Martin Howe

Mumble and trekster pretty much said most of what I wanted to say Order means easily locating things and calculating where something is from a few rules is far easier than remembering it. Though I do find memory improves with repeated use.

Nice that you've some good news, hope there's more to come <'>

Cor, well done (Hopefully me too within a few months)

Well done, that's great

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Hi Pinky and welcome I wonder if your son has AS. Some of the things you describe were me 40 years ago, some still now. I especially love the remarks about food; when holidaying with my brother, DSIL used to say my favourite food was "good old british stodge" The great thing about this forum is the support from other members; you just taught me something about myself I knew for years but lacked a really good description of when you said "things with same texture all the way thru". Does your son have problems with liquidy foods? Perhaps that's the same mechanism if so, maybe the AS brain interprets that as a constantly changing texture - yuck

Hi and welcome to the forum, Laura Pinky's son isn't alone; I've had 40+ years of it and know people with milder AS symptoms than mine who nevertheless describe the same experience. It's like having a built-in computer that really would try and calculate the last digit of pi if you let it and, crucially, refuses to shut down if there's any problem unsolved or anything interesting to think about (like when Windows sometimes won't shut down when you want to go to bed ).

Hi Ric and welcome It must have been a shock, but you'll get a lot of help here on the board. At least you can apparently get an assessment where you live; here in North East Suffolk, nobody gets anything for ASDs except where the law compels the scrooges to (read: kids only); anyway, just wanted to say I was 43 last year when diagnosed so you're not alone in being older and aspie - good luck

Hello and welcome to the forum Speaking as an AS child (many years ago) who would routinely disobey parents due to honestly thinking that with "Vulcan Logic" he knew better than they did, I'd say the AS child has a pathological drive to do the right thing and especially not to let people "wrong" them, regardless of who or what ever is doing it. Subtleties such as respect for unofficial authority figures such as parents, the idea that experience isn't just a word parents use to beat children with, that (gasp!) adults are even RIGHT sometimes, are difficult enough for any child, but incomprehensible to the child with AS, if my childhood is anything to go by Dunno if that helps, but it's worth pointing out that the bit about doing things even when they know they will (or might) be punished is perhaps one of the hardest things to understand about AS children.

I love the acronym tag on this board! I have never seen anything like it on another board, but it's a clever use of the "title" attribute. Might there be a way for the post editor to have an option to automatically parse known acronyms or offer default acronym parameters for known abbreviations when the "Insert: Acronym" link is clicked?

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Oh that's horrible Can't do anything but wish your friend well.

T is not alone here; I hate doing that. It's ok in a formal situation where the other person HAS to listen, perhaps because they are a service provider, and where what I have to talk about is a matter of fact and absolute; but doing it where asking for something I don't have an absolute right to or that is ill defined is always difficult. I used to withdraw into my shell whenever mum wanted me to do things like that. Otherwise I'd just use the formula "Mum/Dad asks:...." and say "well if that sounds silly, it's because it IS silly asking me to do it". Ironically it was realising that at 43, I still couldn't do it as an adult that got me to see a doctor expecting some generic MH help and being dx with AS instead Yes I can certainly testify to that; family could never understand why I hated sitcoms or movies like them; I could always see the faux pas (that a character was going to make) several minutes in advance and hated feeling embarrased for them; wondering why people can be so stupid, even characters in a comedy.

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After a lot of thought I voted "yes", but only as a general rule; the question is really too simplistic as phrased because there are potentially dozens of factors that affect the answer, especially given the arguments here as to whether ASD is truly a disablement or an alternative view of the world or something else entirely. I can only speak from experience about AS, not for all ASD, so what follows is my take only; YYMV: AS has cost me most of the things that as an NT I could have expected to get or have a fair chance to earn for myself and because of the nambification of society, in which employers are allowed to expect people skills (other than basic good manners) from science graduates, did not get the benefits of a good career in research or engineering that somebody born maybe twenty years earlier might have got and which would have made up for it to some extent. Aspies born in the strict Victorian and Edwardian eras not only had a simpler life to cope with but were, like NTs, brainwashed from birth with most of the people skills they needed as part of the strict code of good manners prevelant at the time. Given the trends now, Aspies born, say, 50 years from now will have access to stronger legislation and change of attitudes to protect them and better chances of learning how to fit in with NTs. The problem for my generation is the Chinese Curse of interesting times; born too late to benefit from a simpler time in history and an organised structured society and too early to benefit from eventual formalisations in law and ethics created to prevent NTs abusing the freedom of choice given them by the demise of that (strict) society. It is also worth noting that the idea that high intelligence or logical thinking or whatever being a side effect of AS is not the only theory; it may be the other way around or perhaps both effects stem from a common root. I also object to SBC and his "Mind Blindness"; that's like saying a sighted person forced to live among blind people, with the death penalty if you take off your blindfold, is disabled because they lack the hereditary "feel around by touch" sense evolved by generations of people born blind. As to whether or not to take the red pill: If my miracle cure for AS also magically rewrote history to give me 25 years of experience in an emotionally and intellectually (which for me is the same thing) rewarding job, a house with 20 years of mortgage payments on the clock, a circle of friends and a loving wife - then HELL YES!! If my miracle cure didn't cure the AS but magically rewrote history to give me 25 years of experience as a microprocessor architecture researcher in a good university and as such better chances of finding friends and a wife from among the scientific elite (i.e. other Aspies and high functioning NTs) - then HELL YES!! In the real world, it's probably too late; but NTs seem to cope with adversity and "starting from scratch" better than us, so a QUALIFIED yes. Overall, then, YES.

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