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oh thanks lauren,i wonder if its easy to do,i will have a look tomorrow

when i take steve to see cahms we sit in a room talk about his behaviour and we leave in the same position as when we went in,do your cahms offer any other help than talking to the doctor?i know some people have hadgood experiences with them,i m wondering if they offer any other services

not asd related but i keep thinking i should make a will and putting it off,is there a legal way to do it without seeing a solicitor?has anyone done it another way,ive heard you can but i cant remember how to go about it

hello daisy,my steve had lots of meltdowns lately,really punched me hard twice yesterday,lost my temper and punched him back,not right thing to do i know as it all then gets worse and we both were upset,i just find it all so hard to deal with,i can give no advice just to say you are not alone

your friendwouldnt agree with my household then,when nick comes in from work i go out for a bit just to have some time on my own without kids,then he goes upstairs and watches a video with them,it works for us and thats what matters,i think your friend has been watching too much of the brady bunch!

i do not like confrontation but often stew on things for days and wish i had of said something at the time,i just work myself up over it all,in my view your sister hasent a clue what shes on about,i would keep my distance,speak when i had to as its hard when its family isent it,im often surprised how hurtful family members can be as you would think they would understand more,whatever you do anyway make sure you do it when you have calmed down!

yeah i can relate to it,when we are indoors we take no notice because we are so used to the behaviour,i often notice people looking at steve when we are in social situations,i find it upsetting,no one is nasty but you can see he is not quite like other children.

my kind of thread,as you all know i love moaning!! moans for today;stevens voice is breaking and is extremely loud,he does not stop shouting and ive got a headache! potty training katie,had a terrible smell in my kitchen for 2 days,couldnt find out where it was comimg from,found it tonight behind my fridge(!)you can guess what it was im on a diet but today ive eaten 4 twixs,big meat pie and 3 pks of crisps,im very annoyed with myself! thats my moans for today,i will be back again tomorrow with some more no doubt,from whinging hev!

hello witsend,i also love dark nights,and i practically do a rain dance if it rains,definately no going out then!!i can understand how you feel about the boys mum,i wouldnt ring her up though,she knows she is in the wrong,she should have had decency to phone you when she found out, i also know how you feel about wanting him to have a friend,not long till sept now though,im counting the days!

steves been out of school for about 18months and is starting at a special school in sept,im VERY VERY excited,nervous about how he will get on,but its got to be better than our mainstream experience so im very hopeful and happy about it,ROLL ON SEPTEMBER!

it takes me all my time to log on,which clever person is going to set up the chatroom then?three cheers for Kris!!

hello bid,i hope you have found the help by now,you always give good advice and seem a very caring person,i really hope you get th help your dad needs,take care love hev

hello elaine i know exactly how you feel,all i ever seem to do is moan,im fed up of feeling low but cant shake myself out of it,i get so annoyed with myself cos there are people with much more worries than me but i cant help feeling stressed and fed up,we shall moan together,maybe form a club called the moaning society,thats moaning not mooning,then again maybe that might cheer us up!!!

i had my forms filled in with help from them as well,it was so easy with her help as that form is vile!im going to brighton on a coachtrip with them on thursday,for some reason before i thought they only helped elderly carers!i would recomend people to get in touch with them also

my mum has offered to stay at mine for a weekend and look after kids if me and nick want to go away for weekend as we never been away on our own,i would love to as i could do with a break but i feel so guilty about leaving steve behind,katie only 2 she wouldnt care,i would prob spend whole weekend wishing i had brought him,do any of you parents go away on your own?

have decided that when steve starts school in sept,they do holidays at his new school and he is allright with other people,its me who irratates him!we are gonna book a holiday then,that way we all get a holiday

im so pleased your holiday went well,its lovely to see them enjoying themselves isent it,my sis just come back from where you went and she loved it

sorry to hear what you both are going through,it must be awful,steve is 11 and confrontational,where we live now he doesnt want to go out which to be honest is a blessing,i dont think its right your son has all those people after him,i was gonna say get the police involved but it will happen again when your son goes out wont it,i would try to keep him in but thats a whole other battle isent it,good luck though

got back from holiday today and im exhausted,steve had major meltdowns all day every day,ive realised how hard he finds life,cannot cope with holidays at all,i really feel for him but my stress levels were horrendous,security came round and we were told we would have to leave as steve was punching the door but he calmed down so we stayed,i took a friend for him this year but it was worse,hes at mums tonight,we couldnt leave early as we couldnt get a lift,i looked at other families and i got a bit resentful cos i would love to see steve enjoying himself like their kids,i slept for 4 hours when i got in,its all wore me out

my steve is 12 today and i looked at him opening his cards etc,hes towering over me now but hes still my baby,it dont matter how old they get or how much grief thet cause us(!)they still our babies arent they,it feels like yesterday i had him,im all sentimental today,make the most of it,i will be ranting tomorrow!!

yeah i saw that story,if you look back on here the story is on here as well,i cant do links,nellie can!its all so sad isent it

steve is 12 and there just doesnt seem to be any respite or clubs he can go to,where i live they have facilities for severe autism but because steven has behaviour problems i dont think they know how to deal with his condition,i live in gravesend,kent does anyone know of any groups or playschemes he can go to?they say he cannot stay overnight at kidscamp as he is not severe enough,i dont really understand that though because he still would like to mix with people but he cannot cope with large groups

teves got 2 pair of identical trousers he will only wear,also only certain football tops,starting full time school in sept so getting him to wear a uniform will be hard as hes been out school for18 months and he has such an issue with clothes

thats brilliant,when you get the dreaded brown dla letter its nervewracking aint it!

i would love to live in a house with no shouting or arguing but at the moment me and steve are rowing constantly,i know i should stay calm but he keeps calling me effing w**** and i cannot stand it,ive said before i know he as aspergers,i know he cannot help it so why cant i cope with his behaviour,ive had enough years of being insulted,i wish i could just go upstairs but it turns into a full scale row and after im so annoyed at myself cos i know it all could have been avoided if i just walk away from the situation,maybe i make it all worse,i dont really know. im probably just having a fed up day today,im really going to try in the morning to concentrate on good behaviour,i know what to do its just being calm enough to put it all in practise!