Enid Report post Posted June 29, 2008 Here we go again, but worst yet. J was eating his dinner, looking forward to DR WHO, after a lovely day with no problems, I popped into the garden to bring in the washing and he went!!!!! Its too long a story and am too worn down by it all but suffice to say he turned up an hour later at an isolated farmhouse and told them he had been abducted by 2 men! We had police and child protection officers here all night and all morning, then he said he had made it up but he dosnt no why or how he got there, there was no build up to it, he simply walked out of the house and only he knows what really happened nxt. The police said at least you may get some support now, they just rang me back an said SS said to them just refer him to cahms, been with them for years. anyone else had children behaving as bizzarely as this///?????? ENID Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
brooke Report post Posted June 29, 2008 Enid <'> <'> <'> <'> I dont know what to say you must be feeling I hope you can get the help you want and things get better Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suze Report post Posted June 29, 2008 <'> , my boy can do stuff, but he,s never really done anything like that.He went out once last summer (he has,nt been allowed to go off on his own since) to the shops on his bike about 1/2mile away to pick something up.He disappeared , then turned up 2 hrs later at a friends house, he,d met her son at the shops and gone off with him and his friends, ,despite the fact that I,d drummed into him to come straight back etc .It had made no difference and he just forgot, he did,nt realise how much time had passed etc.If I had,nt found him myself I have no idea how long he would have been. .............hope your o.k. enid, best wishes and hugs to you <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted June 29, 2008 oh god enid,i dont know what to say to that!!i bet you are exhausted today,has he spoke anymore about it today? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Enid Report post Posted June 29, 2008 Thanx all, he is not allowed to go out on his own Suze as like your son he has no idea of time and gets diverted, Hev he has told me today that he did get in a car as he wanted to go and see his godmother who lives two miles away, he knows like any other child not to get in a car with strangers, I am still in shock and there are things I cant tell you on here, I dont know where its all going to end, if the doors wer`nt locked tonight he may have done it again. Dreading tomorrow as police have obviously reported it SS, god know`s what they will make of it, perhaps now they will give me some help. Enid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pearl Report post Posted June 29, 2008 <'> Enid <'> so sorry this is happening. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Stella63 Report post Posted June 29, 2008 Hi Enid, I know its the wrong way of thinking about it - the worry and stress that he caused- but it could be that you will now get 'in the system' and if you get a decent social worker, you may now get some real help. We called ss when AJ was at his worst at xmas and we were at the point of throwing him out, they have been useful although I have to say they, like CAMHS, are limited by resources and funding etc. Since AJ was arrested earlier this year he is now under the youth justice people and part of what they offer is a parent support service which has been simply outstanding!!! I can honestly say that the lady who comes to see me (and, yes, she is there just to support ME!!) is so knowledgable about ADHD and AS and has given me some brilliant strategies as well as offering to support me in school with meetings with teachers. The sad thing is that I have been crying out for years for help with the kids and it had to reach this low before the right help was offered. Sorry, that sounds a bit bleak and I didn't mean it to! Stella x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Flora Report post Posted June 29, 2008 OMG Enid you must feel totally overwhelmed by this. It is time to receive help so really hope that SS can step in and you can get some help and support to work through these behaviours and difficulties. Meantime I guess all you can do is increase security and make sure your lad understands the VERY REAL dangers which getting in stranger's cars, etc can bring. I'm sure you've already gone through this with him. I wish I could offer you advice; but I think this is one of those situations where you are probably now way out of your depth and need some support and help of some kind. Really hope you can access this support. <'> Flora X Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hassleabe Report post Posted June 29, 2008 really hope you get some help ..... xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sooze2 Report post Posted June 29, 2008 <'> <'> <'> So sorry you are going through this, what a worry for you. I hope you hear from SS soon so they can give you some support. I hope you DS is ok too. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smiley Report post Posted June 29, 2008 Enid <'> You must be frazzled <'> Everything crossed that SS come up with something. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
soraya Report post Posted June 30, 2008 Oh honey you poor thing. Yes Nick used to act just like this, once when l was working he escaped from the house in his pj"s, he flagged down a car and told them his dad had fallen off his ladder and he needed to get to my work could they give him a lift!! He turned up at the restaurant where l work, had a huge meltdown and said he didnt know why he did it he just had to get out!!!Things like this happened all the time, he was better after he was put on medication. Hopefully things might get done now, I would go to your MP as SS dont want to know and say MY SON IS AT RISK PLEASE HELP. We did this and it got thing done. Sending lots of <'> <'> <'> Keep strong Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted June 30, 2008 Enid <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suze Report post Posted June 30, 2008 Honey <'> , I know that you probably can,t post up everything that has happened, just hope the police get to the bottom of it, hope your boy is o.k., and I,m praying the system will get you some support/help, best wishes , hugs suzex. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loobylou2 Report post Posted June 30, 2008 <'> Enid <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JsMum Report post Posted June 30, 2008 <'> oh No, I hope that he is ok, I know with Jay he finds it hard to seperate reality to fantasy and it maybe this he is getting extreamly mixed up, J talked about an incedent that it was so believable but it wasnt, deep down it was a real anxiety coming out, I got J specialist private help and he started art therapy, could you look into this at all, if the CAMHS are as helpful as they have been with regaurds your son, I wouldnt wait too long for specialist support for him. JsMum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oxgirl Report post Posted June 30, 2008 So sorry, Enid, you must be worried sick. <'> ~ Mel ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Enid Report post Posted June 30, 2008 Thanks all, it is reassuring to know that others do odd things like this! I am fed up as no one has yet rang to see how we are or if we are still alive!!! thought they would have been on phone first thing, he is already on medication so perhaps it needs reviewing. Have not got energy at mo to ring MP etc but will soon. Enid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bikemad Report post Posted June 30, 2008 Aaaawwwww im sorry to hear this-cant beleive they aint even rung to check yo are all ok!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Enid Report post Posted July 1, 2008 Just an update to say no one as is NO ONE has rang to see if we are ok, eg; GP, SS CAHMS disgusting isnt it? we are fine actually, till the next time, but they dont know that, do they Enid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pumpkinpie Report post Posted July 1, 2008 Have you thought about writng a letter of complaint to your local child protection safeguarding board , the police, ss education sit on them and to me this is a prime example of interagencys not working together Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sooze2 Report post Posted July 1, 2008 I don't beleive it. Will you phone them in the morning and chase it up? You could say you are both still really shaken up by the incident and you are now worried sick about what may happen next time, you havn't slept since and are a nervous wreck etc. How dare they not phone you! Have you phoned CHAMs? Personally I would be on the phone demanding a meeting ASAP. ALthough you have probably been through this before and know the drill which I haven't. I just feel angry on your behalf. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JsMum Report post Posted July 1, 2008 Just an update to say no one as is NO ONE has rang to see if we are ok, eg; GP, SS CAHMS disgusting isnt it? we are fine actually, till the next time, but they dont know that, do they Enid Enid its plain disgusting, I think things are going to need to be discussed with the services, the next time he might not be soo lucky, he is a vulnrable young person and he needs support in all areas of his health. What about youngminds could they advise you further, you and your family are been severly let down, you desperatly need support and your been ignored even when there is serious circumstances, I would urge you to write to your MP and complaints, its not fair on you and its certainly not fair on your son and your other children. Whats wrong with todays systems, there all running away from their responisbilities in fear they will be acountable to provide provisions. JsMum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
