DaisyProudfoot

Not good those were bad floods in 1953 with many people killed and poor East Yorkshire could do without more floods too

My 11 year old daughter (she's not AS) came back with maths homework on bonfire night she was struggling with it so we said she could finish it when she got home from the fireworks, however we didn't get back till 9.45pm so it was too late to start. I told her not to get distressed and we would have a look at it in the morning. Come the next morning I'm feeding the babies and we looked at her homework - unfortunately it was fractions and I am rubbish at them. So I said I couldn't do it she'd have to wait for her brothers. Eldest (he's doing Further Maths at A level) looked at it, sat down and explained the working out but she didn't understand that so we waited until the next eldest (the genius) came down and he took one look and said: "Oh that's easy, you just take the denominator................." at which point my daughter threw the homework book across the room So I told her not to worry, just take the homework to the teacher and tell her you couldn't understand it and could she go through it again. Did the teacher do this?....no, she just took the book and wrote "Homework Unfinished" and didn't even explain it to her. When I was at school if you got stuck the teacher showed you what to do grrrrrrrrr.

:drunk: :groupwave: :bounce: :bounce: Fabulous news guys that's tremendous.

That's excellent news - pleased his first day went well too

<'> >< <'> What a fright, glad he's ok.

:D Who is Ian Jordan?.....that reminds me I have to ring him about something.

Suze, next time they see a Defender get them to wave at the driver - we love waving

Because you don't have a sign on your head saying "I am autistic" <'> <'> People have very narrow views of disabilities and autism has a huge spectrum and although your traits are obvious to those of us who know autism they're not to others. I also have AS it's not dx'd but I know,it explains a lot of my childhood and why I still get stressed out now. You really don't want to see me let loose, it's not pretty. It also explains my obsessions and my many faults including honesty. I also have something called Lupus (it's an auto-immune disorder) and it hurts like ****. But to look at me you wouldn't know. Hidden disabilities are often the hardest to deal with because there is no sympathy.

Would anyone mind if I started this thread? You know how we Aspies like to talk about our obsessions whether anyone is listening or not so I thought I'd bore you all with mine because it's kinda my life now (apart from my kids).You don't have to read it but it's an important part of me and if anyone else wants to tell me about theirs they can My Land Rovers Once upon a time I discovered Land Rovers (not fancy posh Chelsea Tractor ones but the nice traditional ones - the Defenders, Series and Military Lightweights) and I became obsessed. I've always loved them since I was a kid but then I grew up and then I was able to afford one for my very own. I read Land Rover magazines the way other people read Hello or Cosmo, I love every bit of landies from their leaky doors to their beautiful chassis and my very own landy is my pride and joy, little by little she gets bits added to her to make her a better and stronger off-roader, she costs me every penny I earn and the kids all think I'm just a little bit crazy All my friends have Landies or similar 4x4 type vehicles and we spend hours together talking about them In the summer I bought two more landies (both military lightweights) and me,hubbs and eldest son are re-building them. I pity the neighbours living next to a house full of land rovers and their parts except for the guy down the road because he's another landy obsessive and after his wife managed to persuade him to part with his previous landies he now has another even older and more beautiful than his last two This is she: Thank you for listening

My favourite is Freaks, Geeks and Aspergers. Not written by an adult but very good nonetheless.

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I think it would make sense for you to contact the social worker (or the office where the SW worked if they are no longer there) and ask to be given access to the records so they can be forwarded on to CAMHS rather than waiting for CAMHS to contact them. It might be a data protection issue.

I think possibly Stephen has benefited but he's always been his own person and spends hours reading stuff on the internet or in books. I would say it's more we've benefited from Stephen deducing he possibly has AS because it answers many questions about him. Martin has always been our problem because his AS is so much more defined - the monotone voice, the meltdowns, the lack of social skills, the refusal of eye contact - his is all classic AS. Stephen's is more subtle and most people would probably just think he's a quiet, industrious lad who likes to be alone or with his own kind. If you're not interested in what Stephen is interested in he won't give you the time of day - as you can imagine he therefore has some very wierd friends At the end of the day do you think your son would benefit from an official dx, if you think it will help him in his future careers then maybe but it sounds as if like Stephen he has his own circle of friends, he is bright enough to cope academically and could survive on his own in the future. I'll put it into perspective: Martin will never be able to do the following without assistance - live alone without setting fire to the house, maintain a good relationship with a group of people without insulting half of them, go shopping with friends without giving his money away, stay away from a "bad" crowd, wash his clothes or change his sheets, be anywhere on time for anything, keep down a job, maintain good health and hygiene.....the list goes on. Martin could starve to death playing on the computer The difference is how easily could your son live without help in the future, he's 17 now, if you think he will have Martin's problems then yes a dx probably is a good idea, if not what good is the dx?

