Anyone dreading going back to school??!! :(

[oxgirl]

I was absolutely dreading the holidays and now, with only two weeks to go, I'm dreading him going back to school

 

It's the TA's at his Unit that are concerning me, I just feel that they don't understand him, aren't fair to him and don't even like him. I hate the thought of sending him back there! Plus, it's the two hours of driving per day and, seeing as he's part-time, there isn't enough time for me to do anything other than hang around until it's time to go get him again. Wishing it would just GO AWAY!!

 

~ Mel ~

[lil_me]

Well I was dreading it and considering taking him out of school, but now he got his statement (well the proposed one arrived this morning) I've decided to give it a go first. But as always I dread them returning to school, thankfully we're away next week so hopefully I will forget about it (well at least some of the time) Holidays haven't been that bad for us so far, it's been other peoples children that have been the biggest problem. He's piled the weight on being off medication for 4 weeks and none of his clothes fit don't think he has a 'full' feeling.

[Flora]

Well, not so much dreading it as anticipating it with trepidation

 

I've got DS1 starting secondary... and more dreading his reacting than anything else. Though with the help they have promised it will be interesting to see what happens.

 

DS2 is one of those rare breeds that actually goes to school happily, though still with the help that was promised from my meeting with the LEA at the beginning of August, again it will be interesting to see what actually happens.

 

Flo'

[PinkSapphireAngel]

September is looking so stressful already lol...

 

Luke is at secondary school transfer age but as we are STILL fighting for a statement he will not be going and I will be home educating him myself.

 

Daniel is going into Year 5 and is on the waiting list for another school as I have had it with the primary school (and the LEA too truth be told)

he is working at a Year 2 level especially in literacy but the school say there is no point requesting statutory assessment as LEA won't give it !!!

 

Charlie is 4 and goes to school nursery in afternoons and is due to start in Reception in the other school (where Daniel is on waiting list for) in January so will be home a lot of the time I am educating Luke.

 

Then early October we are back at SENDIST!!

[Bagpuss]

I'm afraid I'll have to fess up and say.....I can't flipping wait

 

Off to hang my head in shame and renew my membership with the bad mothers club

[lil_me]

You horrible person you Bagpuss, well actually I am looking forward to it a bit aswell now, son usually thrives on the routine of it and sick of not being able to get anything done, like hoovering, bleaching, using cleaning products, air freshners etc etc etc I can't do when DS is in the house as he goes crazy. Youngest also misses his friends, having someone to play with as his brother isn't interested 99% of the time and when he is it's on his terms only. Edited August 24, 2006 by lil_me

[oxgirl]

Good luck to both of you with the school thing

 

He's piled the weight on being off medication for 4 weeks and none of his clothes fit don't think he has a 'full' feeling.

 

Hahaha, oops! It's the other way round for us, my lad doesn't have much of a 'hungry' or 'thirsty' feeling. He's 12 and he only weighs 4 stone!! Like a rake he is

 

~ Mel ~

[oxgirl]

Well, not so much dreading it as anticipating it with trepidation

 

I've got DS1 starting secondary... and more dreading his reacting than anything else. Though with the help they have promised it will be interesting to see what happens.

 

DS2 is one of those rare breeds that actually goes to school happily, though still with the help that was promised from my meeting with the LEA at the beginning of August, again it will be interesting to see what actually happens.

 

Flo'

 

 

Good luck to all of you! Hope the secondary experience starts off well for you all.

 

~ Mel ~

[oxgirl]

Luke is at secondary school transfer age but as we are STILL fighting for a statement he will not be going and I will be home educating him myself.

 

Ah yes, I know where you're coming from with that. I took my lad out of primary school and home educated for two years, it was just a nightmare (the school, not the home edding! )

Good luck with that, hope September starts off well for you all.

 

~ Mel ~

[oxgirl]

I'm afraid I'll have to fess up and say.....I can't flipping wait

 

Off to hang my head in shame and renew my membership with the bad mothers club

 

 

Hehehehe, good for you! I'd probably feel the same if I felt happy that I could trust the people who were looking after my lad. Perhaps it's just me, but I don't feel like I can trust anyone!

 

~ Mel ~

[Ohforaquietlife]

I'm with you Bagpuss.

