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I'm from a little town in Hampshire. (Not far from Sandhurst where prince harry is getting a boot up the bum no doubt!!)

think that depends on how he got there lil me..... my hubby managed to put in 3 of my new light tops in with the darks....disaster! was not impressed.. he decided to put some of that stain devil stuff on it, took a sharp knife to the top of the bottle (like you do ) and slipped, taking a chunk out of his thumb. he survived the stitches, dunno about surviving me tho, lol.

I have to say this one hits a nerve with me too. My son has been diagnosed with Aspergers and my mum suffers form Schizophrenia, i sill worry to this day that he may infact be schizophrenic, although all his doctors tell me he's not. i guess i have watched my mum go to hell and back and wouldn't wish that on anyone, especially him.

hi all, just to keep you updated.. m loves the taste i just say it's vitamins to keep him healthy, he seems ok with that explanation. no difference as yet, but i will carry it on and let you all know.

hi little jem, i don't know what it's like to have someone with AS as a partner but i do agree with everyone else. relationships are odd little things, they change and grow, then just as we've got them figured, either we or just our lifes' change, throws us into a spin again.....guess is stops us from getting bored !! i do know what it's like to have a brother with AS and i must say, his girlfriend sometimes deserves a medal! but on the flipside, he is a wonderful person (when he's in the mood!) i think we all have our quirks and irritating habits, trick is to find a person who you love unconditionally even with their downright annoying habits!! great big <'> for you hun mary xx

that cracked ('scuse the pun) me up! mary x

my darling son and i had been shopping the previous day, i'd brought some knickers with a picture of a kitten on them. next day, at grandmas house (in-laws not even mine!) my little guy ran in and said to gradma "look, mummys got a new pussy" - whilst pointing to my crotch. i will never, ever lived that one down!

thank you so much everyone, earlier this morning i was thinking 'how the hell will i do this, where to start?? what do i do??'. now i feel empowered, bit gutsy to be honest......lol.......just try to let them get in my way!! mum on a mission

thanks mossgrove for the link, makes for interesting reading!

hi everyone, i took my son to his first session with the speech and language therapist this morning. im pleased to say she is fantastic, m loved her and she gave me so much advice and guidance (not just to do with speech/lang). i was so relieved, i burst into tears....thankfully she had tissues on hand! my problem now is, how do i get my son statemented. the lady this morning said m really needs to be statemented and his other consultants have said the same. but who begins the process?? ive approached the school before, and although m's teacher's fantastic, the head is not, refused me point blank. do i need to get the ball rolling? does the school? everyone's telling me i must get it done very soon for his benifit (and without a statement he wont get help in the juniors school) etc. but how do i go about it???

thanks elaine and lauren xxx im going to persevere with it - no harm in trying i guess. will keep you all posted if i spot an improvement xx

my little one was diagnosed as AS a few months ago. whilst at one of the first consultants meetings i had i was asked to describe immediate family members....my brother rang lots of bells for the consultant. i didn't mention this to him, but spoke to his girlfriend. she wholeheartedly agreed with me and actually said she had thought so for some time. again, we didn't confront him, i thought, he doesn't need to be told, he has a great job, happily engaged etc, i didnt want to upset. then an odd thing happened. he called me, he'd been online, finding out all he could about AS to give to me. and he told me, quite matter of fact that he's sure he has it. he feels it's a huge relief. i don't know if he definately has AS or not, but you can see him physically more relaxed and he doesn't push himself to do things like he used to. plus he and my son have the most fantastic bond now. i think he understands him more that i do!! i guess my answer would be, try not to confront him with it - just be there with all the advice and support if he comes to you. home my waffling helps xxx

four words; AM LOOSING MY MIND!!!!!!!!!!

thats one of my little guys biggest problems, he remembers mummy, daddy, our dogs name and thats about it! the way we get around it is to have pictures of everyone friends, family etc, print and laminate. now when he's trying to talk to his teacher, or me, about someone else, he can just point to that person. it takes the pressure off him. mind you, you need a ###### big bag to haul it about everywhere!

thank you for the links nellie and i loved the way you've described it to your little ones carole, i think thats the way i will go. i feel that half the reason my son is coping so badly is that he needs an explanation, he has such a caring nature and just can't understand why people don't think like him (he told me today he needs a new mouth, coz his doesn't say things properly - awwwwww) i will wait until the time is right and definately find a good book, he takes much more it when he can physically see something. i want to say a huge thank you to all of you guys. im so pleased i found you all mary x

this is a follow on from 'what concerns you most'... alot of my sons meltdown are because he is so confused.. the thing that worries me, is he is beginning to ask why everyone is different to him, he's becoming aware that the other children think he's 'odd' (- another child actually told him that ) how do you explain to your child?

hiya, my main comcern for my little boy at the moment is to fit in socailly. he's just becoming aware of his peers and is desperate to join in, often ending up in confusion and frustration for him he has such low self-esteem, it breaks my heart, he often spends hours just in tears

hi karen i thought eugene was AS! he's a lovely guy, just want to give him a big hug, he's handling it sooooo well. give craig a thump from me he's driving me nuts anyhow, that voice!! it's so wineeeeeeyyyyyyy

hiya dont know if it helps, but i've always been told to put as much detail as possible. i'd go with bullet points with the most up to date bits first. im a senco and the parent of a little boy with aspergers so i can see it from both sides. but i'd worry i might have left out something important - better to give them as much info as possible x

thanks helen, didn't spot that one! am new to all this mary x

my sons doctor has recommended he try the supplement 'eye q'. has anyone else tried it?

my little boy definately struggles with time - any kind of sequencing really. days of the week, etc - he doesn't understand that morning means breakfast and will demand lunch at 7pm, even when he's had his dinner! we initially thought he may be having petite mal fits' - would explain the disorentation...but he's not, just one part of the puzzle he struggles with. each aspergers different i guess xx

i'm on a small dose (20mg) per night to relieve my M.E symptoms, it levels off the central nervous system apparently. works for me, although i feel i bit sleepy in the evenings, i have terrible trouble with my sleep pattern without it xxxxxxx haven't heard of it being given as treatment for ASD before, worth a try though, it's a 'safe' drug (not many side effects). all the beat hun x

my son, who's 6, is difficult to take shopping.... thought i'd brave it a few saturdays ago, desperatley needed some bits and he seemed up for it.... after 10 frustrated minutes watching him like a hawk (he's a wanderer), i managed to get to the checkout. i was smugly putting things on the belt, really pleased with my little man and myself, when i hear a scream... michael had been playing on the piece of metal piping that runs along the edge of the wall (to stop the trolleys bumping the wall) and got his knee caught. several people ran to help him (which was lovely) but michael doesn't like people he doesn't know touching him... so he screamed louder. i had to say - quite loudly, because there were so many people - "thank you for your help,but please don't touch him".... one guy was fantastic, he told michael he wasn't going near him, just pulling the pipe so he could get his leg free. the others stood, staring... once michael was freed i said thank you to the people staring and was told "you shouldn't let him out at the weekends dear, it will upset people". i'm usually gutsy and can take it, but i have to say i cried all the way home. on a brighter note... when michael is feeling out of his depth in social situations, he adopts an american accent.... the amount of people who say to us "are you over hear on your holidays?"

hiya, i cannot tell you the relief that i feel as i scroll down these messages. i have a son, who's 6, he has just been diagnosed with aspergers. i have been begging for help since he was two years old. its such an odd feeling now he's diagnosed.....pleased that we're here....but gutted that he will have to struggle....know what i mean? mary x