something_different Report post Posted January 6, 2006 welcome to the forum Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MarknotGeorge Report post Posted January 6, 2006 Hello, I'm Mark, 33 from Derby. I'm married to Karen and we have 5 children (3 from K's previous marriage) ranging from nearly 16 to nearly 1. I work at Toyota as a car assembly worker, and K works 28 hours a day looking after me and the kids, as well as making clocks and promotional goodies. I strongly suspect I have AS, although it's undiagnosed and masked by my age. I've tried to get a diagnosis from my GP, so far without success as I keep getting referred to the community mental health team, who seem to think that as I have a wife, family and a job, labeling me would be of no use. This is frustrating as it leaves me in limbo, not knowing why I am how I am. I just want to be able to speak to someone experienced in ASDs, who can say yes or no and so put my mind at rest to some extent. I'm not a social person, although I do have a few close friends I like to go out with. I tend to have a lot of problems reading people, and relating to them. This can and does cause problems at home, in as much as I find it very difficult to take in and understand K's problems (having 5 kids, and working hard). Discussions tend to end up revolving around me and my problems, meaning that K seems to think she has no-one to turn to. How I wish I could be that person Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
annie Report post Posted January 6, 2006 Caroline, Janet and Mark, Welcome to the forum <'> . Caroline - I can understand your frustration with trying to get a diagnosis. Please keep us updated, any questions, just ask. Janet - My son (Alex) is now 16, he was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6 and diagnosed with Aspergers when he was 10/11. Alex was suspended many times from mainstream because of his behaviour, the school had no understanding of his difficulties, they treated him as a 'problem child'. Ultimately, we took him out of school just over a year ago, he is now doing EOTAS and we have never looked back. He had never been able to cope with mainstream school full stop. Nellie has given you some great advice/links, let us know how you get on. Mark - There are many people on the forum that have gone through the same feelings that you are going through. I believe that if you give the National Autistic Society a call they may be able to help you find a specialist that could help you get some answers. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 6, 2006 Mark, Janet and Caroline, welcome to the forum. I know we will be able to answer many of your questions and, hopefuly, help you with all your going through. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Steve_colour-se7en Report post Posted January 6, 2006 Hello Caroline, Janet and Mark, Welcome to the forums look forward to reading your posts, when you have settled in. Steve.. I think the boy means well but he is distinctly inclined to be inattentive...... Tutor of Winston Churchill to Lord Randolph Churchill, Winston's father Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kirstie Report post Posted January 7, 2006 <'> Hello Caroline Janet and Mark, We have all had brilliant support and advice here and i know you all will too. It is a bit of a madhouse but everyone is very friendly and help wherever they can. Happy posting! Take care, Kirstie. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
melly Report post Posted January 9, 2006 Hi, Thought I ought to introduce myself, I've been reaing a lot on this site reciently, its a great source of info and helps me to know that we a re not the only family that isn't quite 'normal'! My son was given an offical diagnosis of ASD last nov, although we had been expecting it for the year prior to that. He is 3yrs and attends a specialist nursery in surrey. We are sooooooooo lucky to have got that placement for him, he seems to enjoy it and they seem to know what they are talking about! I have a daughter who is 4 3/4yrs, who loves her brother to bits and is just realising he is a bit different. She gets a pretty rough deal sometimes - expected to be the sensible one when we are out etc. My hubby is very supportive, but its good for me to read this to know that there are others in the same boat. Its also great to pick up some tips for managing things at home. I have so many q's I could write postings for the next week without stopping! I keep getting reminded that our little chap is going to b around for a long time and things aren't going to change so I have plenty of time for all of my q's! Mel Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
something_different Report post Posted January 9, 2006 (edited) Welcome to the forum Edited January 9, 2006 by something_different Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kieran Report post Posted January 9, 2006 Hello, im pretty new 2 this site so not quite sure wot 2 say, lol. Well i'll 1st introuce myself , im Kieran , 29 years old and living in the north east of scotland in a town called Ellon, North of Aberdeen. I was diagnosed with a high functioning autistic spectrum disorder, Asperger's Syndrome or AS wen i was aged 23. Ive generally been finding socialising very difficult and also been finding it hard to make any new close frends or get in2 any relationships. Also i often find it difficult to understand peoples emotions or express my own. Ive gone through alot of life not knowing why i seemed 'different' it was about at the age of 7 i was 1st aware of seeing myself different from others. It was a relief in a way having the diagnosis as it seems to at last have offered some explanation yet also at the same time i felt now i had a lable on me and i felt more self aware and worried how others would perceive me. more recently i have become rather shy and rather socially withdrawn and i generally find it hard to approach people or initiate a converastion. I also feel generally anxious and occasionaly depressed and i can often lack self confidence. Despite having aspergers syndrome, i have done rather well acedmically acheiving a Degree in Electronics engineering and coming out of school with 4 highers including A in Maths. But other areas like english and solving problems was not quite as good with. presently