 

L's little sister (aged 2) has been driving him to distraction. Toddlers are not very good at recognising when someone wishes to be left alone - even when the fact is being screamed in their faces. She just seems to find it amusing and the green light to carry on tormenting him. He much prefers spending his days in a class full of autistic children than with her. I'm clinging to the hope that this is just a stage she is passing through and she will grow to realise when retreat is called for.

 

I for one will be very cheerfully escorting all of my 3 back to their respective educational establishments and looking forward to some longed for lying down in a darkened room with my boy's ear defenders on. A period of total sensory shutdown would be fantastic But first I've got a weeks family holiday in a caravan in France to endure......sorry, look forward to

 

Ohf!

[lil_me]

Ohf - Know what you mean about the holiday, we are staying in this country so easier to get home if we need to but wish I haddn't booked the last week now. Also the 2 year old, depends, some do some don't, my youngest is 5 and spends any time he can trying to wind his brother up, started very young and hasn't stopped since, but sad really as I know he just wants him to play and if switching the TV off or snatching his things gets a reaction it's better than nothing

 

Mel - My sons got neither, if he's busy doing something he forgets to eat and drink, if he isn't or there is food there he makes a pig of himself. Put on over a stone in 4 weeks I'm not used to having little children tho, my 5 year old is 4ft 5 ish and about 6 stone now I think.

Edited August 24, 2006 by lil_me

[JsMum]

Hi oxygirl I feel dispair in your post, I am reading it that the real reason you dont want september to come is because the treatment your son recieves, your instinct is talking to you here, telling you that may be this unit your child goes to isnt the right one for your son, maybe it is there just not trained enough, havent maybe got enough experience with children with Autism maybe they are really are not treating him fairly and the holidays have given you the time to see things clearer, maybe look at a new fresh start in a unit that do understand your son, show concern for him and LIKE your son, all I know if your picking up this and your not the one recieving the treatment how your child may be feeling inside.

I watched the secret in the classroom last week and I now see now that J wasnt given understanding, patience and enough communication, he wasnt liked either and that is horrible treatment for an adult to do to a child with a disability that the child hasnt got any control over.

J is in his third school because I was not happy that teachers shouted at him, punished him and disliked him, he is now in a school that have a whole different aproach, this september I am feeling more positive because of that and he also has a statement and a very good senco and special needs department.

I feel that I want to say to you what are the chances of you looking at a different education setting for your son so you too can feel a greater urgency and excitement for your son to return in septemeber.

 

JsMum

[jen]

I am dreading my son going back to school. It is so difficult for him to get through the school day. The school is fantastic and very supportive he also has an excellent LSA.

 

Saying that I still get called out of work several times a term to go and settle him down when he gets distressed.

 

He is a child who struggles enormously to try to fit in a mainstream school due to his sensory problems mainly. But he also does not fit in a special school.

 

 

Jen

[jlp]

A bit scared here too!

 

At the beginning of the holidays I decided to think about what it would be like to HE and to treat the 6 weeks as such but I think it has taught me that I couldn't cope day in day out with ds#1.

 

He had a very rocky end to last term and come September will be in a bigger class of 29 children (Y1 had 17 children) this year and also expected to do more work. We have a newly qualified teacher too - thinking this can go one of 2 ways, either she'll be new and full of enthusiam and training or she'll be downright scared!

 

At the taster morning apparently ds became very upset, hit the teacher and spent his time repetitively (sp?) slamming the classroom door.

 

So while I desperately need a break (he's not left my side for the holiday!) I think things may go even more pear shaped than they are already.

 

School are applying for a statement come September too!

[adamsmum]

Sorry but i cant wait for school to start next week as my 4 are driving me insane with the non stope fighting screeming and winging . We have 5th boy due in 4 weeks and i can do with the peace. Lucky for me my boys wont to go to school as thay like the routine even if thay dont like the other kids. I just hope the change in classrooms dont upset them to much

[caren]

Me and kurtis already dreading it , even with the book thats got his new class room toilet teachers etc i'm still a HORRIBLE MUMMY so he keeps telling me he does'nt want to go to school and know its going to take weeks maybe months to get him settled back down

 

good luck to you all

[oxgirl]

Mel - My sons got neither, if he's busy doing something he forgets to eat and drink, if he isn't or there is food there he makes a pig of himself. Put on over a stone in 4 weeks I'm not used to having little children tho, my 5 year old is 4ft 5 ish and about 6 stone now I think.

