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Hi - my eldest son has a dx of Aspergers, although like Darky's he was dx with dyspraxia, semantic pragmatic disroder and traits for a long while. My youngest son has not been dx as yet but is going through the process, all involved are saying ADHD but as he gets older I am seeing more stuff I identify as being ASD so we have to wait and see on that one. Luv Witsend.

So sorry <'> Luv Witsend.

Hey - Hi Gordie - nice to see you again - have you been in hibernation? Luv Witsend.

Will probably get it right next time (Yes I know it's seven!!) Luv Witsend.

Hi Angel - you have done the right thing - and I appreciate how hard it must have been - good on you! I hope things start to improve soon Luv Witsend.

Hi Lynne - that's really good news. The words 'helpful' and 'LEA' don't often seem to go together do they? But just wanted to add that i have had some very low points with our LEA, tears, rows, standoffs the lot! (And that's just them ) But have made a huge effort in the past (and now) to keep 'lines of communication' open and eventually our LEA turned up trumps too. Can't beleive I'm saying it but have had reason over the past year to be really grateful to our LEA becasue they have listened and responded and acted on what we have said over complicated and upsetting times. I now feel I have we have a mutual respect that has come out of an acceptance that at times I've been wrong and at times they have. It's like a minor miracle isn't it? Luv Witsend.

That's good news RQ, hope things continue to progress well. Luv Witsend.

Hi - just wanted to say that all sounds fab!! Good for you! Luv Witsend.

It takes some time doesn't it? Good luck - hope you get further sooner rather than later Luv Witsend.

Hi Mel - I found the absolute key to Jay's success was tension...........in the laces, not in him, preferably! When doing the original knot, instead of wrapping it round once, wrap it round twice and it holds the knot firmer. Then, when he does the loop with one hand, with the other hand he used to hold the lace right at the end so it was really long and made a really loose loop with a lot of slack. I had to get him to move his hand right the way down so it was right at the base of the lace, giving as short a piece as possible to wrap around. That meant that there wasn't much slack when he pushed the loop through and it stayed tighter from the start. Can you follow that?! Right have had a glass (or two of wine right now, but I am quite sure these instructions will make perfect sense whe I re read them in the cold light of day tomorrow!! Cheers Luv Witsend.

Hi and welcome Luv Witsend.

Mel that is fabulous!! And I'm a bit envious here I have tried on and off for the past 7 years with trying to teach DS1 tying shoelaces to no avail!! Have to admit haven't tried for a while 'cos it's become like mission impossible and he's become kind of phobic about it (probs too much pressure in the past? ). We have made do with velcro for some time now . But now may give it another go Did you use visual aids (stuff OT gives you) and practice shoe thing? Or do you have your own method you'd care to share?? Would like to point out DS1 has started to make me cups of coffee now! They are usually one part coffee ten parts sugar five parts milk and the water isn't always necessarily that hot but Hey we're getting there!! Take care Luv Witsend.

Aww Bid - have just read this - what a stressfull day <'> <'> - you're a really caring person so I'm quite sure you're a lovely mum , give yourself a day off!! Luv Witsend.

Best of luck!! Luv Witsend.

Thank you - all of you <'> . Feel slightly better today, not the end of the world and all that! Maybe it wasn't meant to be eh - thanks again Luv Witsend.

Hi - didn't get the job feel pretty naff - off to hibernate for a while. Luv Witsend.

Hello Debbie - welcome to the forum - it's a weird time after diagnosis a mixture of relief upset and 'what now?' Just take a little time to let it all sink in and don't panic. I know after my son was diagnosed I expected all sorts of help etc to be offered - it wasn't! I was really just left to get on with it. I did a lot of reading around the subject and I joined this forum which has been invaluable in many ways. The professionals who will be involved with your son should be able to offer you advice and strategies for dealing with specific issues. There are usually support groups you can join locally if you want that. There are courses you can attend also. But your son is still your son and you will often know best how to deal with him becasue you know him the best and a lot of the guidance will end up coming from you to others IYSWIM? Sorry have to go now son due home any mo . But you are not stupid and you will get things sorted in time, take care, keep posting. Luv Witsend.

Fandabbydozee!! God am really showing my age now , that's really great Hev. Luv Witsend.

Thanks all of you <'> , have just finished for tonight preparing presentation, just finishing touches to do tomorrow night then will just want to get it over with . Will let you know how it goes on Thursday! Luv Witsend.

Now I don't want to go all Gwyneth Paltrow at the Oscars here but............I have to say this forum has been my lifeline (my rock! ) for so long now, I can always say stuff on here I can't say to anyone else because you all understand! Whenever I have good news or bad I feel compelled to share it all with you lot!! And even when I'm not posting I log on to find to find out what's happening in your lives . Right I'm welling up - 'nuff said..... Luv Witsend.

Hi Mumble - yes we have a fair old assortment of forgotten obsessions hangning around, they tend to get put under DS1's bed , none of us can bear to part with them (except the sock den of course ). Your new avvy is fabby btw. Luv Witsend.

Hi - have got a job interview on Thursday, have been slaving over the computer for the past 3 hours trying to get presentation sorted out! I am ridiculously nervous probs because I haven't had to do an interview in 11 years! It is for a job in the same place I work now but a much higher grade, it's a fab opportunity and lots more money . I agonised about applying 'cos it's also more responsibility and hours and I'm worried about how the boys will cope with it, as I'm their only parent but all around me think I should go for it, so here I am going for it!! Half of me desperately wants this the other half just wants to maintain the staus quo! Whatvever I still have to go on Thursday and do this ###### presentation just wish me luck!! Luv Witsend.

Lisa - your son is at a difficult age and you are all going thorugh a difficult time, it's no wonder you feel down <'> . Your doing all you can and there will be better days ahead at some point! I found the whole diagnosis/statementing/getting help and recognition thing a real rollercoaster, you have little triumphs then major setbacks and it wears you down. But you will find the strength to keep fighting 'cos you've no other option. Don't hold back on telling people (professionals) how hard it really is, I used to put a brave face on and act very professional in any meetings we had then I got to the point where I actually started telling it like it was, which involved crying and shouting at times quite embarrassing and not very me but suddenly 'they' started to take notice, listen and do something! Hang in there, Luv Witsend.

Good news Hev - Luv Witsend.

Bid - it's just a pleasure to read about how well Auriel is doing, , gives me hope for the future. Luv Witsend. PS His hair 'do' sounds wicked!