i am living with my parents, but recently had the end of the house converted so i had my own part of the house , a bedroom, own door and living room (a bit like a granny flat) , its to try and help make me more independant without throwing me in at the deepend, that way independance could be gradually introduced and i could learn to do more for myself like the everyday household tasks like cleaning, tidying, cooking, washing etc. I have 2 older sisters 33,34 both live away from home and 1 of them is married with a 3 year old child. I am currently working as electronic technician doing fairly repetitive fings and production type work. My main interests are amateur radio listening, radio scanners, sky TV , playing pool, listening to music, occasionaly going out 2 pubs and sometimes clubs. I recently managed a trek tour of south west USA and before i went on it i seen it as a big personal challenge knowing that id be with 11 other strangers at 1st as its 1 of these kind of holidays where u meet people in a gateway hotel and you are touring around with them for the next 2 weeks. fortunatly alot of the people were nice , easy to get on with and the fact i told them about having AS , it made the whole experience more comfortable for me and that enabled me to get alot out the holiday. I seen places like san francisco, LA , grand canyon, las vegas, san diego overall been a mixture of camping and hotel stops. anyway loved the whole thing and i felt that was a big achievement , the fact i managed to travel alone initially all the way and been so far away from home. anyway , was trying 2 avoid making this in2 an essay , lol but hopefully this may give any1 reading a rough idea on how things have been with me , and theres probably heaps more i could add , well that would be a life story almost, lol . anyway id welcome any respnses or questions anybody may have. kieran Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
something_different Report post Posted January 9, 2006 Welcome Kieran Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Viper Report post Posted January 10, 2006 Hi Kieran. Welcome to the forum, hope you find us a friendly bunch. Viper. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ceecee Report post Posted January 10, 2006 Hi Kieran Welcome to the forum.I was impressed at all you have achieved after reading your post. There is lots of adults on this forum with A.S. and loads of parents who also know there stuff.Anything you need to know just ask Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smiley Report post Posted January 10, 2006 Welcome Kieran Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 10, 2006 Welcome to the forum Kieran. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
neda Report post Posted January 10, 2006 hey Kieran, welcome on board. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted January 10, 2006 Hi and welcome Kieran, Melly, Caroline, Janet and Mark [and anyone else that I missed ] Nice to see you here Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Steve_colour-se7en Report post Posted January 10, 2006 Welcome Kieran, look forward to your postings. Steve.. I think the boy means well but he is distinctly inclined to be inattentive...... Tutor of Winston Churchill to Lord Randolph Churchill, Winston's father Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kirstie Report post Posted January 11, 2006 Hiyah Kieran hope you post often, everyone here is very friendly! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
HiLo Report post Posted January 12, 2006 Hi Folks, Thought i better introduce myself my name is Joyce I am married with three kids ,two girls aged 11 and 9 and a son Iain 4 .he is the one that is causing me lots of problems.He is already been diagnosed as gluten and wheat intolerant and now a possible ASD.Hopefully going to start the diagnosis procedure next month so i am sure i will have loads of questions then. I live in Barrhead which is just outside Glasgow and have been visiting this site for ages as a guest so I know i will be made welcome . Joyce Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
annie Report post Posted January 12, 2006 Hi Melly, Keiran and Joyce, Welcome to the forum <'> . Annie Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nellie Report post Posted January 12, 2006 A warm welcome to all new members Hi Joyce, Welcome aboard, glad you finally took the plunge to join us. I was born in Paisley, we moved down hear 20 years ago. I still have family in Kilbarchan. I look forward to 'chatting' with you. Nellie xx Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted January 12, 2006 Hi Joyce - glad you plucked up courage to join and post. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SallyM Report post Posted January 13, 2006 Just joined this morning and nodding in agreement at some of the topics so far! I'm Sally, in Kent. Have a partner who is un-dxed Aspie. 3 boys, aged 7, nearly 5 and 3. Oldest has a dx of Aspergers and Youngest has a dx of ASD. Middle one isn't dxed and wouldn't qualify for one but he has some strong traits (auditory processing issues, literal language) which make life interesting Hopefully I will manage to get here sometimes and join in Sally. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted January 13, 2006 Hi Sally - welcome I used to live in Kent - Ashford and then Northfleet - long time ago - feels like another life! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyProudfoot Report post Posted January 13, 2006 Hi Sally and everyone else I haven't said Hi to yet There's plenty of help and advice for everyone here and for those of you who are concerned about looking for a dx for yourself there are lots of others on here who will understand what you are going through. Glad you could all join us Daisy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ceecee Report post Posted January 13, 2006 Hi to all our new members and welcome Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IAmNotPrinceHamlet Report post Posted January 16, 2006 (edited) Hello. I'm Alex, a 33 year old Aspie mother of a 10 year old Aspie son, living with an Aspie partner. Life is always "interesting" in our household. Edited January 16, 2006 by IAmNotPrinceHamlet Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted January 17, 2006 Hello. I'm Alex, a 33 year old Aspie mother of a 10 year old Aspie son, living with an Aspie partner. Life is always "interesting" in our household. Hi and Welcome I love your 'name' and thanks for providing where it came from ... I was wondering .... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