 

 

I can't imagine having a 'big boy', although one day he will be bigger than me I guess, can't see it though! He never eats or drinks unless I present him with the food and say 'eat'!! Hahahahaha!

 

~ Mel ~

[oxgirl]

Hi oxygirl I feel dispair in your post, I am reading it that the real reason you dont want september to come is because the treatment your son recieves, your instinct is talking to you here, telling you that may be this unit your child goes to isnt the right one for your son, maybe it is there just not trained enough, havent maybe got enough experience with children with Autism maybe they are really are not treating him fairly and the holidays have given you the time to see things clearer, maybe look at a new fresh start in a unit that do understand your son, show concern for him and LIKE your son, all I know if your picking up this and your not the one recieving the treatment how your child may be feeling inside.

I watched the secret in the classroom last week and I now see now that J wasnt given understanding, patience and enough communication, he wasnt liked either and that is horrible treatment for an adult to do to a child with a disability that the child hasnt got any control over.

J is in his third school because I was not happy that teachers shouted at him, punished him and disliked him, he is now in a school that have a whole different aproach, this september I am feeling more positive because of that and he also has a statement and a very good senco and special needs department.

I feel that I want to say to you what are the chances of you looking at a different education setting for your son so you too can feel a greater urgency and excitement for your son to return in septemeber.

 

JsMum

 

Hiya, thanks for your reply.

I think the reason that I feel so bad is maybe due to the fact that there really isn't a choice at all and I just feel trapped with this. It's either this or the local comprehensive and I home educated for two years because he wasn't coping with primary school, there's no way he'd cope with mainstream.

I guess I really thought that at this ASD specific unit attached to a mainstream secondary school he'd finally get the understanding and insight that he needs, but not so. It's the TA's that I have trouble with. He's stuck with them and he's at their mercy and some of them are just awful, imo. It really is this or nothing though for us, unless I take him out and home educate again, but I feel that there's a lot of Science experiences the school can give him that I can't and I don't want him to miss out on that, so that's why I feel in despair really

I'm glad you found somewhere you and your son are happy with. I'm just crossing my fingers that things will be better for us next year!!

 

~ Mel ~

[oxgirl]

He is a child who struggles enormously to try to fit in a mainstream school due to his sensory problems mainly. But he also does not fit in a special school.

Jen

 

 

Yes, yes, my son is just the same. Too 'able' for his special unit really, but too 'disabled' for mainstream!! He couldn't manage in mainstream primary. At the Unit where he is, he can go to a few mainstream lessons and spend the rest of the time at the unit. Ideal, so we thought! Unfortunately, the reality is not so rosy.

 

Good luck for the new term!

~ Mel ~

[oxgirl]

At the beginning of the holidays I decided to think about what it would be like to HE and to treat the 6 weeks as such but I think it has taught me that I couldn't cope day in day out with ds#1.

 

 

What I'd say is, try not to be put off the idea of HE if that's what you feel is right. I HE'd for two years and there was quite a long period at the beginning when I was thinking it wasn't going to work and I was tearing my hair out. Once you get over that though, it can work really well and once you're both more relaxed you could come to really enjoy it, I know I did and I was terrified by the idea of HE and only did it out of desperation. If you do decide to try it, give yourself at least three months for you both to settle down and if you really don't think it's working you can always go back!

 

Good luck.

 

~ Mel ~

[oxgirl]

Sorry but i cant wait for school to start next week as my 4 are driving me insane with the non stope fighting screeming and winging . We have 5th boy due in 4 weeks and i can do with the peace. Lucky for me my boys wont to go to school as thay like the routine even if thay dont like the other kids. I just hope the change in classrooms dont upset them to much

 

 

Hahaha, you sound like you've got your hands full! Don't worry, only another week to go!!

 

~ Mel ~

[oxgirl]

Me and kurtis already dreading it , even with the book thats got his new class room toilet teachers etc i'm still a HORRIBLE MUMMY so he keeps telling me he does'nt want to go to school and know its going to take weeks maybe months to get him settled back down

 

good luck to you all

 

 

Aw, good luck to you both as well. <'>

 

~ Mel ~

[Tilly]

My dd2 attends a SEN school and she is adamant that she is not going back as she is the only girl. Although the classes aren't very big she still feels left out being the only girl. We had this problem 2 years ago and we had a hideous time getting her to school, so the following year she was in a mixed year class with an older girl. The thing is dd is the only girl in her year group so it will probably happen again next year.

