lindy-lou

wow talk about fate intervening!!well done to both of you!

good luck in your new home lisann

just upload the image you want onto photobucket or whatever image hoster you use,then copy the url from there and paste it into the add url on your edit avatar settings,its not too hard really

oh how sad is this post im nearly in tears reading it,my nephew has had this for most of his life too,when all he wants is someone to truly call a friend and my heart breaks for him,and now the fear that my own daughter is going to have to face this in her life too,i too live in a small village where attitudes are very behind the times,although i do have family support and couldnt be without it,anxiousmom im sending you a big <'> coz i know how much your heart is hurting for your boy,how much you want to drum it into your ignorant selfish"friend" that he's only being friendly and how much her son means to him,i would sever the boys contact with your son,i understand that your son wants any scrap of friendship being offered but its an unhealthy friendship and not good for your boy in the long run,i can understand where the little boy is coming from a bit because my nephew is a very in your face person,doesnt understand about invading peoples personal space and gets up to close,and we are forever explainig to him that that upsets people,but the parents should have a bit more tolerance,especially if theyve watched your son grow up,wheres the harm in them explaining to the boy what AS is and how it means he has to look after and protect his friend a bit more,isnt that what teaching children about friendship should be?it could have been solved in a delicate,sensitive manner rather than "keep that boy away",if i were you i would think hard about being where you and your children are going to get the best support,the problems wont go away but having a bit of support makes a world of difference how you cope with it,in the meantime,just give your boy some extra cuddles and give yourself a pat on the back for being such a caring mum <'> <'> <'>

my little one gets on okish with her 2 sisters at the moment although my middle DD knows exactly how to wind her up and doesnt tolerate her very well,my sister on the otherhand has had an awful time with her 2 boys and her eldest has ended up having to move in with my mum because of the situation,its taken a long time but they are now beginning to get along with one another which i think is mainly down to the oldest one(nearly 16)becoming more tolerant and accepting of dans AS and he now sees that he cant help it instead of thinking he just puts on his behaviour for attention,i think once acceptance is learned by the siblings life becomes a bit easier but at the end of the day their just kids so we cant expect too much of them,i know its difficult being in a war zone,my eldest 2 are constantly killing each other i think we should all join viper on her night out and hit the bottle

kerre if you spend alot of time on the pc,how about making your own forum for other kids with ASD/AS?im sure their are people on here who would like their kids to have other like minded people to talk to,maybe someone(your mum?)could keep an eye on it for you to make sure you keep safe online.you can get your own free phpbb forum here- http://www.1-2-free-forums.com/ its only advisable to do this if you have permission and support from your parents though x if you want to get off the pc though you could do something arty,painting stones is something fun and cheap and you can be very imaginative with them,or making xmas decorations,paper chains etc,il have to have a think and maybe ask my nephew what he would think would be cool to do if he was bored,il get back to you!!

so sorry sarah,i can imagine how embarrasing that must have been but the image of it made me laugh out loud

indy is a perfectionist in that she has to have things done exactly the way she likes them or its meltdown time,like having the same blanky at bedtime and the same teddy and the same film on,if any of those are wrong she aint going to bed for no-one,and anyone going out the door has to perform the same ritual,kiss,hug,handshake,rub your fingers,so i understand what your saying about things having to be correct,the thing is she can change her mind about it at anytime and were supposed to just know that!!frustrating...yes!

Last week india sat enthralled by george bests funeral wish id taped it now

hmm cant we get krism wap enabled so we can use it on our phones??? anytime,any place,anywhere.......

WOW girl!! 12 years!!! you make sure you get steaming drunk and dont worry about your kids all night,have a great time

hi daisy my kids school is overun with headlice so nitcombing is done every other night in our house,india actually loves it and i think she finds it quite soothing my sisters boy who is AS as well hates it and puts up a right stink for his mum but will happily let me do it,maybe your son would let someone else do it?maybe a grandparent? lynda x

for anyone who's kids like the jcb song,heres the video http://www.jcbsong.co.uk/jcbvideo.asp

i think when you fill in your dla form they will consider both the care and mobility components,so if you havent got the mobility part its worth reapplying for,congrats on getting your DLA back

cant give you any advice on that really das as my daughters only 3 but is your girlfriend on any contraceptive pills or jabs?they should help her cope with pmt around that time.

http://www.dh.gov.uk/assetRoot/04/06/94/12/04069412.pdf this is helpful.

http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/TANGLE-fidget-TOY-ad...1QQcmdZViewItem there you go elefun.should get delivery before xmas

<'> for you hev <'> and one for steve too.

hev u need a <'> i do sympathise,my sister goes through the same with her boy,he has to be restrained when he has a violent meltdown and i know it shellshocks her for days afterwards,and dan is so ashamed and remorseful afterwards,what a tough time we have to endure,children and adults alike,i can only offer my thoughts and that maybe life would be that little bit tougher if we didnt have this forum to come and vent and no one judge us.hope you have a happier day today hun x lynda x

hi i think most families have something like this going on somewhere,in mine me and my sister wont talk to my brother,he won a million pounds on the lottery and didnt give us a penny!im not a greedy person but i am very family orientated and i know that if me or my sister had had that opportunity we would have looked after the family,my brother is arrogant and selfish and the world revolves around him,my mum and dad think the sun shines out of his a*^e and it upsets them deeply that we dont like each other,its caused alot of tension especially last christmas when my mum had a go at me and my sister for not sending him a xmas card but he never sent us one either but that was completely ok so we told my mum a few home truths and weve agreed to accept the situation as it is,it hurts though that someone you grew up with and shared so much with could care so little for you in adulthood but i am richer in love and support than he will ever be and i fear he will grow old lonely and alone. lynda x

ive just ordered india one of these off ebay das!!!i think she'll love it

im sure indias done that as well brook or something along those lines anyway,its always something thats impossible to rectify anyway,one day she had a meltdown because she wanted me to make her little toe bigger!! thats what i find really tough because i dont know how to deal with it, i hope the older she gets she maybe grows out of it a bit.

your welcome das <'>

posted that twice for some reason

Das every time i read your posts you come across as kind and genuine and your girlfriend is a lucky girl to have such a caring,concerned boyfriend,that post really annoyed me as well,i felt like it was trying to take away the distress indias condition causes me and my family and others with AS,but then you have to let it go because someone somewhere will always try and belittle your situation,you keep doing your best by being informed about your girlfriends condition,your certainly not wasting anyones time. <'>