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My son (who is finally being diagnosed at 9) was told he didn't have it because he had imaginative play at 2 years 9 months. But he was just copying what he'd seen on the tv.

I can sooo relate to this <'> Seems a lot of the time people put the behaviour down to age and shrug it off as being naughty. As soon as I read he was off school I thought - oh uh. We have half term pending doom ahead too We found that we had to look at what the problem is, what's causing it and how can it be helped. We learnt that routine is key. don't reward behaviour unless it's part of a routine, we found that the more we rewarded him the worst he got. We've just made a visual aid for dinner times - this means his dad doesn't have to keep telling him stuff and getting "wound up" but can just refer to the aid. Feel free to pm me and discuss any specifics that you can break down and I'll try and think of ways you could resolve it - we may even have the same issues (my ds is 9 now)

That's terrible that she doesn't get any help.

Well as someone who is being also told that my ds' bullying is just perceived and reading that I'd say I'd rather home educate tbh. That's awful <'> Even if it is "perceived" what are they doing to help your son then? <'>

My ds is supposed to have social skills training coming up at school - but they are not very forthcoming with what it will entail.

<'> <'> <'> hope things get better hun.

TBH to give a child a dx of autism can be damaging as well as helpful to them - is the way the professionals see it. They are not saying that the autistic problems are not there (hence the traits) but they are saying that not all the traits are there (hence has imaginative play).....that's their opinion. This happened with me too when my ds was 2 years and 9 months.....they even convinced me to go and see a CPN incase it was me (and I did because I'd do anything for my kids!) Now over 7 years later they are finally agreeing with me and he's in the processes of being diagnosed.....you know what you know so don't give up. Good luck <'>

My son just goes to football club after school. It's small groups and lots of adults. He did used to go to judo but we moved away and it was too far to go to a club - but that suited him well.

yay fab news.

I don't know much about it in all honesty but just wanted to wish you good luck with talking to the head about it <'>

TBH who cares if you do look neurotic - better to ask and be wrong than not ask and be right. Good luck. <'>

My ds does this. Sometimes I think it's his own humour and othertimes I think it's because he doesn't understand his emotions and how he is supposed to feel and act....like when he laughs when his little brother is being sick.

Look forward to still seeing you post - don't leave it too long <'>

lol What is it about him that makes people think he is?

Oh well the very best of luck then hun

Well if you want to talk about anything then I'm willing to listen. 4 weeks may feel a long time to deal with them alone. <'>

Oh am sorry to hear you are leaving. The best of luck to you.

what are you doing can I ask please?

4 weeks ouch that's a big gap. Do you feel relieved now? Was it good talking to someone? Regardless of whether you think they were just using "good practice"

I had sickness not only all the way through but after the birth too. Apart from that he was 9 days late and almost 9 lbs - and I'm only 5ft 3

Are you in the UK? Am sure you may qualify for home start to come out and help you with it if it's getting you down. I've never used them so don't quote me on it - but might be worth looking into. <'>

I know it sounds awful but can you take photos of damage and stuff and take them and really pester the council. Otherwise can only echo what lindy_lou has said and offer some <'> <'> <'>

I don't think we are not accomodating it - but we can only build awareness of the effects on other's if he is told - he is not stupid just autistic. Maybe if there was a special board for him this may help accomodate more...just a suggestion.

The ed pych who taught me gave the impression that to get a clear picture they like to have as much input from as many different professionals as pos. Ed psychs are rare especially atm while they are changing how we qualify = so it's probably down to this - keep fighting we got to see one at last.

I think as long as they are going to try and help. Oh yes that would be great.