 

When she has to get ready for swimming/P.E. etc. she has to go by herself, and as she's getting older I think she is feeling the differences between her and boys and she says their games are too rough and that theres no girl toys in the classroom. I'm planning on taking her to school before it opens and speaking to the staff as they are very approachable.

 

Does anyone have any suggestions of what I could say to fight my cause.

 

Tilly

 

P.S Dd1 is starting secondary school and I'm dreading that too.

 

(Who was it who said that school years are the best years of your life!! - None of mine )

[mbrown]

Our school's are back already here in Scotland. Added to that is that it is my boy's first year at high school - very scarey. I wouldn't say we were actually dreading it - mildly panicking maybe, lol.

 

The first week is now over and I must say I should give it 9.5 out of 10. A minor hiccup but apart from that everything went well. The traveling, dinner times, class changes etc.

 

The school has a top class support unit within it and th edifference between them and primary school is like night and day.

 

This is of course on the back of some very prolonged and intensive preparation on everyone's part - The high school, primary school & ourselves. The hard work is certainly paying off so far.

 

Good luck to all the children starting school, starting a new year or moving up to high school, and to all parents too of course.

 

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[oxgirl]

My dd2 attends a SEN school and she is adamant that she is not going back as she is the only girl. Although the classes aren't very big she still feels left out being the only girl. We had this problem 2 years ago and we had a hideous time getting her to school, so the following year she was in a mixed year class with an older girl. The thing is dd is the only girl in her year group so it will probably happen again next year.

 

When she has to get ready for swimming/P.E. etc. she has to go by herself, and as she's getting older I think she is feeling the differences between her and boys and she says their games are too rough and that theres no girl toys in the classroom. I'm planning on taking her to school before it opens and speaking to the staff as they are very approachable.

 

Does anyone have any suggestions of what I could say to fight my cause.

 

Tilly

 

P.S Dd1 is starting secondary school and I'm dreading that too.

 

(Who was it who said that school years are the best years of your life!! - None of mine )

 

 

Aw, that sounds a shame your dd being the only girl! Surely the school can provide her with some more appropriate toys at least. What about at playtime, are there any other girls she can meet up with then?

Good luck with the secondary school, hope it goes well.

 

~ Mel ~

[oxgirl]

Our school's are back already here in Scotland. Added to that is that it is my boy's first year at high school - very scarey. I wouldn't say we were actually dreading it - mildly panicking maybe, lol.

 

The first week is now over and I must say I should give it 9.5 out of 10. A minor hiccup but apart from that everything went well. The traveling, dinner times, class changes etc.

 

The school has a top class support unit within it and th edifference between them and primary school is like night and day.

 

This is of course on the back of some very prolonged and intensive preparation on everyone's part - The high school, primary school & ourselves. The hard work is certainly paying off so far.

 

Good luck to all the children starting school, starting a new year or moving up to high school, and to all parents too of course.

 

Mike

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Very best of luck to you all. Sounds like you've gotten off to a promising start!

 

~ Mel ~

[LizK]

Another member of the Bad Mothers Club here too as am looking forward to Thursday I've found the summer really hard which surprised me as he's only been at school one term so thought we'd slot back into our preschool routine. It's amazing how quickly I got used to him being at school! Mind I never liked summer holidays before as term time activities and groups don't run and the aprk or soft play are packed.

 

Summer hols were hard becasue he woulnd't leave his baby brother alone, repeatedly keeps poking him or pulling his ears. DS2 ended up with a broken foot when he pushed him down the slide which was a further complication and limited what we could do and his ears now have marks on them from repeated twiddling by DS1 The rubbishy wet weather in August didn't help

 

DS1 is looking forward to going back to school too so I don't feel too guilty I told him this weekend that school was starting on Thurdays and he cheered I am feeling apprehensive though as he's having a new LSA, most of his classmates ahve moved onto the next reception class so there will be lots of new children and no doubt it will take time for him to settle in. Worried that his sleep will go to pot again and that the behaviours (hitting pulling hair throwing things) that school had got a grip off will return. In fact his reception teacher told me she expected things to be difficult initially and not to fret if it happened but I know what I'm like!

