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  1. tabz2711

    JOB !!!!!

    Congratulation on your new job, I am sure you will enjoy it S*
  2. Thanks girls for all your support. As the appointment was very short notice I didn't have time to prepare any examples of S behaviour and thought the first appointment was to assess her for depression and whether she was at risk of self harming or the "unmentionable". We were there for three hours, in that time S spent some time with the CAHMS nurse on her own and filled out a questionnaire whilst we went in the other room to fill one out to on Autism. As we were leaving it was explained that we should hear in about two weeks whether it will be necesary to see S again and the nurse would be discussing the questionnaire with the child Psychartist. Within an hour of us getting home there had been a message left on our phone giving us another appointment with S at CAHMS for middle of July and to bring with us any list of traits that S has and any observations that we have seen. At least we havn't been kept waiting. The nurse really put us at ease and seemed very caring. She talked about our parenting skills and so on. thanks once again S*
  3. Just to let you all know, I got a phonecall at 9.30am to bring S in for to CAHMS at 1.30pm. Ahhhh just been to pick S up from school as she needs plenty of warning find someone for my foster daughter to go whilst we are there phone social worker to tell them who is looking after her and then phone hubby at school a difficult task to arrange for him to get time off to meet us there. No wonder I have a pain down my arm and chest, just taken a asprin just in case.
  4. Just to let you know the time is 20.38 and S has not even asked to go on the computer, are things looking up.
  5. Lol bet you don't have three girls then Lynne, my poor son has four mothers to nag him, none of them spoil him. My eldest is very good with him but she is brill with all the family and any foster children too.
  6. Thanks for that information, I will look into it for my two it will be good for them, which one are yours going on S*
  7. Hi Stephanie I found that with four homegrown children and usually two or three foster children the best way to travel was at night. We too had all the DVD/video players, books, leappads and gameboys it was still hardwork travlling during the day. During half term we went to the Isle of Wight and I booked the 6am ferry which was considerably cheaper than the later ones and it was a fab journey the kids slept all the way and I had peace and quiet.
  8. I can undersatnd where you are coming from as the same happened to me with my daughter who was in her last year at primary. She was given a B for I.T and she felt upset as she is really good at computers, so good that the teacher always asked her to help her when she could not do something. B is excellent but why not an A if they deserve it. At her new school she has had awards for her I.T skills after being there for only a term.
  9. No wonder you are worn out, if you don't find time for yourself and deligate jobs, how will you manage to be there for anyone else. I work for a foster agency and they are very firm about having timeout for the foster carers otherwise the whole family fall apart if the main carer wears themselves out. You were not born Super woman even through you fit the job perfectly. Find others to help, I am advising you and certainly don't take notice myself, but I am trying to. S*
  10. I just wondered whether I should be acting differently with my 15 yr old who is suspected of having AS. We have a very warped sense of humour especially me and kids, hubby has not got as it its been past down from my side of the family Grandfather, my Dad and all my brothers and sisters. Our 15 yr old really makes us laugh with what she says, we laugh with her and not at her and she seems to join in, but I wondered whether we should be diferent with her. I am a counsellor and am hopefully aware of her feelings especially if we might have gone too far. Its mostly me and not the whole family. I always check out with her if we have had a laugh and she is able to talk to me anytime. Last night she was sat on our bed and I asked her to move the cat from the bed, we started laughing about her telling us a few months ago that when the cat sleeps in her bedroom, she turns around away from the cat when she is getting undressed ready for bed so the cat can't see her with no clothes on. I asked her whether she would do the same if a mouse, hamster, etc were in her room, she said yes she would turn away but she would be ok with a fly, insect or bee seeing her get ready for bed. I really don't want to upset her and she seems fine about it, but maybe she might be feeling different on the inside.
  11. Do you have any names yet, I could real of loads of girls names but really struggled for our son, it was more of a problem because hubby is a teacher and when I mentioned a name he would say "no no" I had a boy in my class with that name and I don't want to be reminded of him.
  12. tabz2711

