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Good luck Have a fab time I'm very jealous!!!!! keep reminding him about the snow when you get there and how wonderful it will be!

Well done to youy both!! My son (asd ,spd)got rid of his at 2 1/2 we/he gave it to the pilot on an aeroplane to help him fly the plane!! His understanding was and is quite poor but it seemed to somehow get through! My youngest son got rid of his last week he is 2 1/2 (NT) and we wrapped them up and gave them to my friends baby as he was no longer a baby!!! I think I panicked more than him!!!

<'> <'> <'> <'> My thoughts are with uo at this sad time. My gran passed away a year ago on the same day also of cancer. I have had a little drink to her memory and have had a nice day remembering the good things about her that made her so very special. <'> <'> <'>

Oh Yes!! This seems to be a common thread amongst us parents! My son is ok all day and then as we step into the car the other child appears and is very difficult until the next morning when he steps out of the car and returns to school as the sweet child!!!!! I think that there is a lot of, being able to unload in a safe enviroment where the child is in a comfort zone. Keep going we are all here to support oneanother <'>

Really sorry to hear your sad news. Take care of yourself <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Loupin x

Phoebe, The company we go with are called Family Ski company. There web is www.familyski.co.uk We try and go when the resort is not to busy, they have fantastic child care facilities and there staff are great. We always tell them about our sons likes dislikes etc strange habbits etc, etc and they are very patient and understanding and try to accomodate him. I can highly recommend them!!

From personnal experiance with my son now 6 I would let her carry on doing it in the pull ups. Offer the potty or the toilet and reward if she does it but I wouldn't make a fuss. You don't want a child that holds it and becomes constipated as you then end up in a vicious circle. My son was 4 1/2 when he eventually started to pooh & wee on the toilet and I nearly sent myself and him crazy by pushing the issue. He just did it when he was ready. All kids do it when it is right for them my third son was 2 when he decieded to potty train himself. try not to worry about it she's only 3. There is a great web site if you do experiance any other bowel related probs. www.eric.org.uk <'>

Hi all we are back after a fantastic weeks skiing in France. My son (6yrs asd learning dis spd) has been WONDERFUL!!!!!! He was so pleased not to be going to school that he has been a little ray of sunshine! He was voluntarily up at 7am everyday, dressed himself in his ski kit, got his own snack organised and was COMPLIANT!!!! He went to French ski school every day and loved it. this is his second year and he skiied like a little demon!!(proud mother moment!!!). To top it all he then ate different food, on day 2 he returned to our chalet with the activity leader and proudly said "mum I've had Jack potatoe and beans" ( always hated poatoes) He then ate a whole cheese and ham pizza(hates cheese, pizza etc etc) and has asked for some broccoli!!! He said I'm growing mum i'm nearly 7!!!!! I am so happy that I could burst! I have torn my cruciate ligament skiing so I'm on crutches but he is even being voluntarily helpful and handing me my crutches! He didn't even throw his school books at me tonight!!! Thank you for reading my happy rant!!!

Sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Loupin x

Hi all Over the last few weeks I have made some miserable posts regarding my sons behaviour and I have felt at a loss over what to do!! Well.......! We booked a skiing holiday yesterday(of course the same resort, child care ,chalet etc etc! 4th year now!) and we go on Saturday. Overnight my son turned into some one else! At 6.30am I was woken by this smiling boy in his school uniform! Teeth brushed! face washed! At 8pm he is in the kitchen practising his skiing moves and deciding what colour helmet he would wear at ski school!!!!! yesterday I was begging my son to get out of bed and he was begging me to go away and he hates school and wont get dressed with out a BIG fight!!! He has even been a delight after school, of course there is a bit of the usual'he's looking at me"etc etc but WOW Long may it last!!

I am seething on your behalf I would be furious if my son also aged 6 had been made to stand in the naughty corner My sons school have a zone board Green is good which goes up to silver then gold, or down to yellow or red but they are costantly given warnings and ways to amend their behaviour. Definately have a word as that is archaic and degrading for any child autistic or not

welcome to the forum! Its fab isn't it! Glad things are going well for you all. Loupin x

daft as this may sound....... my husband once dressed up in helmet and carried a light sabre(luke skywalker!!!!!) and went into our sons room with him outside the room and got rid of the monster that was under the bed and in the cupboard! He did great sound effects!! I can loan him out if anone needs a monster/ghost hunter..... comes with own lightsabre....battries not included!

I couldn't wait for a diagnosis either! Once you have an inckling you need to know. I contacted the NAS who have a list of diagnostitians. We saw a child psychiatrist within 2 weeks who told us exactly what she thought and then we waited for the rest of the referrals to get going!! It gave me a starting point and then i read my socks off!! I look back at my sons first years and cant believe that i didn't see what now is glarringly obvious. I had reasons and excuses for everything he did and anyone who questioned me.......! He used to hurt himself and never cry but i just thought he was brave and wasn't one of these fussy whingy toddlers! He would only eat certain foods but that was... due to his constipation and me letting him eat chocolate when he was in hospital!!! The list is endless!!! Good luck with your studying keep going as you havent got long to go, now you have an idea what the problem is you can work to make life a little easier.

could you distract him with a story tape and teach him to put it on in the night if he can't get back to sleep? What about a night light, my son has a light up snow man(xmas decoration!) his room is so light i don't know how he sleeps!!! Good luck

Somebody once told me that special children are only given to special people! I was also told that we are the lucky ones because when our children achieve the smallest things we can feel a sense of joy and pride that no one else can possibly know. Most people take everyday tasks for granted but we are so lucky because we see the everyday tasks as special. I struggle with my feelings and would like to hide in bed sometimes. This site has been an absoulute rock!! Also i went to a support group for a while which was fab! You are not alone in how you feel. <'> <'>

Good luck girls!!!! I also follow the ww plan. At my best i did the 18pt quick start and dropped a good dress size in 3 weeks. I'm just rubbish at sticking to them as I get complacent but I'm back to it on the dieters best day Monday!!!!!!!

