sarahjane

i haven't been on here for ages! Now have new baby- 5 months joining ds 9 with aspergers and ds 6 NT. V early days for ds3 but is just like ds1 was as a baby, my mum thinks i should start preparing myself now for endless trips to school et etc just gone back to school so usual tears and tribulations, ds1 also has dyslexia, today he annonced he wanted to go to a school with other children like him looking forward to joining in discussions again.

H who is also 8 does a very similar thing- if he thinks he is getting in trouble he will pull down his trousers and show you his "butt" or thrust his bits out- so far I have tried telling him calmly no and then ignoring and so far he has never done it out of the house. he loves been naked and at present has a bit of an obsesseion with his bits- and other peoples! Not sure what the answer is I am hoping if ignore it it will pass!

H was 8 recently and initially said he wanted a party- however I cancelled it at the last minute as it became increasinlg clear he would not cope at all- he had a long list of "rules" as to where and which freinds would be allowed to do what, on closer questioning he only wanted a party to get the presents and would have been happiest if they just left them at the front door! in the end we compromised and took several of his classmates swimming with him- he loves swimming and did his own thing whilst they all played togather- and he got presents! NO singing was allowed, he also hates the thought of getting older.

We had ours last week- complete disaster! H (as and dyspraxia, dyslexia)had said he didn't want to do it getting v stressed etc so I said I will dw your teacher and you won't have to. But no he wouldn't let me do that - might be breaking the "rules" so along we went. It was going well- as it could with him getting more and more over excited until the relay race- may heart sunk- what a stupid idea to involve a child like H! the whole school (it is a small school was involved) and needless to say H was on the winning team until it came to him when he dropped the baton! After that he was completly inconsoable and hasn't been the same since. What with that and a sponsered walk ( refused to participated) and school trip today not to mention the stress of going into the BIG class next year I am at the end if my tether ! This time of year is send to try us to the extreme!

I stopped with H when I went back to work and it was a nightmare- he refused bottles and then fed all night from me. Eventually he got onto formula however he was 4 before I could get him off formula and onto cows milk- even now only takes choclate milk with powder in!

I think you do need to have a frank discusion. I found when H was under investigation- so to speak- I would be told everything was going well etc the paed watched him in school and rang me to say it had gone well. i thought this meant they hadn't noticed anything odd- and was a little concerned about this, but when the final meeting came they opening sentance was " well I think we are all agreed H has aspergers syndrome so lets get on" I nearly fell off the chair. it was what I thought but they had not given any indication during the assessment! i think they often use these terms and you can be meaning 2 different things. it may not be the case for you but a meeting with all involved may help you to find out what they are really thinking!

I agree H has as but also has learning difficulties in that he is dyslexic, although there is a link between the two they affect him in different ways. H is quite severly dyslexic whereas most children with as aren't and some are v advanced in reading and writing. I thing it is important to try and distinguish between different diagnosis even if linked because they will require different interventions to help.

Excellent! My ds is the same will only eat pasta with grated chese and tomato sauce, but recently he will try a little bolgenase- in a seperate dish of course! He now declares it his favorite meal! When on holiday he even treid some different sauces ON THE SAME PLATE! A huge leap forward for us and yourselves- congratulations!

Hi H who is 7 does exactly the same thing, he walks down the road and points at everything and says what it is so you have this commentary, lampost! dog! baby! etc etc etc etc, However he only does it if we are somewhere new or different. The first time he did was when we were visiting my parents in there town, then when a new shop was built in ours he started again when in that shop. I think in someway it helps him cope with a new place and I think he may get sensory overload when we go somewhere new as there are so many things to see and this is a coping stratergy- but I'm only guessing! However have not found a way to stop him- just ignore the funny looks!

We also have lots of family words Nug- milk My favorite at the moment is garlics- darleks from Dr Who, H is convinced they are garlics so now we are all calling them that!

HOMEWORK school haircut bedtime and anything his brother says!

Hi - yes I think this is v common - at least I hope so! When one litle boy asked my little boy (as) if he wanted to come at play he said " no your house stinks!" I later found out he did not like the air freshner they use, fortuately his Mum had a sense of humour and since then H has gone several times to play at this boys house and enjoyed it! Somedays he just says no he won't go other times he will. I have never discussed his diagnosis with his mum but she knows he has problems at school and needs help- and is always v calm and sensible and takes things as they come. You may find on another occasion she will go.

Both my as son and my t one love the argos catalogue- we have to have at least 2 copies as BIG trouble if something happens to as son's one! It once got ripped

Hi Yesterday I had to play shadow the hedgehog with my son, dad out and younger brother no good! Despite telling me how useless I was and enjoying beating me his first words this am were "can we have another race" I can tell i am going to get no peace at all now he knows I can work his playstation too! He won't let his freinds play with him- they do it wrong and might wipe off his games! Big meltdown if any other child touches the hallowed play station!

Hi, all families are different, but when as was mentioned to me I discussed it with my parents, initially they were " he is just a normal boy!" school, then i gave them the tony attwood book and my mum is now more convinced than me! Also she see's her father probably had as to and although he died a few yrs ago his behaviour has now become more understandable. I still struggle with my parents in law who we only see about once a year but then they do not know H very well. I also dwelt on the positives very much when initially telling them! Now we can discuss the negatives as well, I'm glad I told them and find my mum in particular a great support as she see's what I see even though we live 300 miles apart. She is also the only other non-professional who I can discuss it with and profesionals can seem quite distant- after all it is not their child.