    Labour Pains

    Brilliant I am going to pinch this to send to all my friends who need a good laugh
  13. Congratulations, I have three daughters then a son and also a foster daughter, I was shocked to discover on the scan I was having a boy, the midwife thought she should tell me as I had three girls and "must have wanted a boy" Wouldn't change him for the world but still getting used to him and he is eleven now lol
  14. Its more exciting like a proper competition wondering what others might have put as their caption than just reading them on the thread and once the winner is choosen maybe we could see everyones caption who entered.
  15. Hi Col I am shocked at your report, how come the Head has not involved social services if they think DD7 is been treated this way at home. Looks like they are looking for someone to blame for them not being able to cope. If this is the case and they thought you were not coping well at home maybe they should have invited you in to support you rather than totally going against you and personally attacking you and your family ahhhhhhh. My blood is boiling for you who do they think they are. S*
  16. Thanks K Its good to know that S isn't the only one using the internet, it became an obsession with S but over the past couple of weeks I have managed to wean her off it a bit. My space is causing so many problems with her but also helping her have relationships with her friends who leave lovely comments for her and build up her confidence. I think eventually S will also be able to sever ties with the girls who are causing her to have anxiety attacks and depression. S *
  17. tabz2711

    Hi everyone

    Wow Eve what a clever lady you are, a big congratulations to you. I can imagine how hard it has been for you to study for a degree and look after your family and get a first class honours degree Its only a woman that could achieve that. Sorry if I have offended any men out there.
  18. Hi You have not mentioned how old your daughter is, What about taking a couple of days off and sending her for the afternoon for the first two days and see how she gets on, is she going to the holiday club because you work, maybe you could get a friend or grandparent to be on call or have her for part of the day if you can't take time off. I foster and children with attachment problems all seem to not like holidays as their routine is changed which in turn makes them feel very unsecure. So we always have difficult behaviour when we go away. We have had a mobile home since fostering and tend to go to that as its home from home, but occasionally would like somewhere new for the rest of us.
  19. Hi Just thought I would post an update, S went to school today and came back ok. She has even agreed to go to Alton towers with her school which she was totally against on Friday. Still waiting for the emergency appointment with CAHMS hope we get it before the appointment with the Paediatric clinic which is next week. I was hoping to by pass that appointment to make it less appointments for S to go to. S got her mock results back she got 74% in history and 25/25 in French which was good for a girl who has missed quite a bit on school and didn't do any studying or know that she had exams. She admitted to feeling depressed tonight, mostly by her old friends who affect her when she hears what they say about her to others, this has always been the case at her old school I wish she would ignore them. they all go on the internet on My Space and leave comments for each other I am reluctant to ban it as this is how she has made friends with the girls at her new school and she finds it easier to leave comments than talk to people, but the old school friends leave horrible comments. It has been a difficult week with S and also our foster daughter who disclosed some serious stuff which has shocked us all and especially S as she is very close to her she has not coped well at all with it. I sometimes wonder how my four are really affected when they hear things that they should not hear at their age. sorry to babble on just needed a listening ear as I am feeling confused, tired and very emotional it seems to be one thing after another at the moment.
  20. <'> Go and run yourself a lovely hot bubby bath and relax, then go to bed <'>
  21. tabz2711

    Dyspraxia

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    Dyspraxia

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  23. tabz2711

    Dyspraxia

    Hi I bought a wobble board called the Wobbler from John Lewis to help my daughter who has dyslexia and dyspraxia and it seemed to help. It has different games on it trying to get the ball into the hole and a maze so quite fun for kids. John Lewis had them half price int he sales but I brought mine full price I think it was ?34.95, It can be purchased on the internet from here http://www.outdoortoysdirect.co.uk/Fun-Out...mes/The-Wobbler I use it with all my foster children and they love it.
  24. Hi Jb my daughter went through a similar experience, she had had her eye tested at school and was fine, we went to church on Xmas eve and S could not see the song numbers on the board that were very big. As soon as we could we made an appointment and S got glasses no one in the family wears glasses. When she had checkups frequently at first they had to keep changing the lenses for stronger ones and I was very worried like yourself. But over the past few years her eye sight has stayed the same and she has the same prescription. I was very worried that she too would be wearing really thick lenses. How old is your daughter?
  25. thank you, Like everyone else here it is such an unknown experience at first, not knowing what to expect is quite hard especially as AS can be quite subtle if you are not aware of the traits of AS.
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