Thanks Kathryn. He is meeting some of his IEP targets and he is definately learning somethings. they are very basic targets which they hoped wouldn't put too much pressure on him, but i think just getting to school and saying hello is pressure enough for him!! I have a very strong motherly desire to wrap him in a duvet and never let go of him!!!(but will resist!!!.....for now!)

He is at school action plus and has been for 2yrs now

I'm in the midlands!!!!!I'd be interested in a midlands get together!!!! I'm north Worcestershire!

My son is 6 and in yr 2(asd,spd,learning dis). The ed psyc came in 4/5months ago did 10mins observation and said he wouldn't qualify for the higher end statement so it wasn't worth him having it at the moment as school were already doing so much for him. They have a resident TA in every class and a parent helper and there are only 18 in the class. He advised that they collect information for the next 6months and then apply. We all agreed as we couldn't see the benefit if as it seemed it was a paper work excersise that wouldn't benefit my son. I'm now beginning to wonder! At the end of last tem my son was exhausted and was seriously acting out as soon as I picked him up, the hols have been ok but if you read my posts earlier this week then you will recall that the mere mention of the return to school has sent him crazy again. Today was the first day back and tonight has been hell! He has tried to tell me that the teacher wont help him and he can't do anything!! "They keep telling me to do all these things and i have no ideas" eventually it transpired its writing tasks he cant do. He also is having a run in with a couple of other kids who basically aren't agreeing with his obsession (that herbie is the fastest car and can beat everything!!!). Knowing my son he will plague these kids until they either punch him or agree just to shut him up! even then he will keep on! To us he has no understanding at all that the other kids need the teachers attention or that he should maybe try and do things. Our clinical psychologist said after a 2hr observation that he was settled the school were lovely with him but he was not engaging unless he had 1-1. Because of his language disorder he doesn't comprehend the tasks set even when physically shown he only just gets the basic concepts. Every time i go near school i am told he is really doing well and very settled i feel like i am making it all up and looking for problems. But what else can i do? If i don't go on and on saying something is wrong i feel that i am letting him down and not protecting him but if i do i feel like i live in a different world to the school and that i just make it all up i almost feel foolish. If they are saying everything is ok at school should i just leave it at that and cope at home and stop going on? So sorry for the length of this but i am totally lost...!

I am planning to become a size 10, grow my hair, lose the black eye bags, not drink too much wine and smile my hollywood smile at the world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you believe that you you'll believe anything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I'll stick to my comfy larger than a 10 clothes shoulder length hair black bags and wine!!!!!!!!!!!!! Cant take the stress of trying to change this year New years resolution......... make one next year!!!!!

My sons have all had to have blood taken at one time or another, its not nice but the pain is totally preventable if you ask for the EMLA cream. From my experiance the spray anaesthetic cream that you are often offered does not work so you have to stand your ground and insist on the EMLA. Mine just hated the fact that they had to sit still for 5mins having a nurse hold their arm. I often hide a pressie in my bag for after and tease them with it whilst they are having the blood taken! Takes their mind elsewhere!

thanks guys!!! today has been better thank goodness!!! i took all 3 +granny to our local farm shop. they have maze garden which my eldest loves and then we had hot choc in the cafe. he took his new digital camera and photographed everything & everyone!! the world through his eyes is so interesting! he notices so much! luckily the people who work there are lovely and all smiled and then had a look at their pics! I woke up dreading today but so far so good and the last day of the hols is going to be a nice memory for them all. no one has held grudges about yesterday thank goodness in fact they are having a good game of hide & seek now!(eldest ones rules though!!!)

Today we had a really really bad day! My son 6yrs(ASD SPD Learning dis) has had a terrible 24hrs. For want of a better expression he has climbed the walls with no let up for 24hrs!! I don't know why or what may have triggered this I am suspecting that it could be linked to the return to school on Thrsday. He has kicked and bitten my middley son who is 4yrs(NT) and attacked me all day. The bruises on my lovely little middle son are awful I obviously intervene constantly but any one who lives with 3 boys and autism knows that it would take superman to prevent the scuffles! At 6pm I insisted my eldest go and change for bed as a direct consequence of biting his brothers leg (badly). Well you can imagine..... The fireworks stopped when my husband came home at 7.15pm by which time i had wrapped my son in a blanket to try and keep his legs and arms still and away from my face etc! My middley was sat in his bed with my 2yr old watching a dvd he was really being so grown up for one of 4! When my husband took over with big son I went for a cuddle with my middley. I said that I was so sorry that he got hurt by his brother and that although it was wrong his brother couldn't really help it as he didn't understand about being good all of the time and sometimes got angry. He then quite matter of factly said will he still be naughty when he is a grown up? what will happen then? I inbetween tears said that I didn't know but maybe mummy will have to look after him when he is grown up and maybe he could help when he is a big man. Of course, he said! What a lot the siblings of autistic children have to cope with. How proud am I!