up for the start of the holidays?........if she has there might be a connection.Could be that she is reverting back to some older type behaviours as she is giving herself a "holiday"...from keeping all the personal hygiene a priority.A bit like a worker who gets up really early every day for work...then they have 2 wks off and spend every morning of those 2 wks having a lie in till 11.00 am.An act of rebellion if you like, one that she may not even be aware of.She probably won,t feel as pressured to do all the personal hygeine stuff etc if shes not at school around her peers, so shes not worrying about herself smelling as much.

Hi guys , this is quite an emotive subject I think for us mums.My son is 17 and the opposite in many respects.He is very tactile and likes to hug and be hugged, these are usually big bear hugs as he is a very strong 6,ft2 lad.He likes to tell me he loves me aswell.He can be very hurtful sometimes, he threw my mothers day present in my face and slammed the door as he had been woken early by his sister, and did,nt talk to me all day.He did apologise later on, but had no idea how hurtful he had been.In some respects its hard to know how much is ASD related and how much is typical teenage behaviour.All my kids take me for granted , and don,t appreciate stuff they have etc.It reminds me of my mum yelling at me to tidy my room and stop treating the house like a hotel!

Hi phantom sneeze what is ESA?..........can your probation officer not help?

muse..muse and more muse...........with lots of foo fighters........training for a half marathon and 3 peaks challenge so need them tunes!!!

you may find its better to leave plasters off in the nicer weather and let his feet have a breathe....even on the beach salt water will help them to heal.Have you tried chewy tubes ..for those ASD kids who like to mouth and chew stuff....they may help as a diversionary tatic and stop him eating his toes.Does he chew his fingers also?..........brulidine cream is excellent for when they become infected.

I,m here ..happy to join in.I became a member many yrs back as my son suffered a breakdown, and was seen by a physch.....Dx with ASD, auditory processing disorder, dyslexia, dyspraxia, and sensory integration disorder.Statemented and educated in a autism resource.He is now 17 and doing fab .I use this forum as a parent and have been helped so much by many members on here .However I agree the forum has under gone some changes , and more adult members who have a DX themselves have joined and are posting which is fab.Maybe we need newer mods, amongst those that are now posting more than some of us oldies, I,m all for progression and development.This forum should be for anyone that needs it.

Hi Jeanne, hope your ok.Do you think its the unpredictabilty of them that upsets him.Dogs also bark alot which can be very upsetting also.Animals in general have a habit of being jumpy, a cats claws, a dogs bark and a horses size can all be unsettling.Think how freaky birds can seem ..ie pigeons when they flap about.Animal phobias are so common amongst the NT community.I wish there was a way to make him more comfortable around them but it might be a step too far.Has he ever shown an positive interest in any type of animal ?

My son was like this when younger, tbh a busy shopping mall would have been a place to avoid at all costs.Too must sensory overload it would wind him up no end and hed either go into an anxious state or shut down.Violence should,nt be tolerated and he needs to know its not acceptable at all ever.Your younger kids are gonna learn quickly to avoid him when hes getting anxious.My son for instance hated to be kissed particularly if it was unexpected .My younger 2 always gave him space , never touched his stuff in his room etc.Hes 17 now and totally different !