"Well Decorum," said Tatters as she petted the purple pooch which had materialised from Lozza's shirt. "Looks like it's just you and me today, what shall we do with ourselves?" "Well, we could raid the HobNob tin," said Decorum (advantages of being a fairy ). "Or...." exclaimed Tatters. "We could go and fix the Bat-mobile, it's been sitting down in that cave for ages and I bet no-one's turned it over, that battery will be flatter than the Batcave cushions after JT's had a post-curry farting session!. So with one quick dash into the dressing area Tatters removed her heroes outfit and pulled on her most comfy lycra overalls and headed, with Decorum at her heels, to the Bat Garage. It was dark and gloomy, water dripped steadily from the cave ceiling ("must get that pipe fixed" thought Tatters) and a smell of abandonment filled the dank air. "OK" said the fairy, "Lights!" (Fairy lights geddit I'll get me coat) Decorum found the light switch and a gentle hum resounded around the garage until all the neon warmed up. The Batmobile sat in the centre of the cave - she looked dusty and unkempt - her bling chrome was starting to rust, an abandoned bustier hung from her aerial and her tyres were flat. "Awwwww baby, what they done to you " Tatters wailed, and big wrench in hand she set about re-building the sad rustheap.

Which is why there are probably so many birthdays in November! :lol:

TBH Gull he sounds just like my Stephen (one of Martin's (AS dx'd) older bros). In fact he sounds remarkably like my Stephen, even down to the roleplaying games. Stephen is not dx'd AS although he probably has a higher functioning version of it disguised by the fact he is very, very intelligent. Would it be worth asking your lad to read a couple of Aspergers books and work it out for himself, after all he is 17. I got Stephen to do this because we were having problems with him adjusting to Martin's dx and when he finished them he said he reckoned he had AS too but it wasn't as bad as Martin's. A lot of this does sound like normal teenage behaviour too. How long would you say you have been aware of his Aspie tendancies?

Hmmmm...there's a lot to take in there Caroline <'> >< <'> First I would say, you're little one is obviously happy in the unit and this alone has to be a good sign because it proves that he works well in small groups and is willing to adapt to new social skills through this method of teaching. Secondly I don't think it will lull people into a false sense of security you say yourself that at mainstream school he is still having difficulties. What I'm seeing from what you're saying (and excuse me if I'm being so bold) is a child who is obviously blossoming in a small educational environment but struggling in a large-scale environment. In other words at the end of the programme he will be seen to benefit from this and therefore will most likely receive more support not less. It also gives CAMHS an idea what helps your son to progress and what doesn't. It may be worth finding out the name of the programme and have a look on the internet at some of the American sites and what deductions have been made.

Hiya Gull and all our other new members You're right, it's a very friendly forum.

Oh boy - Martin is not a happy bunny and I'm in the doghouse. I asked him yesterday if Mr T (the SENCO) had spoken to him and his reply was: "Yes he has, and I'm not pleased that you've been interfereing in my school work mum." (he's 11) So when I told him that I had no choice his HT had rung up concerned about his detentions and lines he said: "But you didn't have to talk to the head teacher just because he rang you up." "Yes I did Martin, so anyway did Mr T tell you he was going to do etc etc etc." says I "He's not going to do it," says Martin "His assistant is." So there you go it would be appear I am not popular. The joys of being a parent

Yes, you did do the right thing I have done the same myself and the child in question, although not dx'd with autism was dx'd with another problem which wouldn't have been brought up if the grandmother hadn't taken my advice. (In that case it was the mother who wouldn't accept something was wrong). I think when the carer themselves puts forward their own concerns I see nothing wrong in following that up with your own "parental" advice. I just wish someone had listened to me when I mentioned Martin's autistic traits when he was 3 years old, instead he was 9 before anyone listened.

Yesterday I got a new pain relief method - a TENS machine courtesy of our wonderful NHS. After half an hour's training from the consultant nurse I am now all wired up. If you ain't used one then you haven't lived it's really good - but don't turn it up too quickly! So it will keep me going till the neurosurgeon appointment in January 2008!

I once typed in Nun's costumes for a "Sing-a-long a Sound of Music" and got some very interesting sites!

Don't pay that bill until the new reading comes through. If you do owe that much then all I can say is they obviously haven't been calculating your payments very well.

My best advice is don't expect them to understand it all fully at first. Martin was 9 when we told him and I would say it took him a good 6 months to grasp the meaning of it all. What ever you do choose a time when he is going to be willing to listen, not when he's engrossed in his favourite pasttime, game, TV prog etc. or he won't give you the time of day and don't make it sound like his AS is a problem either. Another warning: once he knows he will try it on, he'll use every trick in the book and blame it on his AS. "It's not my fault, I've got Aspergers." is no excuse - but you'll have to lay those ground rules early.

:lol: Yup, I had one like that!