annie Report post Posted January 17, 2006 Hi Alex, Welcome to the forum Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IAmNotPrinceHamlet Report post Posted January 17, 2006 (edited) Hi and Welcome I love your 'name' and thanks for providing where it came from ... I was wondering .... Thanks. I've always been an Eliot fan. Did you read through Prufrock? It's a great poem. Annie and MotherEve, thanks for the warm welcome. Edited January 17, 2006 by IAmNotPrinceHamlet Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 17, 2006 Hi Alex, welcome to the forum. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bullet Report post Posted January 17, 2006 Hello to everyone . I've already posted on this site, but not done a proper introduction. I have two sons, one is two and a half and the other is four months. My eldest has got an ASD, although as he is so young they are not sure what it is. Aspergers has been mentioned, but as he's non verbal apart from echolalia I don't think this can be the case. He does fit into Semantic Pragmatic disorder, but of course this doesn't mean he has it, he may vary between several things. He is very clever (yes, I'm biased ) and studies toys to see how they work. Eg yesterday when he was being assessed he was examining the screws on this glockenspiel and refused to play it, because he'd rather examine the screws. He has very high levels of concentration for his age and will do the same action with a toy for a long time. He has an excellent memory and will repeat things back with the same pattern of speech that he's heard it said to him. He initiates affection on his terms and is very cuddly when he wants to be, but goes stiff and moves away if someone hugs him first. He refuses to be comforted if he's hurt or upset as well. He does not respond to praise (but still gets loads of it) or to someone commenting on what he's doing. He does not look where you're pointing or feel the need to point something out or check you for your reaction to something. He has no spontaneous language. He does not understand things like turntaking in conversations or directing a comment to someone, he repeats things back to himself. He is very routine driven with a lot of things and if the routine is changed goes completely hysterical. He has very poor eye contact. As for myself, I strongly believe I have Aspergers to a mild degree, but am not diagnosed. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyProudfoot Report post Posted January 19, 2006 Hi Alex and Bullet, Welcome to our world Daisy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted January 19, 2006 Hi Bullet - seen you around [and probably replied to a few of your postings by now ...] anyway - WELCOME! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Will Report post Posted January 20, 2006 (edited) Greetings... I've appeared here out of curiosity... I want to find out whether I've got this syndrome, or if I'm just the socially incompatible weirdo I occasionally come across as I think I was unofficially disagnosed as Aspergic at about 9, when I was being a pain in the neck at home, but sadly I can't remember that far back, and I got no official diagnosis... My parents tried a few so-called experts again when I had fairly severe depression at 14/15, but they were either dangerous, incompetent, evil or struggled due to my lack of co-operation, and reluctancy to explain problems... When one psychologist caused not one but two members of the family to turn out suicidal, we gave up on them - but the point is, the woman in question told us I couldn't have Asperger's because I was too good at communicating with words (which we all thought was supposed to be a characteristic...). I've taken a number of Asperger's tests on the internet, not so sure about their accuracy, but I've been a long way up the autism spectrum on many of them (95% on the most recent.... got my sister to try it and she got 1%...), and if I look at things I do and say, I can find any number of the characteristics in myself, so I'm calling myself self-diagnosed, and see what people here think, and maybe get it done properly at some point (my parents don't see the point in going through the emotional hell again just to get a meaningless label... I do ) I think that's all I needed to say, and quite a lot more besides. As usual I'm slow to start talking, and then you can't shut me up - especially about myself Edited January 20, 2006 by Will Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyProudfoot Report post Posted January 20, 2006 Welcome Will, Good to see you here - take your time and have a good browse I'm sure there may be plenty of stuff that rings bells. If you are concerned and looking for a confirmed dx why not go back to the GP again - things have moved on a bit in the ASD diagnosis front in the last few years. Daisy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted January 20, 2006 Welcome to the forum Will. It does seem that there are plenty of self dx'd adults out there. Not suprising really as AS was only recognised from about 1994 onwards. Even now there are plenty who have never heard of it. Personally I can understand why you would want to know if your right or not having been in a similar (though NOT ASD connected) situation. Whatever way YOU decide to go, for a dx or not, is your choice. What I will assure you of is the wonderful support this forum can offer you - regardless. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
barefoot wend Report post Posted January 20, 2006 Welcome Will! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ceecee Report post Posted January 20, 2006 Welcome will I believe i have a.s. although i think fairly mild.i too have self diagnosed. You will find lots of others in your situatuion here and loads of help and support Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
UltraMum Report post Posted January 20, 2006 Hi Will and welcome - look forward to reading your posts. Do you like rollercoasters? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