 

Lx

[oxgirl]

Another member of the Bad Mothers Club here too as am looking forward to Thursday I've found the summer really hard which surprised me as he's only been at school one term so thought we'd slot back into our preschool routine. It's amazing how quickly I got used to him being at school! Mind I never liked summer holidays before as term time activities and groups don't run and the aprk or soft play are packed.

 

Summer hols were hard becasue he woulnd't leave his baby brother alone, repeatedly keeps poking him or pulling his ears. DS2 ended up with a broken foot when he pushed him down the slide which was a further complication and limited what we could do and his ears now have marks on them from repeated twiddling by DS1 The rubbishy wet weather in August didn't help

 

DS1 is looking forward to going back to school too so I don't feel too guilty I told him this weekend that school was starting on Thurdays and he cheered I am feeling apprehensive though as he's having a new LSA, most of his classmates ahve moved onto the next reception class so there will be lots of new children and no doubt it will take time for him to settle in. Worried that his sleep will go to pot again and that the behaviours (hitting pulling hair throwing things) that school had got a grip off will return. In fact his reception teacher told me she expected things to be difficult initially and not to fret if it happened but I know what I'm like!

 

Lx

 

 

Sounds like you've had a tough summer! I'm not surprised you're looking forward to term time, you could do with the break!! Enjoy!

 

~ Mel ~

[smiley]

Dreading it......i want him to stay at home with me (plus that'll mean i won't have to go to work as well! Shame! ).

 

Seriously.... He's moving to Juniors.. .... Infants had only just begun to 'get' him ....... Lots of meetings between the two schools during the run up to the end of term.... lots of 'promises' made by Juniors...... But, i'm beginning to wonder if they've taken anything the Infants told them on board.

 

Dreading it I hope i'm wrong....

[oxgirl]

Dreading it......i want him to stay at home with me (plus that'll mean i won't have to go to work as well! Shame! ).

 

Seriously.... He's moving to Juniors.. .... Infants had only just begun to 'get' him ....... Lots of meetings between the two schools during the run up to the end of term.... lots of 'promises' made by Juniors...... But, i'm beginning to wonder if they've taken anything the Infants told them on board.

 

Dreading it I hope i'm wrong....

 

 

Good luck, good luck.

 

~ Mel ~

[Daisydot]

Dreading it. My two are starting a new primary school (having taken them out of their useless old primary school towards the end of last year). I am really nervous for them. Butterflies or what ! I keep telling myself this school is going to be different, but the truth be known, I dont believe one of my children should even be in mainstream school, and we have got all that SENDSIT stuff coming up this Autumn too.

 

Good luck everyone with back to school and starting new schools.

Daisydot

[oxgirl]

Dreading it. My two are starting a new primary school (having taken them out of their useless old primary school towards the end of last year). I am really nervous for them. Butterflies or what ! I keep telling myself this school is going to be different, but the truth be known, I dont believe one of my children should even be in mainstream school, and we have got all that SENDSIT stuff coming up this Autumn too.

 

Good luck everyone with back to school and starting new schools.

Daisydot

 

 

Aw, best of luck to you all as well. Hope the new start is a positive one. <'>

 

~ Mel ~

[stressedmumto2]

Dreading it.

 

First of all son has been attending a holiday club everyday for 3 weeks of the holiday from 10-3 and then has had respite in the afternoon from 3.30-6.30 3 times a week, it's been a godsend, he has been kept occupied all the time and been out of trouble add to that new meds and he has been great, we even went camping this weekend and it was fab if a little tiring.

 

When he goes back to school initially it is just going to be for 2 hours an afternoon. This is his 2nd mainstream. We've got proposed statement through which is written for him to attend the local EBD school (which i've told LEA he will not be going to) but they've not quantified how much support he will get in new school.

 

I am dreading it. I know with time to wander he will get bored and we will run into problems because he likes to be kept occupied doing what he enjoys 24/7 (fishing/crabbing/rag worming/sports).

 

I want him to attend a residential, I know it will work wonders for him but how do I convince everyone else. I guess it shows that because he has been kept busy things have been easier for us as a family.